Housewarming parties

vlagrl29 · April 2014

thanks for reminding me i need to write thank you notes for DD's birthday party a month ago….

formerlyGDaisy09 · April 2014

you're welcome!

juliebeannn · April 2014

ummm. i always bring my fav cleaning supplies, toilet paper and a bottle of wine to housewarmings. i'm a practical gifts kind of girl. haha.

short+sassy · April 2014

I find it pretty weird she is even expecting to get a bunch of gift cards. A typical and appropriate housewarming gift is a token...not a windfall. Like a bottle of wine, scented candles, a plant, etc. Like the other PPs, I think your gift sounds lovely, though it sounds like she may not appreciate it.

formerlyGDaisy09 · April 2014

Got the invitation today. She is holding the party Memorial Day weekend, it is BYOB and BYO meat for the grill? This seems odd, come bring me presents, but bing your own booze and meal??

hoffse · April 2014

Oh hell no.

You host a party = you pay.

Xstatic3333 · April 2014

hoffse said:
Oh hell no.

You host a party = you pay.

Preach.

*"Bring some beer" is pretty standard in my friend group, but not for a party formal enough for real invitations.

hoffse · April 2014

BYOB is totally fine when it's a group that gets together often or you're really just volunteering your house. H has some friends that do board game night every couple of weeks. They rotate houses, and it's always BYOB and potluck. The host provides the meat or entree, everybody else brings sides and dessert. That sort of thing is 100% fine.

But at a housewarming party where you are expecting people to bring you presents? Miss Manners would have a conniption.

hoffse · April 2014

Oh and let me point out - even my H's overly-debt-leveraged law school group still has the courtesy for the "host" (using that term loosely) to provide meat for the grill when it's their turn. If people want to bring other stuff for grilling that's cool too, but it's understood that the host buys the meat.

The meat and the alcohol are the most expensive parts!

Gah my eye is twitching.

CuriousKiddosMama · April 2014

Seriously, at this point, I wouldn't go. I need to bring my own booze, meat, and a freaking present? What kind of house warming party is this? That is very tacky. I can understand a BYOB party- to some extent because it does get expensive if people think they are going to come and drink a ton, but wow!

vlagrl29 · April 2014

No…don't go! When we have parties at our house we provide the meat, buns if needed and drinks. Other's bring sides and alcohol if they have a kind they really like that we may not have.

So what are they providing? The sides and desserts. LOL and hopefully a grill

Someone needs to teach this girl some etiquette.

HoneyBee973 · April 2014

Bring a gift, food, alcohol, and what else? Cleaning supplies so you can clean up after the party? I would not be going. This girl needs a reality check.

formerlyGDaisy09 · April 2014

Thank you all! H thought I was a little crazy when I started yelling at the invitation!

This is a friend from a group that does once a month get togethers where we rotate houses and everyone brings a snack and a bottle of wine...but those are arranged semi-last minute via text message, not invitations in the mail!

whenever we host parties we always provide a full meal, if people ask if they can bring something we usually say a bottle of wine, some beer, or an appetizer/dessert...nothing that anyone would miss if it didn't show-up. We always supply enough alcohol for 1 drink per-person per hour...but if people want to get sloshed we suggest they bring something to contribute.

This is exactly one of the main reasons why H and I never had a housewarming because we didn't have the $$ to throw a party

brij2006 · April 2014

This girl needs a bit of an adjustment. It's one thing to say, "hey, come over and check out our new place. We'll have the grill going and do a bonfire at night. If you want to join us to eat, it's at X time. We'll provide the main course and just bring a dish to pass." Then people know it's to come see the new house and they can bring a housewarming token if they would like. If not, they're coming over for a get together.

Although we had a friend do a Target "wishlist" for her housewarming party. I found it grabby, but bought her a drink glass she had on there and a bottle of booze. She provided the food for the night though, and without the registry I would've bought her something for the new house anyways.

I say tell her you won't be there for dinner but will come later. Bring the plant as your housewarming gift and your own booze.

formerlyGDaisy09 · May 2014

WTH is with all these BYOB and BYO-Food parties??? One or the other, ok fine, I can deal. Just got invited to a graduation party where we are again asked to supply our own meal and alcohol??

I don't get it. If you must have a party to AW some life accomplishment please offer your guests something besides a location and time. If you don't have the money, don't have a party!

Oh yea, both these parties we've also been asked to bring our own chairs if we'd like a place to sit,

Xstatic3333 · May 2014

Yeah that's annoying. One or the other, I agree. Now I like potluck as a reason to cook for others and try new stuff, but I get the sense that's not the vibe you're describing. It's also easy enough to have a 2 pm dessert party or an 8 pm hors d'eorves (sp? no clue) party if you can't swing a full meal.

formerlyGDaisy09 · May 2014

Exactly! And this party is at her parents house, a good hour to 90 minute drive for everyone!
I like the hor d'oeuvres/dessert idea too!

Granted I've also gotten tired of throwing parties that no one RSVPs to, so figuring out food becomes a nightmare. I hate how electronics have turned us into commitment-phobes

Xstatic3333 · May 2014

Gdaisy09 said:
Exactly! And this party is at her parents house, a good hour to 90 minute drive for everyone!
I like the hor d'oeuvres/dessert idea too!

Granted I've also gotten tired of throwing parties that no one RSVPs to, so figuring out food becomes a nightmare. I hate how electronics have turned us into commitment-phobes

Thats so true. I have the worst time keeping track of evites. I do slightly better with FB invites just since I use FB a lot and see the reminders. Getting H to commit so I can actually RSVP is tough. He hates being pinned down for something weeks in advance.

I felt awful back in March. I was invited to a housewarming on a Saturday and put the date in my calendar and RSVPed yes. In my circle Saturday parties are nearly always at night, particularly if St. Patties themed, and it never occurred to me that it wouldn't be. Well, when I check the evite around 4 to see when it will start, I find that was a daytime party and is already over. The friend hosting is very chill and was super understanding, but I think I'll feel guilty forever when I see her.

I do have dreams of throwing a kick butt housewarming once we move, fully hosted. It will take some saving for sure, but I've always wanted to try!

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