Interesting article (m/c related)

poppies717 · December 2013

Though I haven't experienced a m/c, a lot of this resonated with me and our 3T journey. This was shared on FB by a friend of mine who has twins. I know she had a m/c before the twins, so I'm praying her posting was more about that than a recent one. Enough blabbering. Here's the article:

http://www.scarymommy.com/hatred/

DangerMuffin23 · December 2013

PR stuff related below: I actually really liked it. My experiences have been different, but during (t)ttc I hated pretty much everyone who was pregnant. And honestly I'm having a lot of trouble with that anger going away. I really though if I got pregnant it would disappear, but it hasn't. I'm still an angry bitter deep down.I still get irrationally angry when anyone other than a gper gets pregnant quickly. I'm rambling. You can ignore me.

LuckyAngel07 · December 2013

Thank you so much for sharing this. I needed it. Really really needed it. I'm not quite to the full-on anger stage of grief yet, but I know it's going to come, and I'm a little afraid of just how it will feel.

LooneyLife · December 2013

Big hugs to anyone feeling this way. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you've experienced.

ILoveRedVino · December 2013

I think there are a million emotions that follow loss. Some never go away. I don't think I ever experienced hate, but anger, bitterness, jealousy, devastation, guilt... Yeah. I don't think there is a right or wrong way to grieve and I think most emotions and processes are probably normal.

Flamingo86 · December 2013

Thank you for sharing this. It resonated with me 100%. I know it sounds awful, but I have experienced hate and rage like none other over our losses. I have lost friendships and honestly felt hate towards people I once thought I loved.

I occasionaly babysit for a woman who has 2 children after a long and difficult IF journey, and she has confessed that she still feels bitterness towards other pregnant women. I suspect I will still have some bitterness even after we have a child.

DangerMuffin23 · December 2013

teacherlady79 said:

DangerMuffin23 said:

PR stuff related below: I actually really liked it. My experiences have been different, but during (t)ttc I hated pretty much everyone who was pregnant. And honestly I'm having a lot of trouble with that anger going away. I really though if I got pregnant it would disappear, but it hasn't. I'm still an angry bitter deep down.I still get irrationally angry when anyone other than a gper gets pregnant quickly.

^^ Ditto this for me. Especially knowing that we (ideally) would like to have more than one child, so I'm just going to have to go through the whole financial/emotional/physical drain of treatments again someday. And because of all our issues getting pregnant and my previous losses, it's hard for me to be able to just relax and enjoy being pregnant--I'm constantly worried about when something might go wrong--and it makes me mad that I can't just be relaxed and blissfully ignorant. It makes me angry that it has to be so difficult for me (and many of you) to get and/or stay pregnant, and those who do get to receive that blessing so easily completely take it for granted and don't even realize how truly lucky they are.

All of this. You'd said it better than me and brought up other things I was feeling. Glad we're not alone.

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