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After work drinks?
I work on a team with government civies and contractors, with the end of furlough everyone is invited out to meet for drinks next Friday to celebrate. I am fairly new to my team (less then 6 months) and its an open invitation BUT I dont really like my co-workers and it seems like every time there is something going on I get an invite as a (insert sing-song voice) "um did you want to come too?" and sometimes I do but usually I just dont want to. Do you think I will look stuck up or snobbish if I just politely say I cant make it or say I will try to make it but just not show up (Ive done that before and then I get 20 Q's of why I wasnt there, when Im 100% sure they didnt care).
I have worked on teams in the past where I connected much better, I dont think its a time on the job thing - I just dont think Im compatible socially with my co-workers... is this strange?
I have worked on teams in the past where I connected much better, I dont think its a time on the job thing - I just dont think Im compatible socially with my co-workers... is this strange?
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Re: After work drinks?
ditto!
I DID go, in case you did not read the post above yours. No one that invited me or goes decides my advancements- that lies with my manager. As a contractor I work on a team with many other people and each of us reports to someone different, so none of those people can affect my career. This is not my first job, I even mentioned in my original post that I had a better connection at passed jobs with my co-workers.
I read that you did attend but that you won't be going in the future. I continue to believe that's a mistake. Your managers know who goes to these things. (Trust me as a manager I know who goes) Those people are considered team players.
As a young employee I went to these things faithfully even though I hated them. I got all the good assigments & better raises than my colleagues. Those connections networked me into better jobs & taught me networking skills. I have networked my way into some amazing opportunities just by showing up. Skip these future events at your own peril.
I am on the same page with you! I work in a small office so it's the business owner, me, & one other employee. She's old enough to be my mom, and a very nice lady - however she doesn't keep up with her work, has a terrible attitude at work, is always rude and talks down to me since I'm much younger. It makes for a really awkward work environment but I try to make nice to keep the "TEAM" working.
She frequently invites me to outside-of-the-office events, and I always decline. I DO NOT think it's necessary to have a friendship with your coworkers in order to have good natured work relationships. So long as you're not acting poorly to your coworkers in the workplace there shouldn't be a problem.
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