October 2012 Weddings
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How do you keep your mind off disappointment and stress (TTC vent)
I know we have only been TTC for 9 months, and "it could take a year", but this weekend's AF arrival really hit me hard. The fact that we aren't having a baby in 2015 just sucks and the months where if we were lucky enough to conceive early on (my naive self thought about a May EDD last summer when we first started trying) are starting to creep up, so it kind of gives it a new perspective of how long it is.
Stats don't make me feel ok anymore. Sure 85% conceive within this first year of trying, but 80% conceive within the first 6 months, so I feel like we are working on an uphill battle. And we have done the laid back, see what happens months; we've done the charting and knowing we have had 6 months of great timing. I'm going to take the month off from temping.
I just can't help but letting the questions of whether something is wrong with my body creep into my head, but yet I know we are still 3 months from even starting the process to find out. And I know that in itself is a stressful process. And damn it, it's not that easy to "just relax". Haha
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I know there are ladies here that have been trying longer than me and I really hope my vent doesn't come across as AWish. I'm sorry. I realize it's still early; this cycle just stung more.
So I guess I was wondering what you ladies do to help get your mind off frustrations and disappointments. I've been doing an art class to have a creative outlet for months and I love it. I've tried to dump myself into house hunting recently, but that is kind of adding another layer of stress in itself!! Ha. What are some other ideas to keep my mind off things??? TIA!!
Eta: holy wall of text. Sorry about the novel and I tried to break it up some!
Stats don't make me feel ok anymore. Sure 85% conceive within this first year of trying, but 80% conceive within the first 6 months, so I feel like we are working on an uphill battle. And we have done the laid back, see what happens months; we've done the charting and knowing we have had 6 months of great timing. I'm going to take the month off from temping.
I just can't help but letting the questions of whether something is wrong with my body creep into my head, but yet I know we are still 3 months from even starting the process to find out. And I know that in itself is a stressful process. And damn it, it's not that easy to "just relax". Haha
---- end vent-----
I know there are ladies here that have been trying longer than me and I really hope my vent doesn't come across as AWish. I'm sorry. I realize it's still early; this cycle just stung more.
So I guess I was wondering what you ladies do to help get your mind off frustrations and disappointments. I've been doing an art class to have a creative outlet for months and I love it. I've tried to dump myself into house hunting recently, but that is kind of adding another layer of stress in itself!! Ha. What are some other ideas to keep my mind off things??? TIA!!
Eta: holy wall of text. Sorry about the novel and I tried to break it up some!
Re: How do you keep your mind off disappointment and stress (TTC vent)
@ystaalenburg I'm going to be 30 in a few months. I'm really happy that I temped because I got a much better idea of what my cycle is like, and I confirmed O many times, so that is a relief. But I also feel that knowing that, it's more of a mystery why it hasn't worked yet. I have also had really short periods. Like light 1 day periods the last two, though this one seems like it might be a light 2 day one (sorry tmi). I'm going to contact my dr about that when this one is done. As for skirting the year, I don't think my DH would like that. He is kind of by the books and since he heard it directly from the dr at the preconception seminar, I doubt he would want to lie to push it up. Right now I'm going to include our first month off bcp and ntnp in our yr estimate to the dr though, which is early July. Lol nice bday present!
Ahh, thanks again ladies. I feel like even just writing out how I was feeling lifted a weight and hopefully I will just get up and move on from this bummed out state. Thanks again!! And good luck to you ladies trying too!!
I feel the same way that you do. I even cried this past cycle. I know other people have been trying longer than me and I shouldn't get so discouraged. Ill be honest and say that I try to stay away from our ttc posts and never go on the bump. I don't like to talk about it much online since I never know who might be reading. I try not to think about it too much which I hope helps.
@Christinavy, I have a hard time wondering why God makes it hard for some couples who are so deserving to have children, but I do pray a lot about it. I pray that He helps me through my pain and envy that have come over me during this process, because that isn't who I usually am.
Also, I really didn't mean that the pregnant women in our group couldn't weigh in on stress relief in general.