How long did you date your s/o?

roocioosb · December 2013

We weren't officially "dating". We met in August, it happened in November, although we had been out together, we started "dating" a few weeks after it happened. We were engaged by February. Pretty quick..

There is not time limit for that, though. It's whatever works for y'all

skaitlin · December 2013

@lifeguard

I wasn't aware that I was bragging. My apologies (Sarcasm intended.).

I never said anything about being "so pure" or "virginal" when I got married. Yeah, we slipped up a few times and maybe crossed a line that we didn't want to. But we aren't perfect and I never claimed to be. We didn't have intercourse. But to be quite frank with you, I am not sure why you decided to pick at this, I mean, what does it matter to you if my definition of making out is different than yours? It was my personal decision.

If you want to debate about what it means to be a virgin before marriage, then let's find a different place to do that. This was simply a thread to share one tidbit from our relationships.

lifeguard · December 2013

I don't like misunderstandings.

Belthil · December 2013

We dated for 2 weeks before sleeping together, but we arbitrarily picked a starting date about 4 months into our relationship as neither of us thought the relationship was going to last when we started dating. We started dating knowing I was leaving the country in 4 months for school and both thought it would be a fun summer fling. Who would've known we'd be married 4 years later!

Kimbus22 · December 2013

I'm pretty sure we were boning for almost a year before we started dating...

ErikaB123 · December 2013

I didn't read all of the comments but I'm pretty sure I blow all of you out of the water as far as the longest waiting period. SIX AND A HALF YEARS. Yes, my husband waited 6 and a half years for me. Our first time was our wedding night and it was beautiful.

afox007 · December 2013

FI was supposed to be a one night stand. Our first "date" was pizza, beer, and sex on the beach, but then he suggested I stay the night and when we woke up cuddling the next morning it was most natural normal feeling for both of us and we were inseparable after that.

Rampage007 · December 2013

We waited a week after we started dating in highschool.

lifeguard · December 2013

skaitlin said:

@lifeguard

I wasn't aware that I was bragging. My apologies (Sarcasm intended.).

I never said anything about being "so pure" or "virginal" when I got married. Yeah, we slipped up a few times and maybe crossed a line that we didn't want to. But we aren't perfect and I never claimed to be. We didn't have intercourse. But to be quite frank with you, I am not sure why you decided to pick at this, I mean, what does it matter to you if my definition of making out is different than yours? It was my personal decision.

If you want to debate about what it means to be a virgin before marriage, then let's find a different place to do that. This was simply a thread to share one tidbit from our relationships.

I understand and did not intend to insult you, sorry.
It's just that I've heard all kinds of girls claim virginity and yet they were noted for giving BJ's. Some people claim if the guy is "inside" you in some manner , you are no longer a virgin.......... .

cpg002 · December 2013

We waited for six years. I am also very old fashioned and wanted to wait until we were married.

skaitlin · December 2013

lifeguard said:

skaitlin said:

@lifeguard

I wasn't aware that I was bragging. My apologies (Sarcasm intended.).

I never said anything about being "so pure" or "virginal" when I got married. Yeah, we slipped up a few times and maybe crossed a line that we didn't want to. But we aren't perfect and I never claimed to be. We didn't have intercourse. But to be quite frank with you, I am not sure why you decided to pick at this, I mean, what does it matter to you if my definition of making out is different than yours? It was my personal decision.

If you want to debate about what it means to be a virgin before marriage, then let's find a different place to do that. This was simply a thread to share one tidbit from our relationships.

I understand and did not intend to insult you, sorry.
It's just that I've heard all kinds of girls claim virginity and yet they were noted for giving BJ's. Some folk claim if the guy is "inside" you in some manner , the virgin label may or may not apply.......... . One remark that startled me was a girl saying we couldn't wait to get married and get past the virgin thing because........Sometimes her "bum" was sore before her fiance could "finish".

I totally understand your frustration on the topic, trust me. I was not insulted, mostly I was just confused as to why you jumped on me specifically. I mean, I was not the only one on the thread who said they waited until marriage.

But ultimately I don't really think we disagree. My husband and I made our decision because of our beliefs as well as our own personal morals, and I know it's not the standard these days, but we stuck to it because it was worth it to us.

Kimbus22 · December 2013

I can't even fathom waiting years. DH and I can barely tolerate one another after 6 days without sex. We never would have made it 6 years. Someone would have been in a body bag.

skaitlin · December 2013

Kimbus22 said:

I can't even fathom waiting years. DH and I can barely tolerate one another after 6 days without sex. We never would have made it 6 years. Someone would have been in a body bag.

Well, the beauty of relationships is that every one is different.

SallyRae1120 · December 2013

1 year 2 weeks of dating and 8.5 months of engagement. So 1 year, 9 months total.

TattieSoup · January 2014

I'm one of the ones who had the sex before the dating. My husband and I worked together and after a late shift on my birthday I wanted to go out and he was the only other person who didn't have plans so we got a drink together. We missed our respective last buses and ended up going back to spend the night at work. We had sex in the staff room shower but it was very awkward because the condom fit badly and my husband couldn't get to orgasm. Even though it had originally been a one night thing I wanted to make it up to him so after work that day I went home with him. I stayed at his house every night for about a week and then we had a talk and decided we were basically dating by default. That was six years ago.

Jennycolada · January 2014

Well we started dating almost immediately since we first met each other (we met online...OkCupid, so when we first met it was with the intention of being in a relationship). Both of us are very sexually liberal, so I think we had sex like the third day (and that's only because on the second day he didn't have protection).

I think the longest that I've ever waited is two months.

na41313 · January 2014

We made it 3 months into dating, about 6 months of sitting next to each other in a history class. When we started dating I dreamed of waiting a year but it didn't quite work out that way. We were both 19 and each other's first. We were two college freshmen that were crazy about each other and I wouldn't change a thing.

runnergirl86 · January 2014

We waited until our wedding night. We dated 7 month before getting married and were long distance the entire time (both in the military, he was stationed overseas, I was stateside). We did see each other once while dating but decided to abstain during that time, just making out, clothes remained on, and I'm really glad we did wait.

PixieChinchilla · January 2014

Two and a half years.

We waited until we were married.

ShelbyGT21 · January 2014

I wanted to wait until marriage, so six years. We were each other's first's. Newly married 12/21/13! I can't believe there are quite a few other ladies that have waited just as long! It's a rarity! But to each their own!

Autumn&Ray · January 2014

We were dating for two months before we slept together but it took a lot of self control.

schuette2 · January 2014

2 weeks, I believe, and when I showed up at his apartment he actually had to tell the people he was playing WoW online with that a horny girl was in his apartment. No one believed him. I always tell him the Big Bang Theory show was based off him and his friends.

krlcsm · January 2014

It was about a month and one week. We were only dating then, but, about three weeks later, we became exclusive. Moved in together 7 months later, then, married 2 years later.

dragonstarjk · January 2014

skaitlin said:

My husband and I are both really old fashioned so we waited until we got married. Brace yourselves, we waited about 5 1/2 years to have sex. Say what you will, but it worked for us and I wouldn't have done it any differently.

dragonstarjk · January 2014

skaitlin said:

My husband and I are both really old fashioned so we waited until we got married. Brace yourselves, we waited about 5 1/2 years to have sex. Say what you will, but it worked for us and I wouldn't have done it any differently.

happilyeverafter893 · February 2014

We started fooling around (fondling, making out) when we were 3 weeks together and we slept with each other the first time two months after we met. I was a virgin when I met him and I was waiting for the right man to give that up to and I'm glad I waited for him

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