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shaina925
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need some advice
Quick background, we have been married a little over a year and together for a little over 5 years. Over the past few years I've wanted to stop in the middle of kissing to talk. It drives him crazy (as I can understand) but I don't know why I do this. In fact its pretty much the only thing we argue about. I ended up in tears tonight because we kissed for a bit but he could tell I was disinterested and wanted to talk about the moment instead of just being I'm the moment. He got frustrated and gave up. Then he said that I don't try anymore sexually, basically that I'm lazy... Which I have to agree with. It wasn't like this when we first started dating. I need to change things, sex is almost always the way I want and when he changes it, I can't seem to enjoy it much. I can see how its not much fun for him to always do the same thing. I feel like the effort I used to put in was at a 9 and now its at a 2. Maybe I am too comfortable in our married life? I want to make things better very badly. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thank you so much 
Re: need some advice
..........However, some things which come to mind are;
Is sex the only time when you have his undivided attention?.......do you both talk, properly at length in deep conversations, when you are NOT havign sex? Do you, in fact, have a full relationship with time for each other or is life one hectic scramble with just a few stolen minutes for sex?
....Could this be plain and simple boredom?...you imply that sex is always the same. Perhaps it's time for something new in your relationship. This will usually result in developments to your sex life as well....
Lastly, remember that sex is very diffrently 'wired' in women to men.......women need an emotional input to enjoy sex and part of that is interaction with their man by way of normal conversation.