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Household responsibilities

Who takes main responsibility for these tasks in your household?  Is it you, your husband, someone else, or maybe they don't get done?  And CBH, do you see any of them changing when you have kids?  

grocery shopping
meal prep/cooking
laundry
house cleaning
washing dishes
bill paying/finances
takes out the trash
car maintenance
yard work
home repairs/maintenance
organizes social events
family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)
pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up)





dx:  Unexplained IF (mild MFI)

 TTC since May 2011, 1 year trying, and then 3 TI, 2 IUI = BFN

IVF #1 (May 2013):  Antagonist Protocol: 
24R, 18M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 2 early blasts, no frosties = BFN
IVF #2 (August 2013):  Lupron Stop Protocol: 
28R, 23M, 15F w/ICSI; 5dt of 1 partially hatched blast, 7 frosties = BFP
EDD 5/23/14, blighted ovum (6w6d), D&C (8w6d)
FET #1 (April 2014):  transferred 2 5d blasts = BFP

C.J. born 01/09/15

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  • ILoveRedVinoILoveRedVino member
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    edited November 2013
    grocery shopping - Me
    meal prep/cooking - Me
    laundry - Me
    house cleaning - Mostly me
    washing dishes - Both equally
    bill paying/finances - Me, but most are automatically charged to the CC
    takes out the trash - Both equally
    car maintenance - We take care of our own vehicles
    yard work - Him
    home repairs/maintenance - Him
    organizes social events - Me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Me, but I'm not good at it
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Mostly him.

    I think he will be in charge of more dinners when kids come along. Most of the tasks that I do, I enjoy doing. Grocery shopping, laundry and house cleaning are my favorite days of the week.
    IUI - BFP! Baby boy born still - August 2012
    IVF - BFP - miscarriage June 2013
    FET - BFN
    FET - BFN
    Switched clinics
    IVF with PGD - three embryos created, all healthy - July 2014
    FET - transferred two embryos (boy and girl) - Nov 2014 - BFP!
    Baby Boy born July 2015

  • grocery shopping - we always go together
    meal prep/cooking - mostly DH
    laundry - DH
    house cleaning - shared
    washing dishes - DH loads the dishwasher, DSS empties it
    bill paying/finances - automatic, but DH keeps track of it better than I do
    takes out the trash - DH
    car maintenance - mechanic
    yard work - DH and DSS
    home repairs/maintenance - DH; he's pretty handy
    organizes social events - me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - DH

    *DH works from home, so he does a lot of the cleaning, laundry, cooking, etc, during the day while I'm at work.  We do it together on weekends.
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  • Me: grocery shopping, meal prep/cooking, laundry, house cleaning, washing dishes, organizes social events, family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)

    H: bill paying/finances, yard work, home repairs/maintenance

    Both: takes out the trash, car maintenance

    I don't know. I'd like to hope so. 
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  • grocery shopping-we usually go together, but I do most of the planning and do the coupon clipping
    meal prep/cooking-mainly me
    laundry-DH but I fold the clothes
    house cleaning-both (DH is in charge of cleaning the bathrooms and vacuuming, but I do everything else)
    washing dishes-DH
    bill paying/finances-DH, but we are both responsible for being aware of what is going on
    takes out the trash-DH
    car maintenance-we are responsible for our own cars
    yard work-n/a
    home repairs/maintenance-DH is responsible to call maintenance
    organizes social events-me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)-we are responsible for our own families
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up)-both
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  • Before I answer, I will admit that we try and split these up...but I am Type A.  :)

