How long???

catsareniice1 · August 2013

How long did you date your spouse before marrying? I dated my ex husband for two and a half years before tying the knot. An aunt of mine said I married him too soon. Thoughts?

catsareniice1 · August 2013

She said part of the reason I ended up divorcing is because I didn't get to know him long enough.I say we divorced because he ended up being a douche.

JemmaWRX · August 2013

We dated for 8 years but I was 17 when we met. I sure as shit wasn't ready 2 years in but my age/maturity level was the big factor there.

I think your Aunt needs to mind her business. What does she really know about your marriage?

moonprincessd · August 2013

We dated 1 year and got engaged. We just knew. We were perfect for each other. However, we had a 2 year engagement, I was still in school and I wanted to wait till I graduated. He was okay with that. So it was technically 3 years before we got married. We lived together before hand though and after marriage, nothing changed. I still can't believe we're married sometimes, lol!

PrincessVegan · August 2013

Getting to know each other takes different amount of time/experiences depending on the people, doesn't it? Your aunt may have a point, but it's not directly related to the amount of time you dated.

smbenevides1989 · August 2013

I dated my H for 4 years before we got married this July. It all depends on how you know the person and how they treat you.

SmrBrd2012 · August 2013

I was with my H for 6 years before we tied the knot. Like PPs are saying, everyone is different. I think part of it depends on your age/maturity level/where you are in your life.

R.Wilsonny · August 2013

I dated my H for 7 years before we got engaged, then it was about another year before we actually had the wedding. We've been married for 2 years now. Even though I knew for quite a while that I wanted to spend my life with him, I am happy that we took our time and waited for as long as we did. We've been through a lot together, including moving to Spain and living there for a while, and when we came back, it was like starting over from zero, so it was better that we didn't rush into marriage when we were having so many life changes happening.

Everyone is different, but I do think that people should date for a long time and not rush into marriage. I've had friends who got married after dating for less than a year and the relationships didn't work out.

happyfor25 · August 2013

My husband and I got married 8 months after we met. We have been married for 25 years! I think you're right and your ex was just a douche.

amandamarie2 · August 2013

We dated for 2 1/2 years before we got engaged and were engaged for 8 months before our wedding. I think it totally depends on the people involved and there's no right amount of time.

R.Wilsonny · August 2013

happyfor25 said:

My husband and I got married 8 months after we met. We have been married for 25 years! I think you're right and your ex was just a douche.

I stand corrected with my earlier statement - congrats on 25 years

catsareniice1 · August 2013

Interesting reading everyone's stories. I agree the longer the better in many cases but the bottom line is getting to know the person you are with well. You need to see how they handle situations and make sure you have key things in common.

PnkBride · August 2013

Every couple is different. Our first date was a blind date and we were married 3 months later. We have been married 31 years. He is my best friend and as sappy as it sounds, I love him more every day.

MrsS728 · August 2013

We met in 2008, moved in together 2009, engaged 2011, married 2012, house 2013. After 4 1/2 years we knew each other in and out. BUT we also agreed that we wouldn't live together before a year and if after 3 years either one of us was unsure we'd let him/her go.

brij2006 · August 2013

We dated for 8 years before getting married. However, we started dating when I was 16 and he was 18.

sillygoosegirl · August 2013

We dated for a little more than 2 years before getting engaged, and then were engaged for another 2 years before getting married. We've been married 8 years now.

If I was doing it over, I wouldn't wait as long. It doesn't take that long to know if someone is right or not, and waiting isn't going to fix it if it isn't right in the first place.

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