Getting Pregnant
ILoveRedVino
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Wanna hear my most recent complaint?
My parents live in another state. We see each other 2-3 times a year on average but talk everyday. We are close.
Their church has an "adopted grandparents" program. It's for older people who don't have grand kids and little kids who don't have grandparents. They match them up.
My parents joined the damn program.
They've been assigned to a family with two parents, the same ages as me and H, and their kids- a 2 yr old boy and 4 month old girl. Their parents/grandparents have passed away.
They spent all day today together. My parents adore them. The 2 year old calls my parents Grappa and Granna.
I feel like shit.
When my parents say they don't have grand kids, I hear two things. I hear that a) Baby doesn't count and b) I've failed at giving them grand kids.
I want them to have this. But I want it with my kids.
They have no idea that this is killing me. Like, I've cried. Multiple times.
Sometimes I feel like my life is a funny joke that entertains God. Seriously, wtf? IF wasn't enough? Loss wasn't enough? Now you have to create some fcking fake family to rub this in my face a little more?
Their church has an "adopted grandparents" program. It's for older people who don't have grand kids and little kids who don't have grandparents. They match them up.
My parents joined the damn program.
They've been assigned to a family with two parents, the same ages as me and H, and their kids- a 2 yr old boy and 4 month old girl. Their parents/grandparents have passed away.
They spent all day today together. My parents adore them. The 2 year old calls my parents Grappa and Granna.
I feel like shit.
When my parents say they don't have grand kids, I hear two things. I hear that a) Baby doesn't count and b) I've failed at giving them grand kids.
I want them to have this. But I want it with my kids.
They have no idea that this is killing me. Like, I've cried. Multiple times.
Sometimes I feel like my life is a funny joke that entertains God. Seriously, wtf? IF wasn't enough? Loss wasn't enough? Now you have to create some fcking fake family to rub this in my face a little more?
IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
FET - BFN
FET - BFN
Switched clinics
IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
Baby Boy born July 2015
Re: Wanna hear my most recent complaint?
Like LL said, I'm rooting for you, too. You and your H more than deserve to have a baby here and in your arms. (hugs)
When you've been married this long, you need a ticker to remind you.
Baby Boy M - 08/01/2013
My Ovulation Chart
TTC #1 since July 2012
Cycles 1-9: BFN
Cycle 10: Surprise BFP on 10/17/2013!
EDD: June 25, 2014
Baby Girl born via induction June 26, 2014
My TTC Journey Blog
B Born 6.27.13
TTC 19 months ~Started RE in March 2014~
DH was not ready for IUI so we waited
~Started acupuncture in May 2014~
~~BFP 7/6/14~~~EDD 3/14/15~~It's a girl!!~~
~ S & L 8-25-12 ~
dx: Unexplained IF (mild MFI)
TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN
IVF #1 (May 2013): Antagonist Protocol:24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013): Lupron Stop Protocol:
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014): transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP
C.J. born 01/09/15
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
I want to quote my friend from yesterday. "There are so many hearts hoping for you." ILRV, I think of you an the other TTTCers daily. (Hugs)
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I haven't told them how I feel about it. H thinks I should.
I just keep thinking that they hurt too. They've lost a grandson. They've lost children, in a very different way, before too (they did foster to adopt and the bio parents changed their minds after three months) They may not understand my hurt, but they've had their own grief too. I don't want to take this from them. They love it. And at the end of the day, I have to be rationale and know that this family isn't replacing mine. It hurts, but maybe they need this.
I just need to remind myself of that regularly.
FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
4/11- 12/11 Provera, 3 cycles clomid 50mg, all BFN (HSG-all clear)
Dec 2011 DH S/A shows zero count - dx Azoo
TESE 4/13/12 - Sperm found!! 5 viles frozen
IVF ICSI #1- (Lupron protocol) 5R 2F 2dt- 2DP & 4CF - BFFN
IVF ICSI #2- (Antagonist protocol) Started stims 7/26
ER 8/8 11R 9F 3dt - 9BF & 7BF (+HPT 8dp3dt)beta 1-184 beta 2- 1699 TWINS! EDD 5/1/13
LAP Transabdominal Cerclage - 4/15/13 only possibility of carrying my children to term
IVF ICSI #3.2- (Antagonist Protocol) 7/26 start stims (same day, a year later from J & Z's stim start date!)
ER - 8/7 19R 9F 3dt of 2 8BF embryos. (+ HPT 7dp3dt) Beta #1- 82.8 Beta #2- 821 Beta 3-7254
Colin born via c/s 4/7/14 (36w5d) 6lbs 14oz - 8 days in the NICU
TTC #2 - IVF 4 - July 2015 (Antagonist Protocol) 7/10 start stims
15R 8F 5dt of 1E blast grade BA & 1 blast to freeze!! (+hpt 6dp5dt)
beta #1-52 beta #2-62 Beta #3-6.5 - CP
FET - 9/18/15 (+hpt 5dp5dt) beta #1 -225.1 beta #2-2468 beta #3-21,352
10/29 - U/S shows 1 bean! HR 151 EDD 6/7/16 It's a BOY!
5/18/16 Jacob born via c/s (37w 1d) 9lbs .8oz 19in - 6 days in the NICU
I think if you just tell them how you feel, exactly how you feel including how you want this for them, then they will be more sensitive about the way they talk about it to you. Like bit mentioning them calling them "gma and gpa" and making sure they bring up baby they(and you) lost with the family so they are an inclusion not replacement? Hth love. You will do what feels right, but I really really don't think you should just "let it go" without any discussion. For your sanity.
Eta for clarity
TTC#2 4/14
A Parachute in an Oak Tree: A World of Love
((Hugs))
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
There isn't a soul here that isn't hoping for the very best for you and you should never apologize for using this outlet to vent. That's why we're here.
There is no way that wouldn't be hurtful. I do hope you let them know how you feel. I don't think it's black and white and that if you let them know you would be taking it away from them. I just think it would help for smoother discussions about it in the future that don't leave you feeling down and stung.
Cycle 8,9,10 - 50mg Clomid - BFN
08/13: Started TTC - 07/14: PCOS dx
BFP 09/18/15 - Baby S 05/27/16
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. SeussTeam Green to Team Pink! Baby A born
Here comes 2u2! Team Green to Team Blue! Baby L born