    grocery shopping - mostly me
    meal prep/cooking - mostly me
    laundry - we split this as I am very OCD about laundry and have panic attacks if things don't get washed/dried properly
    house cleaning - split
    washing dishes - mostly me
    bill paying/finances - me
    takes out the trash - split
    car maintenance - split
    yard work - the landlord :)
    home repairs/maintenance - the landlord :)
    organizes social events - ummm, I guess me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - split
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - mostly me since I got my pup before I met DH
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  • grocery shopping - DH usually does it, but I'll pick things up between trips
    meal prep/cooking - DH
    laundry - me
    house cleaning - me (DH only does any if I ask)
    washing dishes - me
    bill paying/finances - split; I take care of mortgage, insurances (autopay), and my car payment; DH takes care of electric, cable/internet, his truck payment, his student loans, his CC payment, and water bill when it comes
    takes out the trash - supposed to be DH, but he NEVER does the bathroom or office trash
    car maintenance - each to our own
    yard work - DH, although I'm supposed to take care of the decorative front beds...
    home repairs/maintenance - DH, but nothing ever gets done
    organizes social events - me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - me (I took care of the gifts for his great niece and our friends' 1-y/o daughter because he can't do girl's gifts :P)
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - mostly me, but he's taking over litter box duty now!! He also does most of the portioning out of Zoey's raw food.
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  • grocery shopping - we go together, but I make the list
    meal prep/cooking - mostly him
    laundry - we do our own and split mutual things like bedding, towels
    house cleaning - both; he always vacuums
    washing dishes - the dishwasher
    bill paying/finances - me
    takes out the trash - him
    car maintenance - him
    yard work - me for daily upkeep like watering plants; both for bigger jobs like mowing grass, shoveling snow, raking leaves
    home repairs/maintenance - both for minor things; we're not very handy though, so we pay someone for bigger things
    organizes social events - me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - mostly him
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  • grocery shopping- I usually do since I can go during the day in the middle of the week usually.

    meal prep/cooking- mostly me, he does once in a while.

    laundry- me, unless I work late and he needs close

    house cleaning- all me

    washing dishes- DH

    bill paying/finances- me and I hate it

    takes out the trash- both

    car maintenance- we take care of our cars individually

    yard work- DH, I have horrible allergies with cut grass

    home repairs/maintenance- DH

    organizes social events- we are homebodies

    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)- mostly me

    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) we both do this, DH cleans the yard poop and we usually both walk.

    I think most of this will stay the same, although we will switch laubdry/dishes when I get pregnant so I won't have to carry the clothes basket up and down stairs.
  • Grocery shopping: If H doesn't work over time, he does. If he has overtime, I do. 
    meal prep/cooking: Me, H can't cook. 
    laundry: Depends, I usually do it because I like it done a certain way. 
    house cleaning: If I ask him to clean, he does it. If I decide I want something cleaned, I do it. 
    washing dishes: both
    bill paying/finances: Me 
    takes out the trash: H
    car maintenance: Me 
    yard work: Me 
    home repairs/maintenance: H 
    organizes social events: Me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls): Me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up): H 
    DX: 6/2012 PCOS  TTC: 6/2013  BFP: 9/6/2013  Attempt Natural m/c: 10/29/2013 D&C: 2/20/2014
    BFP 2: 7/7/2014 Beta 7/8: 115, Beta 7/12: 638, Beta 7/16: 3793, Beta 7/21: 21,625

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  • grocery shopping DH and I do this together usually
    meal prep/cooking usually me
    laundry me, but I make DH help :)
    house cleaning mostly just doesn't get done
    washing dishes mostly me
    bill paying/finances me
    takes out the trash usually DH
    car maintenance people who are qualified to maintain our cars
    yard work N/A
    home repairs/maintenance DH... or the landlord
    organizes social events DH
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) Both
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) we alternate

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    TTC #1 August 2014. BFP 9/26! EDD 6/9/15
    Baby A born 6/17/2015
  • We try pretty hard to make sure we’re both pulling our own weight around the house!<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

     

    grocery shopping - me

    meal prep/cooking - both

    laundry - both

    house cleaning - me

    washing dishes - me

    bill paying/finances - both

    takes out the trash - him

    car maintenance - him

    yard work – both….but mostly him

    home repairs/maintenance - both

    organizes social events - him

    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - me

    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - both

  • grocery shopping - Me
    meal prep/cooking - Me, but he helps sometimes
    laundry - It's probably 70/30 me to him
    house cleaning - both
    washing dishes- both
    bill paying/finances - me
    takes out the trash - probably 80/20 him to me
    car maintenance - Mostly him, but I take my own car to get oil changed and stuff if he's not doing it himself.
    yard work - him for the most part
    home repairs/maintenance - mostly him but if we have someone coming to the house to do something, I'm almost always the one home to meet them.
    organizes social events - more me than him, but it's really a joint effort
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)  - both
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - both
     
    We have a good give/take on all the chores really and I don't see that changing. If he needs help with something, I help. If I need help with something, he helps. The only thing I'd have a hard time giving up is bills/money management.

