Morning FB PG blindsides...

GoodWolf · November 2013

Gotta love 'em. This one was in a PM to a group, and was a video montage of their exotic travels this year (making it seem like they were just sharing pictures of their 2013 trips) and ended with the announcement. I knew as soon as I got the PM, so I skipped to the end of the video and sure enough - blammo! (And now I'm in the group PM and keep getting responses and I can't leave...)

(Prepare for GP redundancy...) I hate that I have these happy for them/sad for me feelings. H asked if I was happy for them, of course I am! I'm also weird in that I think that now that she is pregnant, this cycle has to be a bust because that's how life works. We're traveling 8 hours to visit them in a couple of weeks. So insult, meet injury; right? (Am I the only one who thinks like this?)

Ok, vent over

I'm going to go look at pictures of cute animals to cheer me up! Thanks for listening, it's good to get it all out to gals who I know will understand...

ETA: tried to fix picture.. not sure why it's not working.

amandaf6383 · November 2013

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

GoodWolf · November 2013

amandaf6383 said:

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

Yes. I kind of wanted to punch the computer screen when I read about Kelly Clarkson.

sparklingdiamond · November 2013

I'm sorry :-( I know it's always hard!

lilliesandvino · November 2013

GoodWolf said:

amandaf6383 said:

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

Yes. I kind of wanted to punch the computer screen when I read about Kelly Clarkson.

Why? What did she do wrong?

I understand being upset about others' being pregnant when you aren't, but this seems like quite the overreaction.

My God, no one else's fertility has jack shit to do with yours.

I know this is bitchy, but it's really getting whiny around here lately.

GoodWolf · November 2013

@lilliesandvino - You're right, it shouldn't matter. I apologize for coming off whiny.

ETA: spelling fails...

LooneyLife · November 2013

GoodWolf said:

amandaf6383 said:

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

Yes. I kind of wanted to punch the computer screen when I read about Kelly Clarkson.

But, but, but all she wanted was to be pregnant for Christmas. Barf.

LuckyAngel07 · November 2013

That's definitely hard.

Buuuuut, you can totally leave conversations in FB messages!!! Click on the left navigation to get to your Messages Inbox (not just on the conversation bubble at the top of the screen that pops up with the notification). Click the conversation you want to leave. Go to the "Actions" button at the top of the message (it's a dropdown) and select "Leave Conversation." Or delete it, or do whatever else you want!

GoodWolf · November 2013

@LuckyAngel07 - Technically I can. But, I never responded (my H did for the both of us) and I don't want her seeing I've left the conversation without actually saying something myself. I will probably leave after I say something in a little bit.

LooneyLife · November 2013

GoodWolf said:

@LuckyAngel07 - Technically I can. But, I never responded (my H did for the both of us) and I don't want her seeing I've left the conversation without actually saying something myself. I will probably leave after I say something in a little bit.

The worst part of the leave function is that it notified EVERYONE in the chat that you've left. Awkward.

islandmonkey8 · November 2013

Ugh. F that shit.

GoodWolf · November 2013

LooneyLife said:

GoodWolf said:

@LuckyAngel07 - Technically I can. But, I never responded (my H did for the both of us) and I don't want her seeing I've left the conversation without actually saying something myself. I will probably leave after I say something in a little bit.

The worst part of the leave function is that it notified EVERYONE in the chat that you've left. Awkward.

Totally awkward! I have a feeling the conversation will die out after today, and I'll just let it be. Not worth being selfish and letting the whole group know how selfish I am.

cloudymeatballs · November 2013

Sucks. I know, you are, of course, happy for your friends, but that green monster comes out. Totally understandable. I seem to see everyone having babies. People that never even talked about it, now their pregnant or just had a baby. Ugghh. Happy Sad at the same time.. Gotta love it!!

GoodWolf · November 2013

cloudymeatballs said:

Sucks. I know, you are, of course, happy for your friends, but that green monster comes out. Totally understandable. I seem to see everyone having babies. People that never even talked about it, now their pregnant or just had a baby. Ugghh. Happy Sad at the same time.. Gotta love it!!

Exactly.

cloudymeatballs · November 2013

GoodWolf said:

cloudymeatballs said:

Sucks. I know, you are, of course, happy for your friends, but that green monster comes out. Totally understandable. I seem to see everyone having babies. People that never even talked about it, now their pregnant or just had a baby. Ugghh. Happy Sad at the same time.. Gotta love it!!

