Ugh I am so tired and just want my bed today! Want to play a game?
Hmm... what did you have in mind?
I don't know many...does anyone have any ideas? The only one I can think of is the one where you name a book and the next person needs to use the last letter in the title to come up with a new book...
I will be ready to avoid work this afternoon!! I was in a pesky meeting this morning and have a few things to wrap up and then I'll be ready to check out for the day \:D/
I will be ready to avoid work this afternoon!! I was in a pesky meeting this morning and have a few things to wrap up and then I'll be ready to check out for the day \:D/
So, this doesn't warrant it's own post, so I thought I'd throw it in here for some opinions.
I'm lucky that I'm close with my family and J is really close with my brother and BIL. Every other week, the guys get together for dinner and drinks. In the off weeks, I get together with my sister and SIL for the same. Well, it's getting to a point that it's becoming really expensive. I mean, we can afford it, but we don't really want to because we have savings goals that have been really hard to meet this year with the new kid and it's really important to us. It's also important to J and I to have wiggle room to actually have dinner with the two of us. That never happens anymore because of the amount we eat out with others.
I want to let them know that I will be coming for drinks, but skipping dinner. We can swing the $15-20 bucks for the drinks regularly, but doubling or tripling that each week to include dinner isn't going to work. I know I technically don't have to explain myself to them, but money is a weird topic for us. Not sensitive or anything, but it's not discussed. Weird, I know.
What do you think? I also hate giving "excuses". I might just have to, but I still hate it. I realize I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, but like I said, money is weird with us.
So, this doesn't warrant it's own post, so I thought I'd throw it in here for some opinions.
I'm lucky that I'm close with my family and J is really close with my brother and BIL. Every other week, the guys get together for dinner and drinks. In the off weeks, I get together with my sister and SIL for the same. Well, it's getting to a point that it's becoming really expensive. I mean, we can afford it, but we don't really want to because we have savings goals that have been really hard to meet this year with the new kid and it's really important to us. It's also important to J and I to have wiggle room to actually have dinner with the two of us. That never happens anymore because of the amount we eat out with others.
I want to let them know that I will be coming for drinks, but skipping dinner. We can swing the $15-20 bucks for the drinks regularly, but doubling or tripling that each week to include dinner isn't going to work. I know I technically don't have to explain myself to them, but money is a weird topic for us. Not sensitive or anything, but it's not discussed. Weird, I know.
What do you think? I also hate giving "excuses". I might just have to, but I still hate it. I realize I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, but like I said, money is weird with us.
Just let them know you want to cut back on your spending in order to meet your goals. I don't think that's an 'excuse' and they should be supportive of that. They might even think of alternative activities that you guys can do instead.
I recently cut out eating out all together and let my coworkers/friends know it was a goal of mine for that month. They were really supportive and it got them to cut back as well. it became fun to see what sorts of creative lunches we could come up with for work.
So, this doesn't warrant it's own post, so I thought I'd throw it in here for some opinions.
I'm lucky that I'm close with my family and J is really close with my brother and BIL. Every other week, the guys get together for dinner and drinks. In the off weeks, I get together with my sister and SIL for the same. Well, it's getting to a point that it's becoming really expensive. I mean, we can afford it, but we don't really want to because we have savings goals that have been really hard to meet this year with the new kid and it's really important to us. It's also important to J and I to have wiggle room to actually have dinner with the two of us. That never happens anymore because of the amount we eat out with others.
I want to let them know that I will be coming for drinks, but skipping dinner. We can swing the $15-20 bucks for the drinks regularly, but doubling or tripling that each week to include dinner isn't going to work. I know I technically don't have to explain myself to them, but money is a weird topic for us. Not sensitive or anything, but it's not discussed. Weird, I know.
What do you think? I also hate giving "excuses". I might just have to, but I still hate it. I realize I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, but like I said, money is weird with us.
Just let them know you want to cut back on your spending in order to meet your goals. I don't think that's an 'excuse' and they should be supportive of that. They might even think of alternative activities that you guys can do instead.
I recently cut out eating out all together and let my coworkers/friends know it was a goal of mine for that month. They were really supportive and it got them to cut back as well. it became fun to see what sorts of creative lunches we could come up with for work.
Whenever this happens, I just tell my friends I'm on a budget and that we're cutting back on spending. I think that's a perfectly understandable explanation.
So, this doesn't warrant it's own post, so I thought I'd throw it in here for some opinions.
I'm lucky that I'm close with my family and J is really close with my brother and BIL. Every other week, the guys get together for dinner and drinks. In the off weeks, I get together with my sister and SIL for the same. Well, it's getting to a point that it's becoming really expensive. I mean, we can afford it, but we don't really want to because we have savings goals that have been really hard to meet this year with the new kid and it's really important to us. It's also important to J and I to have wiggle room to actually have dinner with the two of us. That never happens anymore because of the amount we eat out with others.
I want to let them know that I will be coming for drinks, but skipping dinner. We can swing the $15-20 bucks for the drinks regularly, but doubling or tripling that each week to include dinner isn't going to work. I know I technically don't have to explain myself to them, but money is a weird topic for us. Not sensitive or anything, but it's not discussed. Weird, I know.
What do you think? I also hate giving "excuses". I might just have to, but I still hate it. I realize I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, but like I said, money is weird with us.