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  • Sewilson33Sewilson33 member
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    edited November 2013
    grocery shopping - Me or we go together.
    meal prep/cooking - Both
    laundry - All me
    house cleaning - Mainly me
    washing dishes - Me
    bill paying/finances - DH
    takes out the trash - We dont have trash pick up but I get all the garbage together and DH takes it to the dump.
    car maintenance - Mainly DH
    yard work - DH
    home repairs/maintenance - DH
    organizes social events - Both
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Both of us.

    I can't see this changing very much when we have kids... I certainly am not going to start doing yard work. He probably would help out with laundry a little more, just because there would be 3 of us.

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  • grocery shopping Both
    meal prep/cooking alternate
    laundry him all the way...I have so many clothes i could (and have) go months without doing laundry...DH has enough underwear to go like a week
    house cleaning only me so...stuff piles up until we can stand it and i kick him out for a few hours. I like cooking and cleaning alone, but he feels bad and tries to help which drives me nuts. we are both happier when he cant see me clean haha
    washing dishes all me
    bill paying/finances me
    takes out the trash usually DH...unless he forget then me
    car maintenance DH, but i can change a tire, oil, put air and fluids in things etc. but I don't like to anymore b/c i can make him do it
    yard work him, I do decorations and gutters (i'm up there putting lights up so i might as well...)though
    home repairs/maintenance no one...until one of us gets fed up and fixes it, or it's something serious and we call my dad and neighbor to help...or a qualified professional
    organizes social events All me...his friends call me to set up what I call play dates haha
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)Me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) alternate...usually I do mornings if there's time, and he does nights. but if i was rushed and he did the morning i'll do night. We have a fenced yard and go on walks together a lot...so the dogs are easy. The ducks are kind of annoying to take care of at night but are so cute to play with! whoever is the most dressed locks them in their coop for the night. (no we don't live on a farm. we live in a regular suburban neighborhood, where my husband conveniently found out, fowl are totally legal...awesome)

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  • grocery shopping - Both
    meal prep/cooking - Both
    laundry - We both usually do this.
    house cleaning - Me
    washing dishes - Me
    bill paying/finances - Me
    takes out the trash - Both
    car maintenance - Him
    yard work - Both. He mows most of the time, but I do most of the landscaping.
    home repairs/maintenance - Mostly him.
    organizes social events - Both
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Him. I forget birthdays.
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Both. I bathe and brush her, but we both feed her and take care of messes.
     

    TTC since 1/13  DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)
    Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
    1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system. 
    Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
    Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340  Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
    Riley Elaine born 2/16/15

    TTC 2.0   6/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 9/15 
    Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
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  • grocery shopping. Me
    meal prep/cooking. Split evenly.
    laundry. Me.
    house cleaning. Split but more me
    washing dishes. Split evenly/more DH
    bill paying/finances. DH (I pay my own but DH keeps track of overall)
    takes out the trash. DH
    car maintenance. DH
    yard work. DH.
    home repairs/maintenance. DH.
    organizes social events. Split evenly.
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls). Me.
    Diagnosed with Severe DOR at 31 years old (AMH .14 FSH 9.8) 
    D & L are here at 34 weeks 4 days by vaginal and breech delivery on 11/19/2013

  • grocery shopping - DH
    meal prep/cooking - Me
    laundry - Me
    house cleaning - All three of us
    washing dishes - Loading dishwasher- DS, Hand wash - me, put away, DH
    bill paying/finances - Both of us
    takes out the trash - Boys
    car maintenance - Me
    yard work- Cutting and trimming - Boys
    home repairs/maintenance - Me mostly
    organizes social events - Me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Both
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Me
  • edited November 2013
    grocery shopping: Me
    meal prep/cooking: Me
    laundry: We each do our own
    house cleaning: Me 90% of the time
    washing dishes: Him
    bill paying/finances: Me
    takes out the trash: Him
    car maintenance: We take in our own cars for services
    yard work: Lawn service
    home repairs/maintenance: I call somebody
    organizes social events: Me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls): Both/neither
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up): Both
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  • grocery shopping - Usually me, but sometimes him
    meal prep/cooking - Split depending on who's home
    laundry - Me
    house cleaning - Me
    washing dishes - Usually me
    bill paying/finances - Me for bills, him for our other finances 
    takes out the trash - Him
    car maintenance - Split, we handle our own cars
    yard work - Both
    home repairs/maintenance - Both
    organizes social events - Me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Both
     
