When did you tell your parents?

Madisonpenny · September 2012

We haven't told anyone. We both feel that it would just add to the pressure and if we didn't end up pregnant within a year or so people will begin to "feel" sorry for us.

nitabita82 · March 2013

We haven't told our parents that we are TTC yet. I just don't know how or when to even tell my mom. Our daughter is 5 years old and we feel as though she needs a sibling to play with. She is the one that keeps asking for a brother and sister for almost two years. I think I would tell my mother after I found out that I was pregnant.

von1976 · April 2013

My husband can't keep a secret AT ALL, so we basically told all of our close friends and family right away. It was really awkward when all of his friends asked around the time my period was due if there was any news...

I basically told them we'd let them know if there were any "developments", so I hope they don't ask again.

anssett · June 2013

I guess we're a bit unique. We've told everyone we're going to start TTC soon. I've wanted babies since I was 17 (I'm 32 now). I've been one of those baby-crazy women FOREVER. He's been vocal through his 20's and 30's that someday he'd definitely want kids. Now we're married and everyone knows we're prepping to TTC. My friends, boss, our families, etc. We also know this could take a while. If they pester us, we'll deal with it then.

lmoulton30 · June 2013

We told our parents we were trying a little after janurary once i got off the pill....until then we have been trying...but i think since i was on the pill for more then 10years my body has to get back into a regular routine before my body will llet me get pregnant...taking it one day at a time..once a year of ttc pass my hubby and i will get tested...my mom been through this when she was younger...so i can kind of relate with her with problems in getting pregnant and with my mother in law as well..

But we keep them in the post for things we think they need to know or questions i need answering...but its hard to talk to your mom about something like this...im hopeing soon we will be able to have kids...i am 31 and would like two kids before i am 40..so we will let it happen for a year and then we will get some help..right now it has been 5 months.

What kind of remeidies can you take to help you get prengnant? and are the nutral vitiamins that they list on the internet ok to take that help you get pregnant? also i heard not so good stuff on the drug clumid...

ewill7911 · July 2013

We get a lot of "When are you going to get pregnant" and the like from both sides of the family- mostly in-laws. I dont think we will tell anyone, and probably be like my sister with waiting until the 3 month mark to announce it.

CFarrar1992 · September 2013

I didn't tell anyone except my best friend that we were trying. It took us 4 months of actively ttc, and we told people we had been trying once we knew (for sure) that we were pregnant. We miscarried our twins around the 12 week mark, and since then we haven't tried again yet. We've been married for close to a year and we won't be ttc again until Spring 2014 at the earliest. I miscarried in late Winter of 2012. I figure giving it two years is best for us.

cinderin · September 2013

We didnt tell any family. I kind of hinted to my mom that we were thinking of ttc soon. Dh kind of hinted to his dad. I told my BFF we were going to start ttc but wasn't specific about when.

To me, telling people you are ttc (especially at the start) just makes me think of the couple having sex a lot. Which is pretty personal. Jmo.

MadeOfAwesome · September 2013

WHY does this post keep popping up? It's from 2012, y'all.

frizby · September 2013

As I see my old comment I realize how old this thread is. Oye

CincodeMayoLove · September 2013

They knew we wanted to be parents from the get go, but since I was in school still our first 3 years, they didn't know we were not not trying then. Then after graduation we always talked about how my job was set up for easy scheduling when we got a baby, how we got our house for the extra rooms for a baby, and my car (actually the past 3 cars ive purchased) with the thought to make sure i could fit my pups and a car seat in there.

Then after a year of those I said "okay it's not happening for us, so it would be nice if you didn't ask and just trust that we will tell you when it happens"

My parents just appreciate when I give them updates "going in for treatments again" etc, but don't require details. My nosey ass mother in law, i go through phases of not answering except "we're still on a break" or the other day I thoroughly described the IVF cycle and here eyes were as big as dinner plates so I don't think she'll be asking again any time soon.

In short, I keep them in the loop, but don't tell them everything. And never tell them until after we've begun.

Aimothy · September 2013

Because the stoopid runs deep with some. They can't read the date of the OP. It's like back on the old format when that stupid "Introduce yourself" here post kept popping up and making me insane at all the old people who bounced after getting KU.

CincodeMayoLove · September 2013

DOH! I thought that sounded familiar, but you know... This question does get asked a lot and I was stalling from doing my paperwork.

islandmonkey8 · September 2013

I think the best part of this post showing up and getting random people's responses is that the original poster's siggy clearly makes her 50+ weeks KU.

DangerMuffin23 · September 2013

I know. I was so confused. I almost called out these random people that were just posting willy nilly. Guess they got KU since then and split.

cinderin · September 2013

if you are posting on your phone, you can't see siggies and such, so it isn't as clear it is an old post.

callitcompulsive · September 2013

MadeOfAwesome said:

WHY does this post keep popping up? It's from 2012, y'all.

Silly me thought the new format would prohibit thread necromancing. Phew, thank goodness it can still happen.
8-|

ILoveRedVino · September 2013

I think this thread comes up in a google search of "when to tell parents you're TTC." So someone looks that up, and gets directed here.

amccul20 · September 2013

We're rolling on 2 years of TTC and I haven't shared our issues with my family. My DH's parents know because my husband works for the family business and we needed to tell them before starting IVF.

I hate it when people ask questions and when you give them am inch some people take a mile and I don't have patience for people like that so I only share w a limited group of people.

Aimothy · September 2013

cinderin said:
if you are posting on your phone, you can't see siggies and such, so it isn't as clear it is an old post.

Except that its date/timed stamped on each post. Even on the mobile.

MrsS728 · September 2013

My mom knows I have PCOS and we want to start trying butshe doesnt know about dh sperm count test yesterday. My mil doesnt know anything bc she has a bit of a big mouth.

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