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bridget0117 · November 2013

I don't have one right now but figured I'd get it started.

You ladies have anything to confess? I know you do, lets hear 'em!

kanels11 · November 2013

I am scared shitless to have sex again.

I had my 6 week pp appt this morning...even though it's actually been 8 weeks. All checked out good and I have no restrictions anymore. DH knows this. I am afraid for mainly 2 reasons.

1. I hear it can be pretty painful.

2. It feels like forever since we last had sex. Like a few months before we had Arthur and now another 8 weeks after we had him. I am afraid it's going to be awkward and weird. I feel like it's our first time doing it.

The last part of my confession is I am afraid to tell DH about this. I know I will talk to him about it because I need him to be aware of these feelings...especially the chance of it being painful. I hate that I am feeling this way. I am really looking forward to the days DH and I are just like we used to be. Hate that sex is weighing so heavy on me right now....It's supposed to be fun.

LuckyAngel07 · November 2013

@kanels11, I hope your first time after baby is much better than you're anticipating. Hopefully sharing your feelings with DH can help smooth things along and make it more enjoyable with you both being on the same page.

PandPMeant2B · November 2013

I've been telling DH for the past few days that I finished the lunch he packed me, but I only ate some of it because the rest made me wanna gag. I trust my body to tell me what it needs and won't force myself to eat if I'm not hungry. He thinks I HAVE to eat meals like I used to. We got into a mini argument the other day when I told him I wasn't hungry for dinner. It's not that I couldn't decide what I wanted; I honestly wasn't hungry, but he wanted me to eat anyway. I just don't want to argue about it, so I fibbed. It's not like I'm starving myself.

vitan · November 2013

@kanels11 unfortunately I don't think sex goes back to way it was before kids. It seems more calculated and "mental" at least for us women. It's tough. Even when we've gone away for the night, I was so tired that I just wanted to rest.

wiggyslilsis · November 2013

My confession

I have let myself get up to two pepsis a day. I usually limit myself to one for health and financial reasons but I just can't seem to help it. All I want to drink is Pepsi. I would have 3 or 4 if I didn't think DH would have a fit.

LuckyAngel07 · November 2013

I haven't even had my first OB appt yet and I've already bought 3 onesies for next Christmas. I am a crazy person.

cinderin · November 2013

kanels11 said:

I am scared shitless to have sex again.
I had my 6 week pp appt this morning...even though it's actually been 8 weeks. All checked out good and I have no restrictions anymore. DH knows this. I am afraid for mainly 2 reasons.
1. I hear it can be pretty painful.
2. It feels like forever since we last had sex. Like a few months before we had Arthur and now another 8 weeks after we had him. I am afraid it's going to be awkward and weird. I feel like it's our first time doing it.
The last part of my confession is I am afraid to tell DH about this. I know I will talk to him about it because I need him to be aware of these feelings...especially the chance of it being painful. I hate that I am feeling this way. I am really looking forward to the days DH and I are just like we used to be. Hate that sex is weighing so heavy on me right now....It's supposed to be fun.

I dont know if you are BF or not.

I am BF, had a c/s, had sex for the first time about 10 weeks PP and it was no fun. sorry to tell you :-(

It wasn't horribly painful, but it was super uncomfortable.

Talk to your DH beforehand. It isn't going to be the same this first time :-)

kanels11 · November 2013

I guess I will just have to find out what it will be like for me. Sounds like there are different outcomes for different people.

Here's to a stiff vodka drink and lots of lube!

bridget0117 · November 2013

@kenels11, we tried having ST a few nights ago and I literally cried from the pain. Sorry if this is TMI but he only had the tip in and I was trying not say anything but I started crying. We stopped and didn't even talk about it afterwards and we haven't tried again. I'm scared shitless and want nothing to do with a peen.

saralynn7 · November 2013

I'm so irritated with DH lately that sex is so far from my mind and I hate that subconsciously I'm withholding physical affection because I'm angry. I also worry that he's choosing the wrong career field and it's going to financially burden us for years because he needs his master's.

saisongbird · November 2013

We haven't had sex since conception...nights have been more difficult for me and between that and colds and job stress on both ends we just haven't gone for it. I also think now that the bump is there he's a bit nervous to.

I drink one diet coke most days a week. Everything I've read said one can is fine, and I just HATE the taste of most regular sodas. And water gives me massive heartburn depending on the time of day.

smbenevides1989 · November 2013

I'm kinda irritated at DH's family. Not kinda, really irritated. But that in itself is a story stemming back 5 years.

DH's sister is pregnant with her second, which bothers me because she is financially incapable of taking care of them without assistance, but that's another story. Well, DH's mom called last night saying that SIL is in the hospital because she is in too much pain, over exhaustion, etc. (she's only 6 months along). My MIL was expecting him to drop everything at the drop of a dime to go pick MIL up to bring her to the hospital. Um no. She lives an hour away from us, her bf has a car, he can drive her. Before she could even say that, DH told her I'm not picking you up. She was pissed. <-- She loves to use DH a lot; actually they all do. He's lost his job twice over his family because of stuff like this. He's pretty much become a wall when it comes to doing favors for them.

