What is "offensive " long

Re: What is "offensive " long

• nfp147 member

  

  September 2013

  ILoveRedVino said:

  Honestly, I've been in both places and not in the normal order. I get it. It is hard to be a part of conversations without there being the "elephant in the room." The second you are pregnant, you aren't infertile anymore. It changes things. You can offer support, but it's different. It is being sympathetic, but not understanding. I mean, even if you had a battle to get pregnant, that changes the second the second line shows up. It's just different. Bruins has done a really good job, as did caseyandlizzie, mrads, thedeatons, and probably others who I am forgetting. But that isn't the norm. I love it when grads stick around. But I do understand the hesitancy.

  Oh, yes, I forgot @mrads.  Another one to teach the BFP etiquette course.

  

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• lb1117 member

  

  September 2013

  I still participate in CPW and on posts where appropriate, but I do have some hesitancy as well. I don't ever want to hurt those still on their TTC and/or IF battles. I want to be supportive but don't want to come across insensitive either.... Or my ticker to be hurtful etc. Also, apparently my SN wasn't anonymous enough. Much of my quietness lately stems from being discovered IRL, not a BFP.

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• BruinsBabe33 member

  

  September 2013

  I think we are clearly seeing a string of guilty consciences, quite honestly. If you want to post, post. If you don't then don't. No one here has ever been turned away for offering support or participating in threads while pregnant. People ask that you be sensitive, yes. It is always going to sting someone struggling when they open a post and see an ultra sound picture as someone's siggy. If you want to post here just be respectful about what is in your siggy. Pregnancy doesn't have to change how you participate on the board. Don't post PR things in TMI Tuesday because people are going to side eye you and not like what you have to say. In UO threads don't posts about PR things because there is a whole separate board that you can participate in to discuss those things. It really isn't that complicated. When someone wants to page you and ask you about your pregnancy, answer them in a respectful way. It is about having respect for your fellow board members and it shouldn't be that hard.
  

  
  

  
  
  
  

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• Xan921 member

  

  September 2013

  Amen @bruinsbabe33 amen

  

  
  

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• seahorse01 mod

  

  September 2013

  nfp147 said:

  ILoveRedVino said:

  Honestly, I've been in both places and not in the normal order. I get it. It is hard to be a part of conversations without there being the "elephant in the room." The second you are pregnant, you aren't infertile anymore. It changes things. You can offer support, but it's different. It is being sympathetic, but not understanding. I mean, even if you had a battle to get pregnant, that changes the second the second line shows up. It's just different. Bruins has done a really good job, as did caseyandlizzie, mrads, thedeatons, and probably others who I am forgetting. But that isn't the norm. I love it when grads stick around. But I do understand the hesitancy.

  Oh, yes, I forgot @mrads.  Another one to teach the BFP etiquette course.

  
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• MRads member

  

  September 2013

  seahorse01 said:

  
  

  nfp147 said:

  
  

  
  

  ILoveRedVino said:

  
  

  Honestly, I've been in both places and not in the normal order. I get it. It is hard to be a part of conversations without there being the "elephant in the room." The second you are pregnant, you aren't infertile anymore. It changes things. You can offer support, but it's different. It is being sympathetic, but not understanding. I mean, even if you had a battle to get pregnant, that changes the second the second line shows up. It's just different. Bruins has done a really good job, as did caseyandlizzie, mrads, thedeatons, and probably others who I am forgetting. But that isn't the norm.
  
  I love it when grads stick around. But I do understand the hesitancy.

  
  

  Oh, yes, I forgot @mrads.  Another one to teach the BFP etiquette course.

  
  

  
  
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• CincodeMayoLove member

  

  September 2013

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• saralynn7 member

  

  September 2013

  I agree with many on the hesitancy to post but like @AshleyMatt I do check out the board daily. Some things I just don't have much of an opinion on and other times I'll see a post and want to comment but I'm at work and my next client has shown up. I'd love to start posting on here again and it appears that no one has issues with it so I'll jump back in again.

  
  

  
  

  

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• GoodWolf member

  

  September 2013

  *butts in* FWIW there is an option to hide all signatures, if you go to 'preferences' then 'signature settings'. Could be a solution if you don't want to see BR/PR signatures Also, I hope this means we get to see some GP graduates back here now that there 's been this honest dialogue! You ladies are awesome. *butts out*
  

  

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