Thursday Randoms

EliStar · August 2013

MrsJenE said:

84Lauren said:
I also censor myself online a lot. I don't like to argue or say anything conflicting. I don't always feel that strongly about most things, anyways.

BWAHAHAHAHAHA NOT.

I actually think that opening my big mouth on every possible occasion has become a defining characteristic... hmm, maybe I should take a page out of some of your books, lol!
Sometimes I can't put into words what I'm feeling, but I can usually count on you to say it for me.

Ditto. I'm glad your mouth is big

sassypants527 · August 2013

I used to wear heels all the time, but I can't at my current job because the floors are concrete covered with asphalt, and walking from my office to the furthest gallery is roughly 1/5 mile.

CeeCeeSugaPie · August 2013

Geekywife said:

SacGeoLover said:

Something posted earlier this week had me so riled up I had to check out for a few days. I'm mostly just proud of myself for not saying something I'd regret and just letting people live in their ignorance instead. I feel better about myself and it got me thinking that I really need to work on that kind of restraint in my personal life as well.

I wonder if the person who posted this knew that it would effect anyone that badly. If they do it again you may want to message them so they are aware they effected you so. I don't think anyone here would want to hurt anyone else on here.

Totally agree. I definitely wouldn't want to offend anyone on here if at all possible. I keep thinking, "Was it me? If so, I hope I don't mention whatever it was that was offensive again.".

SnShne322 · August 2013

CeeCeeSugaPie said:

Geekywife said:

SacGeoLover said:

Something posted earlier this week had me so riled up I had to check out for a few days. I'm mostly just proud of myself for not saying something I'd regret and just letting people live in their ignorance instead. I feel better about myself and it got me thinking that I really need to work on that kind of restraint in my personal life as well.

I wonder if the person who posted this knew that it would effect anyone that badly. If they do it again you may want to message them so they are aware they effected you so. I don't think anyone here would want to hurt anyone else on here.

Totally agree. I definitely wouldn't want to offend anyone on here if at all possible. I keep thinking, "Was it me? If so, I hope I don't mention whatever it was that was offensive again.".

I agree. If you are comfortable with it, it might be worth letting that person know. It's OK to have opinions on things, but I know that I would want to know if I said something that offended someone.

GreenBride624 · August 2013

SnShne322 said:

CeeCeeSugaPie said:

Geekywife said:

SacGeoLover said:

Something posted earlier this week had me so riled up I had to check out for a few days. I'm mostly just proud of myself for not saying something I'd regret and just letting people live in their ignorance instead. I feel better about myself and it got me thinking that I really need to work on that kind of restraint in my personal life as well.
I wonder if the person who posted this knew that it would effect anyone that badly. If they do it again you may want to message them so they are aware they effected you so. I don't think anyone here would want to hurt anyone else on here.
Totally agree. I definitely wouldn't want to offend anyone on here if at all possible. I keep thinking, "Was it me? If so, I hope I don't mention whatever it was that was offensive again.".
I agree. If you are comfortable with it, it might be worth letting that person know. It's OK to have opinions on things, but I know that I would want to know if I said something that offended someone.

This! (Cue: Paranoia)

I think a PM is a good way to let someone know in a less confrontational way than posting a public comment for everyone to read.

shellmh · August 2013

SnShne322 said:

CeeCeeSugaPie said:

Geekywife said:

SacGeoLover said:

Something posted earlier this week had me so riled up I had to check out for a few days. I'm mostly just proud of myself for not saying something I'd regret and just letting people live in their ignorance instead. I feel better about myself and it got me thinking that I really need to work on that kind of restraint in my personal life as well.

I wonder if the person who posted this knew that it would effect anyone that badly. If they do it again you may want to message them so they are aware they effected you so. I don't think anyone here would want to hurt anyone else on here.

Totally agree. I definitely wouldn't want to offend anyone on here if at all possible. I keep thinking, "Was it me? If so, I hope I don't mention whatever it was that was offensive again.".

I agree. If you are comfortable with it, it might be worth letting that person know. It's OK to have opinions on things, but I know that I would want to know if I said something that offended someone.

Ditto!

pinkybooklover09 · August 2013

I love that you all would want to know if you said something that may have offended someone, but what if the thing you said wasn't intended to be offensive? What if the thing you said in your mind was the furthest thing from offensive?

Someone calling you out or implying your offensiveness might cause you to become defensive and huffy. So, I think SGL is making the right call here on not saying anything to the person. It's not worth opening up a can of worms, especially if that person is considered a well liked "popular" member of the board.

Lauren620 · August 2013

pinkybooklover09 said:

I love that you all would want to know if you said something that may have offended someone, but what if the thing you said wasn't intended to be offensive? What if the thing you said in your mind was the furthest thing from offensive?

Someone calling you out or implying your offensiveness might cause you to become defensive and huffy. So, I think SGL is making the right call here on not saying anything to the person. It's not worth opening up a can of worms, especially if that person is considered a well liked "popular" member of the board.

If you don't want to tell the person what they said to offend you, why bring it up at all then?

SnShne322 · August 2013

I don't think SacGeoLover needs to tell us all who it is, regardless of our curiosity. However, if it were me that offended, I certainly would appreciate a PM asking me about it so we can talk. Especially since it sounds like it's known that the intention was likely not meant to offend. I'm sure a civil discussion could happen with a number of people on this board before it turning in to anything uncomfortable.

That said, @SacGeoLover can certainly keep it to herself. It's her prerogative.

pinkybooklover09 · August 2013

It was a random post...that's probably why she brought it up.

I think it's easy to say you wouldn't be offended or you would be up for a civil discussion in a hypothetical situation. Quite another when it's actually you who said something that offended someone else and are called out on it.

EliStar · August 2013

I'm annoyed that we will never know the answer to this riddle.

I need to know ALL THE THINGS.

SacGeoLover · August 2013

....And now I feel bad for saying anything. I am absolutely positive that the person in question meant nothing offensive whatsoever, so all of you stop wondering. No one did anything wrong.

My point was that I've been reacting in a not so healthy way to certain things in my life right now and that it was good for me to take a step back, put things into perspective, and not need to react to things that push my buttons- whether intentional or not. The situation just reminded me that I just need to step out and calm down sometimes rather than saying whatever rude thing is on my mind at the moment.

pinkybooklover09 · August 2013

@SacGeoLover

I have nothing but respect for that. Self awareness is your friend. :-)

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