Exactly.

Man oh man, story of my effing life!!! But hey, you can be happy for someone yet totally upset and jealous about it, right??

GoodWolf · November 2013

cloudymeatballs said:

GoodWolf said:

cloudymeatballs said:

Sucks. I know, you are, of course, happy for your friends, but that green monster comes out. Totally understandable. I seem to see everyone having babies. People that never even talked about it, now their pregnant or just had a baby. Ugghh. Happy Sad at the same time.. Gotta love it!!

Exactly.

Man oh man, story of my effing life!!! But hey, you can be happy for someone yet totally upset and jealous about it, right??

Haha, yes. And now that I'm getting out of my woe-is-me puddle, I am definitely excited for them! I don't think the PMS helped at all in this situation...

cloudymeatballs · November 2013

@goodwolf PMS, oh our feminine times. That time of the month, I am an emotional wreck. I am kind of in that part right now. Sister just had a baby, I have been balling randomly since Monday... One of the wonderful things of being an awesome woman!! Gotta love it girl!

eta And with my sister, I mean, its so crazy. Its my younger sister and it is such a wonderful happy emotion it is insane. Getting to be there right before and after, I just want to give her huge hugs when I see her. I am just so proud of her and know what an amazing mother she is going to be. My emotions, this is what I meant.

barefootbluejean204 · November 2013

GoodWolf said:

amandaf6383 said:

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

Yes. I kind of wanted to punch the computer screen when I read about Kelly Clarkson.

^So ditto on the Clarkson and Goodwin popping up on MSN. Even was discussed by my coworkers at lunch. Although 2 of my coworkers which are ladies in their 50's are all the time hinting to me that I should "have 'em while you're young!" :-??

amandaf6383 · November 2013

lilliesandvino said:

amandaf6383 said:

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

Yes. I kind of wanted to punch the computer screen when I read about Kelly Clarkson.
Why? What did she do wrong? I understand being upset about others' being pregnant when you aren't, but this seems like quite the overreaction. My God, no one else's fertility has jack shit to do with yours. I know this is bitchy, but it's really getting whiny around here lately.

lillies - No one's fertility has anything to do with anyone else's but it doesn't mean that it doesn't suck when you're having a bad day and pregnancy announcements are shooting out from left and right.

And if you can handle pregnancy announcements without being bothered, you're a better person than I, but it doesn't mean that someone shouldn't be able to vent on a board made for support. Now, if someone said that Kelly Clarkson or whoever the heck else didn't deserve to be pregnant, or anything like that, that's another story, and it sure would be a whiny one.

amandaf6383 · November 2013

amandaf6383 said:

lilliesandvino said:

amandaf6383 said:

Sorry you had to deal with that.

I thought E Online sending me alerts about fucking Kelly Clarkson and Ginnifer Goodwin being pregnant was bad!

Yes. I kind of wanted to punch the computer screen when I read about Kelly Clarkson.
Why? What did she do wrong? I understand being upset about others' being pregnant when you aren't, but this seems like quite the overreaction. My God, no one else's fertility has jack shit to do with yours. I know this is bitchy, but it's really getting whiny around here lately.

lillies - No one's fertility has anything to do with anyone else's but it doesn't mean that it doesn't suck when you're having a bad day and pregnancy announcements are shooting out from left and right.

And if you can handle pregnancy announcements without being bothered, you're a better person than I, but it doesn't mean that someone shouldn't be able to vent on a board made for support. Now, if someone said that Kelly Clarkson or whoever the heck else didn't deserve to be pregnant, or anything like that, that's another story, and it sure would be a whiny one.

PS - I love you.

lilliesandvino · November 2013

I'm certainly not saying that there aren't times I get upset or jealous of people for a variety of things, but there's a difference between being upset and letting those feelings consume you and your thoughts. I think that some are beginning to cross that line.

seahorse01 · November 2013

lilliesandvino said:

I'm certainly not saying that there aren't times I get upset or jealous of people for a variety of things, but there's a difference between being upset and letting those feelings consume you and your thoughts. I think that some are beginning to cross that line.

I am over the line for sure. I don't exactly know how to fix my feelings, you know. I tell my DH all the time that I wish that I knew how because I don't like being this person. Maybe with time I will get over it?

