Advice? Help?

nberg89 · August 2013

My husband and I have been together five and a half years and we got married in June. We waited a few months but have recently decided to start trying to have a baby. I had started my period August 16th and when it came time to start my new pack of birth control pills the 25th I didn't. I am trying to learn the ovulation schedule and how it works and I think I am right in the time frame to get pregnant, but I know it's only my first month trying and it doesn't usually happen immediately. I started taking prenatal vitamins two weeks ago on top of my regular women's vitamins.

Do you think I have good chances this month? Any advice on how to conceive? Anything I shouldn't eat or drink? Thank you all so much!

caseyandlizzie · August 2013

Have the sex....that typically produces a baby.

amccul20 · August 2013

I would suggest reading the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility.

good luck!

Panderp · August 2013

Oh man. Learn the ovulation schedule is awesome.

LooneyLife · August 2013

Panderp said:

Oh man. Learn the ovulation schedule is awesome.

Is that anything like a bus schedule? Because I've never been good at reading those. Hmm, maybe that's why I'm not pregnant.

spongebobsquarepanties · August 2013

If you would like to learn about your body and when it is ovulating, I would suggest you check out the Fertility Friend website. Basically, you have to take your temperature every day when you wake up, mat the same time, using a basal body temperature thermometer. It Charting your temperatures and cervical mucus (which you will learn about on fertility friend)is the only re real way to know when and if you ovulate. It isn't like what people say, that we ovulate 14 days before the period. Anyways, Fertiluty Friend will teach you what you need to know about that. Once you know when you are ovulating, you will see the signs before hand and can plan your sex so that it is in your fertile windiwow. As for this month, nobody here will be able to tell you. The only way to know would be by diagnosing your chart.

CincodeMayoLove · August 2013

Sponge is right. But in the meantime, just have fun and don't worry about anything for a couple months! If you're "late" take a home pg test. If + smile and celebrate. If - wait a week for period or retest. Repeat until (+), period or 4 weeks late and call doc. Good luck!

spongebobsquarepanties · August 2013

I agree with cinco. Give yourself some time to just enjoy TTC, and maybe youwill be lucky. Don't rush in to worrying about those things at first.

seahorse01 · August 2013

caseyandlizzie said:

Have the sex....that typically produces a baby.

Yep- agree with this. Have the sex with your husband on the regular, wait a few weeks and pee on a stick. I generally ovulate on the 15 day of my cycle, but everybody is different.

GoodWolf · August 2013

You should probably avoid cocaine.

GoodWolf · August 2013

In all seriousness -

I don't think you need to take a prenatal on top of a regular vitamin.

TCOYF is a great source of info on all things TTC related.

It takes time to regulate your periods after coming off of birth control.

You may not ovulate for weeks or months (depending on your body). You also may get KTFU right away.

Other than that, these ladies are right -- enjoy!

nberg89 · August 2013

The mocking of some of the people on here is sad. Seriously, if you don't like my questions then don't "answer" and by schedule I simply meant, when ovulation typically occurs. I'm not stupid but I know nothing of pregnancy and was looking for some advice. Thank you to those of you who didn't mock me and gave me help!

nberg89 · August 2013

nberg89 · August 2013

spongebobsquarepanties said:

If you would like to learn about your body and when it is ovulating, I would suggest you check out the Fertility Friend website. Basically, you have to take your temperature every day when you wake up, mat the same time, using a basal body temperature thermometer. It Charting your temperatures and cervical mucus (which you will learn about on fertility friend)is the only re real way to know when and if you ovulate. It isn't like what people say, that we ovulate 14 days before the period. Anyways, Fertiluty Friend will teach you what you need to know about that. Once you know when you are ovulating, you will see the signs before hand and can plan your sex so that it is in your fertile windiwow. As for this month, nobody here will be able to tell you. The only way to know would be by diagnosing your chart.

Thank you!

nberg89 · August 2013

GoodWolf said:

In all seriousness -
I don't think you need to take a prenatal on top of a regular vitamin.
TCOYF is a great source of info on all things TTC related.
It takes time to regulate your periods after coming off of birth control.
You may not ovulate for weeks or months (depending on your body). You also may get KTFU right away.
Other than that, these ladies are right -- enjoy!

Thank you

ecinereb · August 2013

If you have no reason to suspect a problem then just have lots of sex and hopefully it'll happen easily for you.

Take a prenatal vitamin but you don't need to take both.

If you want more information read TCOYF or get on FertilityFriend and learn more about your body and cycle. Everyone's different you could be regular right away or it might take your body some time.

There are lots of girls here that have been trying for a while and have the right to be a bit snarky when new people come in just to ask if they are pg their first month trying.

