How long did you wait?

R.Wilsonny · October 2013

MH1006 said:

LuckyAngel07 said:

This is way too personal a question for you to get a consistent answer. You and your husband both need to be ready, and that can come at vastly different times for different people.
Pretty sure there wasn't anything in the question about doing what everyone else does. We're all adults here and should be treated as such.

I'm surprised by how many started trying before they were married. I know many IRL as well. Not passing judgement in any way, just find it interesting is all.

For those who started trying before the wedding - perhaps those people were already together with their spouse for years before getting married and felt they were ready? Or maybe knew they might have issues TTC so wanted to get started right away in case it takes a while? While I personally wanted to wait until after marriage, even though my H and I had been together for 8 years at that point, I don't really see the huge deal in not waiting. Yes, there's the benefits of waiting but to each their own.

sparklingdiamond · October 2013

We started trying about 2 months after our wedding.

LuckyAngel07 · October 2013

MH1006 said:

This is way too personal a question for you to get a consistent answer. You and your husband both need to be ready, and that can come at vastly different times for different people.
Pretty sure there wasn't anything in the question about doing what everyone else does. We're all adults here and should be treated as such.

Uh, yeah. This in no way treated the OP like a child. It was advice offered on a topic that can't really give someone a concrete answer, and since no one else had clarified that, I chose to. My response was not mean, snarky, rude, or condescending. So stop trying to stir trouble.

Thanks for understanding! K bai!

PandPMeant2B · October 2013

We started TTC right away. DH is 9 years older than me and already has a 12 year old son from a previous marriage. We were both ready even before we got married, but decided to wait.

amandaf6383 · October 2013

We started NNT after we got engaged but before the wedding and officially were TTC the cycle after our wedding.

amccul20 · October 2013

my husband and I waiting until we had been married 4 years to start TTC. and then it took almost 2 years to get pregnant.

BioGirl21 · October 2013

We waited almost a year and a half. We got married young so even though we had lived together 2 years before getting married, we were in no way, shape or form ready for a baby. We probably weren't even really ready when we started trying, ha!

brij2006 · October 2013

We waited about 5 months till we started NNT, then we began TTC around 8 months. We had also been together for 9 years when we started TTC, and had lived together/owned our home for 4.

Apollo11235 · October 2013

We've been married 1 year, living together for 3+, and we're still waiting. We plan to revisit next summer.

RockABye · October 2013

MH1006 said:

This is way too personal a question for you to get a consistent answer. You and your husband both need to be ready, and that can come at vastly different times for different people.
Pretty sure there wasn't anything in the question about doing what everyone else does. We're all adults here and should be treated as such. I'm surprised by how many started trying before they were married. I know many IRL as well. Not passing judgement in any way, just find it interesting is all.

Ah, but there also wasn't anything in the question about NOT doing what everyone else does! I'm just sayin'! I don't think Lucky's answer was condenscending at all. She was just stating what we all already know... It IS a personal decision and varies couple to couple. And, just as she said, there wasn't a consistent answer... as expected

It's often times hard to read tone over the interwebs, but remember, not every post that doesn't include smiley faces and !!!s is an attack or rude (<---see what I did there?)

Aimothy · October 2013

Silly, Rockabye...mh1006 knows how we are, because she lurks.

cloudymeatballs · October 2013

We have been married just over a year. We haven't been trying, but we're not not trying, since the wedding. We haven't used any protection or anything. Now its been about a year I now am ready for a baby..

Hopefully it doesn't take toooo long.

Flamingo86 · October 2013

3 years. We were pretty young and wanted to pay off our debt and save cash first. I'm glad we waited, b/c TTC didn't work out for us and now we are in a good place to adopt.

lindsayandjamie · October 2013

We were married a year and half, living together for 4 years, owned our home for 2, were together for 11. It took us a year to get pregnant.

sarahtrg · October 2013

Ladies it was all just curiosity of other couples' situations/choices. In no way was I using it to make any decisions of my own.

MH1006 · October 2013

sarahtrg said:
Ladies it was all just curiosity of other couples' situations/choices. In no way was I using it to make any decisions of my own.

I understand completely. Other people here feel the need to get all preachy. I just think it's funny that we can't all be treated like intelligent beings. I don't think luckyangelwhatsherface was trying to be rude, but I also don't think what she had to say was necessary. I'm sure you didn't take offense to it, just pointing out, like I said, we're all adults here.

Back under my bridge I go...

MadeOfAwesome · October 2013

MH1006 said:

Ladies it was all just curiosity of other couples' situations/choices. In no way was I using it to make any decisions of my own.
I understand completely. Other people here feel the need to get all preachy. I just think it's funny that we can't all be treated like intelligent beings. I don't think luckyangelwhatsherface was trying to be rude, but I also don't think what she had to say was necessary. I'm sure you didn't take offense to it, just pointing out, like I said, we're all adults here. Back under my bridge I go...

JFC, do you just sit around and wait for an opportunity to ride in on your white horse to save the day?? Half the shit that gets posted on this board is "unnecessary". Who gives a shit? That's kinda the point of a message board... conversation... why don't you try it sometime? No one was being rude, so it was not necessary for you to point out that @luckyangel07's comment was not necessary. WTF was the point in pointing that out?

MadeOfAwesome · October 2013

Oh, and OP, we waited about 7 months.

LuckyAngel07 · October 2013

@MadeOfAwesome is the bee's knees. :bz

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