GoodWolf · November 2013

seahorse01 said:

lilliesandvino said:

I'm certainly not saying that there aren't times I get upset or jealous of people for a variety of things, but there's a difference between being upset and letting those feelings consume you and your thoughts. I think that some are beginning to cross that line.

I am over the line for sure. I don't exactly know how to fix my feelings, you know. I am jealous and resentful of every pregnant person I see.

I think sometimes the hardest part for me is knowing how absolutely irrational and unnecessary my feelings are (and I have no reason to feel this way), but having to wrestle with all of my will power to get over them anyway. Like, why can't I just get the heck over it? Sometimes sharing these irrational thoughts or emotions is what helps me process (and get over them) the best, which is why I shared here.

lilliesandvino · November 2013

I dunno, maybe it's just me. I'm sorry if I'm hurting anyone's feelings, but I really am concerned about how some are dealing with the earlier stages of TTC.

I think that, in general, less comparison of oneself to others makes people happier.

That said, there are girls who have suffered for years and have gone through losses that no one should have to experience. To me, there is a clear distinction between this type of pain and the aforementioned jealousy and disappointment.

GoodWolf · November 2013

lilliesandvino said:

I dunno, maybe it's just me. I'm sorry if I'm hurting anyone's feelings, but I really am concerned about how some are dealing with the earlier stages of TTC. I think that, in general, less comparison of oneself to others makes people happier. That said, there are girls who have suffered for years and have gone through losses that no one should have to experience. To me, there is a clear distinction between this type of pain and the aforementioned jealousy and disappointment.

I would never say that I am in the same category as those who have to go through T-TTC, and it was never my intention to come across this way. Again, I'm very sorry that I didn't think more before posting.

lilliesandvino · November 2013

Ahhhh! Don't apologize! If you feel it, you feel it. It's ok. It's just discussion! People have different points of view; it's an awesome thing.

seahorse01 · November 2013

I told my DH over the weekend that I need the flashy thing from MIB to make me forget that I want a child. Maybe a lobotomy? Clearly dealing with things in a healthy manner is not my strong suit.

poppies717 · November 2013

seahorse01 said:

I told my DH over the weekend that I need the flashy thing from MIB to make me forget that I want a child. Maybe a lobotomy? Clearly dealing with things in a healthy manner is not my strong suit.

That's a good idea. I was told by my therapist tonight that I qualify for clinical depression, anxiety disorder, and adjustment problems (adjusting to medical problem [3T]). Awesome.

Flamingo86 · November 2013

poppies717 said:

seahorse01 said:

I told my DH over the weekend that I need the flashy thing from MIB to make me forget that I want a child. Maybe a lobotomy? Clearly dealing with things in a healthy manner is not my strong suit.

That's a good idea. I was told by my therapist tonight that I qualify for clinical depression, anxiety disorder, and adjustment problems (adjusting to medical problem [3T]). Awesome.

I'll take one of those MIB thingies. Therapists usually have to diagnose you with something for insurance purposes, and it's always fun to see what they say. Mine also diagnosed me with an adjustment disorder as well as PTSD.

@goodwolf, I'm fine with you venting here as much as you want. It's a hard journey and FB blindsides are always difficult.

sgautschi · November 2013

Sorry about the announcements today. There seems to be a lot lately, probably just that time of year I guess with the colder weather and holidays coming up. Hugs to you!

islandmonkey8 · November 2013

Flamingo86 said:

poppies717 said:

seahorse01 said:

I told my DH over the weekend that I need the flashy thing from MIB to make me forget that I want a child. Maybe a lobotomy? Clearly dealing with things in a healthy manner is not my strong suit.

That's a good idea. I was told by my therapist tonight that I qualify for clinical depression, anxiety disorder, and adjustment problems (adjusting to medical problem [3T]). Awesome.

I'll take one of those MIB thingies. Therapists usually have to diagnose you with something for insurance purposes, and it's always fun to see what they say. Mine also diagnosed me with an adjustment disorder as well as PTSD.

@goodwolf, I'm fine with you venting here as much as you want. It's a hard journey and FB blindsides are always difficult.

I have a MIB flashy thing. Bought it when I was like 12. Sadly, it doesn't work. Hardly even flashes anymore!

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