Just let them know you want to cut back on your spending in order to meet your goals. I don't think that's an 'excuse' and they should be supportive of that. They might even think of alternative activities that you guys can do instead.
I recently cut out eating out all together and let my coworkers/friends know it was a goal of mine for that month. They were really supportive and it got them to cut back as well. it became fun to see what sorts of creative lunches we could come up with for work.
Whenever this happens, I just tell my friends I'm on a budget and that we're cutting back on spending. I think that's a perfectly understandable explanation.
It is, and it's likely the way I'll explain it. It feels like there's a little bit of unspoken competition about money among my siblings. We don't really talk about it, so we don't know each others salaries, but from comments I've heard it just feels like there might be some weird feelings about spending habits. The Nest adage of how other people spend their money shouldn't matter to you doesn't appear to extend to my family. I love them, but money gets weird.
So, this doesn't warrant it's own post, so I thought I'd throw it in here for some opinions.
I'm lucky that I'm close with my family and J is really close with my brother and BIL. Every other week, the guys get together for dinner and drinks. In the off weeks, I get together with my sister and SIL for the same. Well, it's getting to a point that it's becoming really expensive. I mean, we can afford it, but we don't really want to because we have savings goals that have been really hard to meet this year with the new kid and it's really important to us. It's also important to J and I to have wiggle room to actually have dinner with the two of us. That never happens anymore because of the amount we eat out with others.
I want to let them know that I will be coming for drinks, but skipping dinner. We can swing the $15-20 bucks for the drinks regularly, but doubling or tripling that each week to include dinner isn't going to work. I know I technically don't have to explain myself to them, but money is a weird topic for us. Not sensitive or anything, but it's not discussed. Weird, I know.
What do you think? I also hate giving "excuses". I might just have to, but I still hate it. I realize I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, but like I said, money is weird with us.
Just let them know you want to cut back on your spending in order to meet your goals. I don't think that's an 'excuse' and they should be supportive of that. They might even think of alternative activities that you guys can do instead.
I recently cut out eating out all together and let my coworkers/friends know it was a goal of mine for that month. They were really supportive and it got them to cut back as well. it became fun to see what sorts of creative lunches we could come up with for work.
Whenever this happens, I just tell my friends I'm on a budget and that we're cutting back on spending. I think that's a perfectly understandable explanation.
I think these are some good suggestions. My advice is to also make sure that J is on the same page with guys' night so no ones feelings are hurt.
Maybe you could start doing the meals at each other's houses? Take turns hosting... either somebody makes the whole meal, or different people are responsible for different things each time? Then the fancy people could be all about bringing some exotic appetizer or expensive wine, but you're cooking chicken parm, and it's delicious, and looks pretty, but doesn't cost that much.... Or if people take turns with the whole meal, it should average out b/c then you're getting free dinners.
Maybe you could start doing the meals at each other's houses? Take turns hosting... either somebody makes the whole meal, or different people are responsible for different things each time? Then the fancy people could be all about bringing some exotic appetizer or expensive wine, but you're cooking chicken parm, and it's delicious, and looks pretty, but doesn't cost that much.... Or if people take turns with the whole meal, it should average out b/c then you're getting free dinners.
I would absolutely love this idea. The only trick is that we go out to dinner because we don't live close enough to each others houses to do it on a week night. We meet in the middle. I honestly wish it was on the weekend. Doing anything on a week night these days feels like such a challenge.
Why not make the suggestion to do it once a month and rotate through the various sibling houses?
I like this idea too!
My siblings can't go out very often, so I end up having people over to my house pretty regularly. I love having people over, but I hate having to clean up after everyone all the time. Sometimes it's nice to go out somewhere and not have to deal with planning and cleaning.
ha ha-my mom just called me because she's cleaning out my old room and she found some of my old test papers and finals from when I was in college. She wanted to know if I wanted them for any reason or if she could just toss them out. I told her I was all set )
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Re: NBR: I'm so bored
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I'm lucky that I'm close with my family and J is really close with my brother and BIL. Every other week, the guys get together for dinner and drinks. In the off weeks, I get together with my sister and SIL for the same. Well, it's getting to a point that it's becoming really expensive. I mean, we can afford it, but we don't really want to because we have savings goals that have been really hard to meet this year with the new kid and it's really important to us. It's also important to J and I to have wiggle room to actually have dinner with the two of us. That never happens anymore because of the amount we eat out with others.
I want to let them know that I will be coming for drinks, but skipping dinner. We can swing the $15-20 bucks for the drinks regularly, but doubling or tripling that each week to include dinner isn't going to work. I know I technically don't have to explain myself to them, but money is a weird topic for us. Not sensitive or anything, but it's not discussed. Weird, I know.
What do you think? I also hate giving "excuses". I might just have to, but I still hate it. I realize I'm making a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be, but like I said, money is weird with us.
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It is, and it's likely the way I'll explain it. It feels like there's a little bit of unspoken competition about money among my siblings. We don't really talk about it, so we don't know each others salaries, but from comments I've heard it just feels like there might be some weird feelings about spending habits. The Nest adage of how other people spend their money shouldn't matter to you doesn't appear to extend to my family. I love them, but money gets weird.
#wayoverthinkingthis
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