    He cooks when he's home, takes care of major construction projects at home, mows the lawn and handles the big finance stuff like mortgage, car loans, investments (but he's a banker!).  I handle EVERYTHING else.  With regards to children, we split the kiddie duties pretty evenly.  I would say our overall balance is somewhere around 30/70 (me).
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    DS born: February 21, 2012

    TTC#2 June 2013 MMC Sept 2013 (partial molar), CP 02/2014 DS2 born: December 5, 2014
  • grocery shopping- me
    meal prep/cooking- me
    laundry- me (but I wait as long as possible lol)
    house cleaning- shared
    washing dishes- me 75% of the time
    bill paying/finances- DH completely
    takes out the trash- DH
    car maintenance- DH mostly (but I often go get my own oil changes/inspections usually)
    yard work- we live in a townhouse, so landscapers
    home repairs/maintenance- depends on the job. Simple things, I'll do. Things like installing a light or putting together furniture is all DH
    organizes social events- mostly me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)- mostly me, but DH is good about remembering/calling on his own
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up)- shared, but DH does more daily. I feed them in the morning and bring them to the vet, DH feeds at night and does the litter box. We team up to give meds and cut nails

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    one last IVF attempt April/May 2013: 19 retrieved. 10 fertilized. 2 transferred in a 3dt. 4 frosties... BFP!!
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  • GoodWolfGoodWolf member
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    edited November 2013
    grocery shopping - together
    meal prep/cooking - 50/50
    laundry - 50/50
    house cleaning - me 75% but only because I love vacuuming, dusting, and I have pretty high bathroom cleaning standards
    washing dishes - 50/50
    bill paying/finances - him
    takes out the trash - whoever fills it up? I've never understood what the big deal is.
    car maintenance - him, or a mechanic (is car washing/vacuuming maitenance? I do that most of the time)
    yard work - he mows, I do any weeding/some raking/etc.
    home repairs/maintenance - 50/50
    organizes social events - ha, neither? 
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - we're both really bad...
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - 50/50

    Most of the time these things really depend on who gets to it first. We both like a clean house, and we alternate (not on purpose) who's in the mood to be productive on any given day.

    ETA: I don't see any of this changing in the future if we have kids
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    edited November 2013
    grocery shopping - Both of us 
    meal prep/cooking - Mostly him, although I cook for big events and holidays
    laundry - We each do our own and split the household laundry (towels and stuff)
    house cleaning - Both of us
    washing dishes - Both of us
    bill paying/finances - Tom does the finances
    takes out the trash - Me
    car maintenance - The car shop
    yard work - Mostly Tom
    home repairs/maintenance - Both of us
    organizes social events - Me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Both of us
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Tom does cat litter in exchange for me doing trash, I feed and walk

    ETA: When we have kids, I imagine it will be mostly the same. Or maybe we'll just do whatever we have the energy for. lol.

    Cheering on all of my 3T ladies!  DX with PCOS - 11/2012 DH S/A & HSG - Normal - Too many rounds of Clomid = BFNs - New RE 5/2014 - Repeat Testing - Losing 40lbs before injects/IUI



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  • grocery shopping - We take turns paying. When he pays, he has to go with. When I pay, he has the option to go with
    meal prep/cooking - Me
    laundry - Him
    house cleaning - Mostly me
    washing dishes - Him
    bill paying/finances - Him
    takes out the trash - More him, but I do it regularly too
    yard work - We pay the townhouse association to do that. 
    home repairs/maintenance - See above
    organizes social events - Me, but he will organize dinners out with his co-workers
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Mostly him.

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  • Grocery shopping - Both

    Meal prep/cooking - About 70% me, 30% DH. DH has certain meals he cooks like anything barbecue or white sauce lasagna.

    Laundry - Me, mainly because it irritates me that he'll pick his clothes out of the hamper to wash and won't do mine, then I won't have enough clothes for a load...

    House cleaning - Me, DH will help with vacuuming and mopping sometimes but that's it.

    Washing dishes - Me, DH will give up before they're all washed because he says his hands get pruny...

    Bill paying/finances - Me

    Takes out the trash - Both

    Car maintenance - DH

    Yard work - Mostly DH, but I'll help with certain work.

