Now what?

Re: Now what?

• BlueBirdMB

  

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  October 2014

  Go back to your normal life?  Didn't you have a fulfilling life before your engagement?  Do that stuff

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• GilliC

  

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  October 2014

  Have you checked out the Nest Book Club board? If you're missing the planning and organizing from the wedding, the fall book challenge just started. You can spend a decent bit of time researching books for the different categories and tracking them down. Comes complete with a planning spreadsheet!

  http://forums.thenest.com/discussion/12020285/fbc-spreadsheet
  

  

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• SheMarie82

  

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  October 2014

  I am not saying that I am unfulfilled in my life.  When planning the wedding, I didn't stop doing the things that I was, I just had to become more efficient.  Now that I am not working on the wedding stuff, I just have more time.  I may have not been clear.  The same thing happened when I was done with college, I had extra time that was no longer dedicated to one specific task.

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• BlueBirdMB

  

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  October 2014

  SheMarie82 said:

  I am not saying that I am unfulfilled in my life.  When planning the wedding, I didn't stop doing the things that I was, I just had to become more efficient.  Now that I am not working on the wedding stuff, I just have more time.  I may have not been clear.  The same thing happened when I was done with college, I had extra time that was no longer dedicated to one specific task.

  I wish I had extra time.  Maybe you should do some volunteer work?  Or just spend more quality time with your husband.  

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• bekt14

  

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  October 2014

  I've only been married 5 days, but I feel just as busy as I did while planning. I have so many thank you notes to write, name change,  merge our finances/insurance/utilities, organizing our new home together, un-pack all our wedding stuff, clean wedding dress, have lots of sex , get back to my old hobbies, go through all the wedding pictures and start a scrap book, catch-up on work that I missed during the honeymoon, figure out our holiday schedule between our families, plan our vacation for our anniversary next year, look for a house to buy next year, start saving for said house.... the list goes on. I feel like married life is as hectic as engaged life so far... but I just started. 

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• catsareniice1

  

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  October 2014

  How about volunteer your time or foster a pet(s)?

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• SheMarie82

  

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  October 2014

  I am the chair for my county's relay for life, sit on 3 boards, and am president of another. I don't think that my wife will let me volunteer anymore than that!

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• theholmanherd

  

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  October 2014

  I get what you're saying. I eloped, so I didn't plan a wedding, but I understood your post-college reference. I just took on a new hobby. I write novels and read a lot in my free time. Find a new hobby. Or just give yourself a little while to readjust to the new schedule. You'll calm down again and things will get back to normal. It's okay to not have every minute scheduled

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• chrisnjay05212010

  

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  October 2014

  i wasn't like this after my wedding, i was THRILLED to be done planning a wedding.  But after grad school i felt that way.  I was going to grad school, planning a wedding and buying a house all at the same time.  I wrapped up grad school about 6 months before the wedding.  At first i felt alittle lost or like i was forgetting to do something.  But i quickly adjusted and filled in the space with more things for me.
  
  Now i fill me time with zumba, yoga, taking my dog on walks, enjoying my own tv shows or just relaxing with hubby on the couch doing nothing.
  

  
  

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• tseguin

  

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  October 2014

  I remember feeling the same way. I had/still have a fulfilling life, but, your life was consumed with the thought of/and planning a wedding and all or any events leading up to the wedding.  Just relax and enjoy some of the "down time" until life feels more normal and back to pre-wedding planning.

  

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• Munashi

  

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  October 2014

  Sometimes you just get used to being busy!  Start up a new project if you feel like you need to keep your hands busy, so to speak.

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