Friend and Thank You card issue

Re: Friend and Thank You card issue

• artbyallie

  

  member

  August 2014

  Jae179 said:

  Hi everyone

  I have a question please and thank you. I had a friend mail me a nice baby gift. She didn't realize I was having a baby shower a couple of months later so I also asked the host to invite her to that. She said no, saying I didn't send her a thank you card and was now asking for more gifts.

  The thing is I had texted her thank you, was not expecting another gift at my shower and was going to mail her a thank you card after my shower along with everyone else's, but she didn't give me the chance. Granted, like I said my shower is a couple of months after she sent the gift. I had also gone to her baby shower when she had one and brought a gift.

  Is she being petty or should I have sent her a thank you card right away? What do you all think?

  Thanks so much

  You should have sent a thank you note immediately. It's rude to wait months before doing so. And yes, I agree with her that inviting her to your shower after she had already sent a gift was gift-grabby.

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• Jae179

  

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  August 2014 edited August 2014

  
  

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• Disneygeek77

  

  member

  August 2014

  Not you again.

  
  

  Yes it was rude to not send a handwritten thank you card within a few weeks of receiving a gift.

  
  

  Yes it was rude to invite her to another gift giving event.  

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• VOR

  

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  August 2014

  Disneygeek77 said:

  Not you again.

  
  

  
  Oh hell. Gotta go w/ MUD. This is just too much.

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• GilliC

  

  member

  August 2014

  She probably assumed you were having a shower, but wanted to mail you the gift and skip the shower so that her illness and "drama" don't affect your chance to "enjoy this time."

  
  

  btw, before you ask, it's also rude to put a time on the shower invitations and then show up half an hour later to make sure you don't have to deal with latecomers.

  

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• catsareniice1

  

  member

  August 2014

  Texted a thank you? SMH.

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• Ilumine

  

  mod

  August 2014

  Wow.  You really and truly have some social issues.  

  
  

  I am not saying this to be snarky or mean, I truly am not.  But given the number of posts where you have done these very basic "manners" and "interpersonal" gaffs....

  
  

  how have you NOT figured out that the problem lies within you?  

  
  

  Basic manners dictates a handwritten thank you card.  WHY?  Because the senders time & actions - from choosing the gift, to actively taking the time to buying the gift, to using the money that they have earned to buying the gift (even the gas to drive to the store or paying for shipping) is WORTH more than the 20 seconds an email or Facebook message thank you.  

  
  

  It is worth the 2 minutes it takes to sit your tuckus down, write a letter on plain paper, stuff it in an envelope and put a $0.49 stamp on it and throw it in the mailbox as you walk out the door. 

  
  

  The fact that you cannot SEE that or be bothered shows a lack of something within you. Be it, again just an understanding of basic manners, to empathy and compassion or just a bout of selfishness.  

  
  

  I don't know.  But I do know that as age and/or move into a more professional business world, you are going to come upon more and more situations like this.  And if you do not get a handle on these basic skills you are going to lose your good friends and positive business reputation and pretty much only keep those people who are like minded/actioned.  

  
  

  Which will just bring you back here to complain about how mean and insensitive your remaining friends are.   

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