    Home repairs/maintenance - DH

    Organizes social events - Neither, but if we did it would be both of us

    Family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Both

    Pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - Both, I usually feed them in the morning and DH usually feeds them in the evening.

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  • Who takes main responsibility for these tasks in your household?  Is it you, your husband, someone else, or maybe they don't get done?  And CBH, do you see any of them changing when you have kids?  

    grocery shopping-both
    meal prep/cooking-both
    laundry-both
    house cleaning- both
    washing dishes-both
    bill paying/finances-him
    takes out the trash-him
    car maintenance-him
    yard work-whoever he has hired
    home repairs/maintenance-him
    organizes social events-me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls)-me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up)-both

    If I end up staying home then maybe. But things work pretty good for us right now.

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  • grocery shopping -Mostly me, but he will come and cost us more money by throwing random snacks in the cart...
    meal prep/cooking - Me
    laundry -He washes his work uniforms and hangs them but 9 times out of 10 I iron them for him.  I typically do the rest of the laundry but he will do a load if he is desperately in need.
    house cleaning - Both
    washing dishes -Both (he's very good at unloading the dishwasher :) )
    bill paying/finances -Me
    takes out the trash - Whoever is going to the dumpster first.
    car maintenance - We each take care of our own.
    yard work - N/A
    home repairs/maintenance - I'm the annoying one who calls our landlord to complain.  The first summer we moved in, our A/C was broken and I called at least twice a day to remind them that it was still broken.  Hubby was embarrassed by me.
    organizes social events - Each our own and we compare schedules as needed.
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Typically me.
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - N/A yet...however due to his sucky work schedule, probably more me than him.
     
    In the future with kids, I'm guessing not much will change though I'm hoping he learns how to clean a bathroom (he'll be forced to so I'm not around the cleaning agents when/if I get KU), and he learns how to cook more so I don't have to...selfish, I know. :)
  • grocery shopping me
    meal prep/cooking me
    laundry DH 95% of the time
    house cleaning I do the bathrooms, dusting, and vacuuming. DH does the kitchen
    washing dishes DH
    bill paying/finances DH
    takes out the trash DH because I pretend I can't lift the bag out of the barrel. ;-)
    car maintenance The dealership?
    yard work DH mows the lawn, but I do the gardening
    home repairs/maintenance Minor stuff (hanging pictures, changing furnace filter) DH does, but we call professionals for a lot of stuff. DH isn't really handy like that.
    organizes social events me
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) both

    CBH - I don't think much will change when we have kids. I think the only thing that would change is we might have someone come help us with weekly cleaning, but we're thinking of starting that up in the new year.
    TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
    After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
    11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
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    Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
    I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
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  • edited November 2013

    grocery shopping -- Me
    meal prep/cooking -- I'm the one who meal preps, but H sometimes cooks.
    laundry -- we each do our own.
    house cleaning -- Me... but H likes to run the vacuum. soooo that's "his job"
    washing dishes -- Usually me.
    bill paying/finances -- mostly me.
    takes out the trash -- He's been doing it more lately, but we both do.
    car maintenance -- that's me, since I work at a garage. It's just more convenient... we both wash/wax/vacuum out our own cars though.
    yard work -- landscaping/maintenance crew (apartment dwelling, yo!)
    home repairs/maintenance -- maintenance crew. (worth the rent expense)
    organizes social events -- lol, social events.
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) -- We each do this for our own families.
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) --  H feeds the boys and makes P his salad when he's home, but usually I feed and clean up and do the regular maintenance stuff.

    ETA: I see nothing changing with kids. H will help, I'm just going to have to come to terms with his way of doing things isn't wrong, it's just not exactly the way I would have done things, and that's ok. lol. buuuut that's not happening yet so no need to worry. lol.

  • grocery shopping - 50/50, we frequently go together
    meal prep/cooking - Me
    laundry - Me
    house cleaning - Also 50/50
    washing dishes - DH
    bill paying/finances - Me
    takes out the trash - DH
    car maintenance - No cars!
    yard work - No yard!
    home repairs/maintenance - Me, but only little things. For bigger things, we call the management company.
    organizes social events - Me, DH is shy
    family birthdays (keeping track/cards,gifts,calls) - Me
    pet care (feeding/walkings/cleaning up) - No pets ):

     ~ S & L 8-25-12  ~
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