CincodeMayoLove · August 2013

The snark is legitimate I considered is, but am too depressed to be mean right now. No yelling at us old folks or you'll be kicked out. The thing is, you should probably google before asking 1st month questions or you'll sound dumb. We support educated questions. I and a couple others threw you a bone, but don't yell at my girls who didn't.

cinderin · August 2013

if you really want - you could do every other day sex. up to you.

i would just have sex regularly for the first month or two unless you really want to get more "scientific" about it. if you do, you will want to read TCOYF (as was suggested previously). it is definitely an interesting read if you like things like that.

ream02 · August 2013

FYI, it took me 10 months and extremely irregular cycles after stopping BCP to get pg. Take only your prenatal. It has everything you need. Sometimes too much of some of the vitamins can be a bad thing.

Definitely take SBSP advice and use Fertility Friend to chart, learn temping and monitoring your CM. It was the only way I knew when I ovulated due to long cycles.

Good luck!

Panderp · August 2013

@nberg89 I'm a sad, sad person. And you better be able to laugh at yourself, kid.

BruinsBabe33 · August 2013

nberg89 said:
The mocking of some of the people on here is sad. Seriously, if you don't like my questions then don't "answer" and by schedule I simply meant, when ovulation typically occurs. I'm not stupid but I know nothing of pregnancy and was looking for some advice. Thank you to those of you who didn't mock me and gave me help!

Don't take yourself so seriously. You will learn, if you stick around and want to be part of this community that the ladies here are sarcastic, funny, and blunt. You are new in this process take a chill pill have some sex see what works for you. If in a couple of months you want to start charting and such, do so. It's a big step, it can be stressful, you're going to go a little crazy probably so learn to laugh at yourself. That helped me a lot.

islandmonkey8 · August 2013

Please don't take two multivitamins a day. Some of the things in them should not be overdosed on. As other ladies have said. You're new at this, relax. Have sex. Pee on sticks to your hearts content. No one here can tell you when you may O. Example... I don't ovulate. Therefore, for me typical ovulation doesn't exist. Good luck.

sweetpotato123 · August 2013

@nberg89- I don't necessarily think the snark is uncalled for. The ladies here are absolutely wonderful, but are a certainly a close knit community that give support as they get. Many of us have been trying for years without success, so please keep in mind that the snark you may receive comes from our frustrations and personal struggles (not that I want to speak for everyone). I do find some "intro" posts to be a bit troublesome based on my own challenges. Please use FF and TCOYF and I wish you the best of luck. Fingers crossed your journey is short.

MRads · August 2013

I don't even know your name and you expect us to know your O schedule. Almost makes me feel like you think I get around. If somebody asks you tips for conceiving and your first thought isn't "have sex", well, that just doesn't compute in my mind.

I would try sex first. If that doesn't work, try walnuts.

sweetpotato123 · August 2013

@Mrads- And yams, right? I heard that works!

MRads · August 2013

Seriously, pp have given good advice. It's absurd to ask us if we think you have a good chance this month. Statistically speaking, you have a 20% chance of getting pregnant any given month. But we have no idea what your cycles are like. For me, I have regular cycles - every 25-28 days. But I O late and have an extremely short LP. If so went by 14 day O, Id miss it every time. After you've done some googling and education for yourself, come back with more specific questions and you'll get better, more specific answers.

Panderp · August 2013

I just want to be clear- none of my snark comes from frustrations of personal struggles. It just comes natural to me. I am gifted.

thecuddleeffect · August 2013

sweetpotato123 said:

@Mrads- And yams, right? I heard that works!

Only if you want twins!! Or so I've been told multiple multiple times! Ugh.

nberg89 · August 2013

I'm sorry if I cam across as yelling, it's hard to tell with text versus actually hearing someone. I don't want to be a joke. It was honest questions. I'm definitely doing my reading. I just want to make sure I don't do anything damaging. I already have endometriosis and I develop cysts frequently, some small some large. My last cyst was 4 inches in diameter and had to be surgically removed. So I guess I'm nervous and a little scared. And of course the few friends I've mentioned me wanting to get pregnant to, have thought I was stupid because I'm "only 24." Anyway I do appreciate everyone's kind words and advice.

spongebobsquarepanties · August 2013

If you are already diagnosed with some fertility issues, I think it is quite important to read fertility friend and start charting. It may help you to understand what is going on with your body and you won't be wondering if you're pregnant every month. Your cycles may vbe very diferent from 'normal'. Anyways, take some time to observe the board, learn a little and see if this is a group you would like to belong to.

Panderp · August 2013

If you have issues-- have you thought about having a chat with your OB? To ask them your questions and express concerns you might have? The process of conceiving is fairly personal. You can start out of the gate with timed intercourse, charting OPKs, etc or breed the way crafty genital folks do it-- have the sex and have the sex frequently and see what happens.

If you stick around long enough, you'll realize that lots of people that didn't "learn the ovulation schedule" (I will always use this, and you should laugh. That shit is hilarious) and/or have half a brain got pregnant and have babies. Breeders do it all day, erryday. GPM is proof

It sounds like you're an eager beaver (that, or you have one) and so it may help you unwind a bit by chatting with your doctor about what the best plan moving forward for you is.

In any event, you're a whole half a minute off of the pill. Even people who don't have issues take a few months to learn their ovulation schedules.

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