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Help-she hates me!
My husband's brother is getting married. The woman he is marrying hates me. She's hated me since I first met her. She's mean to me, her friends are mean to me. I have invited her to lunch, drinks, dinner, shopping, she either ignores me or makes up some excuse. My husband didn't believe me at first and now he just says it's her being insecure. My question is, do I tell anyone else in the family? My mother in law? It's been going on for years and I just don't think I can take it anymore. I don't want to ruin their wedding, but I'm really hurt by this and my husband is so close to his family, I just don't want to ruin everything. My own family lives far away and I never see them. What should I do?
Re: Help-she hates me!
I'm serious --- try this approach. Who knows what it is she's pissed at?
Maybe she *heard* something about you (which, of course, is not true) or something else is afoot. Who knows what she's thinking or what's precipitated this?
If that doesn't work, tell her point blank that you do not appreciate her rancor and that she is to treat you civilly.
Why should you walk on eggs around her? Bullshit --- try it and see what happens. GL.
Good grief - NO, don't tell the rest of this family. What's the point of that?
And I agree w/ Disney- you all may be marrying brothers but that doesn't mean you have to be close. Accept that you won't be. Be civil and polite and leave it at that. Focus on the rest of the family- on the people who do like you. don't give this girl too much power in your life.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
This. If you can't restrain yourself from saying something, at least wait until after the wedding. It's definitely not going to help the relationship if you start stirring up crap right before she gets married. But I would just accept that you aren't going to hang out and leave it at that. I don't hang out with either of my SILs and never really gave it a moment's thought. You don't have to hang out with or even like everyone in your extended family.