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How would you take this?
Re: How would you take this?
Normally, I would too but it's someone I'm conversing with. I want to know what they mean.
I see the first two sentences as positive but the rest just odd?
Thanks for your input!
There is some background to this. A married man has been messaging me. I am responding but only casual talk. I don't fool around with married men/never would. This man does not live anywhere near me. He's someone I know though. He's been asking for pics of me because he finds me attractive.
My latest response to him before he wrote the quote I am confused about was: You're married and I'm not sure you're wife get upset if I sent you more pics. I don't feel comfortable but have no problem talking to you.
He said his wife would not mind at all that she knows all of his online friends. Just don't get why he would say that to me after I brought up his wife.
He says he is happily married. Why would he want pics of me/flirt with me? He says thinks like he would like to look into my eyes and be across a table sharing a drink with me. I doubt he has an open marriage even though he says his wife would not mind his correspondence with me. I'm thinking...she doesn't know?
Thank you so much for responding! I agree.
I think he is looking to cheat on her. He is barking up the wrong tree. Still very confused about why he made that statement after I mentioned his wife. I know I need to not worry about analyzing it but it is bugging me....the statement he made after I mentioned his wife. Unless it's his weird way of saying I know you want me but you're playing dumb??
I made him angry??
This is what he said after I brought up his wife...
My wife is aware of all my online friends and real friends. We've been together for many years and have an incredibly strong bond (children, property). She would not mind at all.
The last thing he said was...send me a picture of your lovely self. I find you attractive and want to know you.
The study is true. My niece's 10th grade class are discussing social media's positive and negative effects.
The guy in the band is absolutely true! I have been supporting this person's new band. This man after I did several shares about his band emailed me through FB to thank me and has been talking to me since. He is making me a little uncomfortable with that as of late and want some imput.
I was defriended by someone in my family.
You are probably right that I should get off the net. Seems to bring more negative than positive.
He's not a lead singer or anything but a man who has been in a couple (one especially) successful bands. I feel like a jerk cutting him off but at the same time don't want to get into anything with him as he is married. I really want to know what the heck his statement means.
Why is this ridiculous? He is a musician lol I don't think it's uncommon for them to hit on women. I don't view them as Gods. He happens to be a pervy guy. Again, it's his statement I find mind boggling.
This is true! By the way, my niece's classroom study has found the net has more negative effects than positive ones. How awesome you went to Italy!! I hear it's beautiful!
How would this sound to a man if I send a message to this effect to him:
While I really enjoy talking to you online, I don't feel comfortable sharing pictures with you simply because I fear that I may become emotionally attached if I get too personal with you. Thinking about everything my life and your life, it's not even realistic that I would be able to see you. I don't mind exchanging words on email and I will 1,000% support your band and any future projects you may become involved in.
How would a MAN take that? He's told me that he looks at my profile picture often. He is def. obsessive whether he be dangerous or not I do not know.
I basically want to say something that will make him back off on hitting on me. At the same time I want to remain in contact and keep the peace. I think he is very talented and do want to support. It's the wife thing I have an issue with - a big issue as I was cheated on. It's an especially sore subject to me so I could relate to the woman.
Problem is hard to know how a man will interpret the message. They usually do not think the same way we do. So if anyone can help me think of a nice phrasing to get him to back off but at the same time keep the peace, I would love to hear what you have to say. Thanks!
If you don't mind me asking, what is your relationship status? As a happily married/partnered woman, my only response to this would be to block him and stop responding. Actually, would have done the same if single because he's married and decent guys don't request pics from strangers online. You yourself call him "pervy"-is that someone you want to be friends with? You can still be a fan of his music, but the only safe way I see to proceed is to just stop responding. Then he'll move onto his next victim.
And ditto @hoffse, take an internet break!
Seriously? You really REALLY need to just stop messaging him. Not even a goodbye, I can't talk to you anymore sort of message. Just stop, hit delete. He sounds creepy and gross and you should not be friends or whatever with him. Ick. He sounds disgusting. It sounds like when you said no, he heard "try harder" because he thinks you're the kind of girl who will eventually break down. Do you want to be that girl?