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Awkward/Difficult Family Situation (somewhat BR)
DH has never really had a great relationship with his brother. They were never close (okay, they were until BIL married his wife which is a discussion for another day), and BIL lives 8+ hours away. He rarely communicates with DH. DH knows communication is a two-way street, but he has stopped trying after several years of not having his phone calls returned.
BIL texted DH tonight, which was a surprise. He asked some random questions and then got down to the real reason he reached out. DH is pretty upset, and I am, too. I'm trying to keep my head, but I'm not sure how to support DH without causing some major problems down the road.
"Please do not give nephew 1 and nephew 2 toys this Christmas. Here is the link to their college fund accounts."
First, we already bought their gifts. They're getting adorable hats and a book. We see our nephews once a year. We haven't even met nephew 2 yet. I think asking for money is incredibly tacky. It's one thing to ask a parent to spread the word, but please respect our wish to shower our nephews with gifts, especially since we rarely see them. When they're older, we may consider contributing because teenage boys are tough to buy for. But now? Let us be the fun aunt and uncle, right?
He ended with a text asking about if IVF was taking. He told us to keep praying and that it would happen when we least expected it. You already know how my hate fire was fueled with the praying comment, but it just shows the total and complete lack of understanding my BIL has as he gazes upon us infertiles from his fertile ivory tower. Asshole.
And I just had a revelation about my ILs as I reread this. We're the pariahs in the family because everyone else gets KU after spending a night drinking wine. No wonder they don't bother trying to relate/support us.
Sorry. That's a lot. I wish I could give you chocolate for making it to the end. When is Wonkavision coming out? I can see its uses on the internet...
TTC #1 since Feb. '12. dx: "unexplained" IF
After 2 shitty IVF cycles and 1 loss at 6+2 (EDD 11/7/14), DH and I are pursuing DIA.
11/17/2014 - ACTIVE AND WAITING!
Pregnancy was never the end goal; being a mom was.
I've been holding out on GP: I got drunk once and started a blog: Here it is (11/7 update)
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Re: Awkward/Difficult Family Situation (somewhat BR)
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I'm sorry you have to deal with that sweetie. They sound like a couple of gems.
I wish I had some advice to deal with them.
B/w 1/8: betas 17,345, progesterone 25.6
DE IVF ER - 12/2/2016 (17R/10F = 8 frosties); FET 1.0 (1/27/2017) - BFP 6dp5dt (EDD 10/16/2017)
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TTC Since January 2011 - We have bad spermAlso, I'm sorry you have such insensitive ILs. Big hugs!
You show up with those gifts you already bought and he can piss off. Tacky and disrespectful are just the first two words that come to mind.
I'm sorry, Poppies.
"You know you're in love when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams." - Dr. SeussI am sorry that they are unsupportive and being giant jerk faces.
TTC#2 4/14
A Parachute in an Oak Tree: A World of Love
B Born 6.27.13
BFP - 10/29/2016!!!, EDD - 7/8/2017
Also sorry they are so rude to you, and you have to put up with all that bs. Hugs to you!
Cinnabun and Junebug say, "Go Wildcats!"
But the other thing, he sounds like a real jackass.....I fucking hate people like this - oh well keep praying and it will happen blah blah blah. My SIL is like this and I just delete texts from her now when she texts me 'oh, pray blah blah blah'. Sorry for anyone here who is religious. I was raised in the Catholic Church, but I hardly ever go to church, and as far as prayer is concerned, it's just not my thing and it never really was. And I cannot stand people who try to ram that shit down my throat.
Sorry you are dealing with this poppies *virtual hug*
I'm right with everyone else.. I see no problem with them setting up a fund, or even mentioning it to people, and letting them know anyone can contribute.
IMO, it becomes a problem when they are telling people to contribute, instead of gifts, or even along with gifts.
That is so very rude. Lots of Hugs to you!!
After 2 years of TTC, lots of tests, and a Hysteroscopy/Laparoscopy to remove several polyps,
Clomid/IUI #1 3/14: cancelled due to surprise BFP 3/8/14.
Beta 1 3/11: 398 Beta 2 3/13: 728 Beta 3 3/20: 11,482
Surprise BFP turns into Surprise Twins!
Zoey and Garrett born 10/24/14 at 36+3
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Baby E born: 2/16/2014 at 12:56pm. 5lb 15oz
I'm sorry BIL is such a tool
Can you just reply back "Sorry, already bought their gifts this year! Maybe next year." (even though you likely won't!!) I might even add "Oh and PS, please don't get any gifts for us this year.. instead, please contribute to our IVF fund!" 
Really though, I'm sorry they are being so difficult.. ((hugs))
In Christ alone my hope is found. He is my LIGHT, my STRENGTH, and my SONG!
T-TTC since Dec 2008. PCOS/nonexistant cycles(anovulation) and endo. HSG in '10 revealed both tubes blocked. Lap surgery in Dec '10 to correct. Failed Clomid/IUI and injectable(Bravelle)/IUI cycles so far.