I'm sorry I ranted... It just annoys me to no end with this family. He pretty much said it himself, if it wasn't for his niece and new nephew, he really would not talk or deal with them.

amccul20 · November 2013

we asked MIL for a nice camera for Christmas and the one she wants to get us is just OK. she has no idea about electronics and I don't want her to spend 3/4 of the cost of a good camera on a crappy camera, I would rather pay ourselves the other 1/4 and get the good camera. but DH says that is a selfish thing to do.

you know what I think? that it would be a waste of her money if she bought something that wouldn't work for us.

I appreciate that she's willing to spend the money and from day 1 when we started talking about it I offered to split the cost but now thats out of the question and i'm being a diva

wiggyslilsis · November 2013

@amccul20 I totally get what you mean. I told DH that he needs to stop asking for electronic stuff from my mom because she always buys a cheaper not quite as nice model and then he ends up buying the one he wanted later. We appreciate the gifts but she just doesn't value electronics the same way he does so she doesn't understand the extra cost.

So we have compromised...he just won't ask for things that he wants a specific make/model of.

brij2006 · November 2013

@amccul20 Have you tried giving her specifics on what you are looking for? Like a link to the exact one or a couple of options that fit what you're looking for. This is what we have to do with MIL. This year I'm asking for a new microwave, and I gave her links to the 2 options.

amccul20 · November 2013

brij2006 said:

@amccul20 Have you tried giving her specifics on what you are looking for? Like a link to the exact one or a couple of options that fit what you're looking for. This is what we have to do with MIL. This year I'm asking for a new microwave, and I gave her links to the 2 options.

yeah this wouldn't work. she doesn't even answer her cell phone. I suggested to Ben that we buy the camera and then have her reimburse us for what she was willing to spend. we'll see. last time we spoke about it he said to do some research on cameras and then we would talk more about it.

lb1117 · November 2013

I have had 1/4 glass of red wine at family dinners. Always red. Always with dinner or after my stomach is full.
It was that one thing I missed the most, so in the last few weeks I've allowed myself a little with food, especially with my birthday and the holidays coming up.

And... My DH isn't bothered and I don't feel guilty. My parents even poured me some at dinner figuring it would be good for my nerves while my ILs were around last weekend.

brij2006 · November 2013

@lb11117 My OB is very lax on that. He said that I could have 6oz glasses of beer or wine 2-3 times a week if I wanted to. Just not to have all of them in 1 day, and to space it out by more than 24 hrs.

Venti29 · November 2013

I'm done bf'ing. Here is the ff part. The main reason I'm upset about this is because I won't be able to comfort nurse. I'm not pumping anymore, so once it dries up. I'm really done.

Venti29 · November 2013

Their first meal is Bf, but I assume this will end soon as well, not sure when I'll be dry?!

AshleyMatt1215 · November 2013

Note: This was going to be my FFC before I read any of them, so please don't think I'm attacking you.

I can't stand it when people, including doctors, say "Oh, one drink won't hurt you while your pregnant." I work with kids with fetal alcohol syndrome. Tell that to them, their lives are changed forever.

My other one:

I hate the word "retarded". I yell at people for saying it.

LSquared1024 · November 2013

One drink wont hurt while pregnant. It takes much much more than that to have any effect, none the less FAS.

lb1117 · November 2013

@brij2006 - my midwife didn't say anything about it at all so I have have like sips mostly here and there.... And none in 1st tri/early 2nd tri.

brij2006 · November 2013

@ashleymatt1215 I can see where you are coming from on that. Those kids lives are changed. Forever!

I'm still honestly shocked that my OB told me to go ahead and drink some if I want to. Now, he also said that if I wasn't used to drinking that he tells most women to just stay away from it. But it is a usual thing for me to have a bottle of wine/week, and 4-6 beers. So he said my body and blood stream were used to the intake. He also said absolutely not to any hard liquor or margarita's, daquiri's, etc. Not saying that I would've drank any though. I still think I would've felt guilty.

LSquared1024 · November 2013

There is no time during pregnancy that is better or worse for alcohol in moderation. It really is fine.

TudorRose11 · November 2013

During my pregnancy I had a fear that I would lose feeling down low after birth after reading a woman's story who had. I poked around yesterday to check.

sgautschi · November 2013

@Kanels I had similar fears about ST, but when we did it at 5 weeks pp it was fine. It stung a tiny bit, but still felt good. And it was so nice having that closeness with DH again.

pb&fluff · November 2013

LB, I also had a glass of wine here and there as well. Granted I weigh quite a bit more than you and it takes a lot more to affect me, but I knew it would be okay. I also *gasp* had the occasional tuna roll.

lb1117 · November 2013

@pb&fluff - Thanks. Before baby I could drink 2-3 glasses and be fine. I figure an oz or two with food isn't going to affect me.

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lb1117 · November 2013

brij2006 said:
@ashleymatt1215 I can see where you are coming from on that. Those kids lives are changed. Forever!
I'm still honestly shocked that my OB told me to go ahead and drink some if I want to. Now, he also said that if I wasn't used to drinking that he tells most women to just stay away from it. But it is a usual thing for me to have a bottle of wine/week, and 4-6 beers. So he said my body and blood stream were used to the intake. He also said absolutely not to any hard liquor or margarita's, daquiri's, etc. Not saying that I would've drank any though. I still think I would've felt guilty.

I kinda wondered the same thing... If what you're used to before makes a difference. A sip or two now just makes me feel not left out anymore :-p

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