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Brother in law's girlfriend
DH and I have been together for almost 8 years. As long as we have been together I have known my BIL and throughout the years we have become extremely close. We had our bad moments here and there but overall are good friends. And because of this close relationship and respect for my DH I have not destroyed BIL's gf.
She seems like she is hell bent on making my life miserable. BIL and this girl have been together as long as DH and I have been together with them dating three months after we started dating. And because of my BIL's complaints in the first year I decided to get her a job where I was working.We were fine that entire summer until I went back up to college and in my Senior year of undergrad she decided she doesn't want to speak to me anymore. Which was fine because I never had a close relationship with her anyway even with my attempts to. Flash forward four years to the year I am getting married she decides to become the bitch from hell.
In the past year (and a few times in the four years of not speaking) I would not say hi to her unless she said hi first. I was taught to speak when spoken to especially since BIL told me she didn't like me. Apparently that was a problem. I decided to make an effort and start a group thread with all the couples in his family (mostly his siblings and their SO). She has on three separate occasions started an argument with me in this group thread. One was about me not inviting her places, one was my birthday event during the years she wasn't speaking to me, another was me blocking her on fb, after i was tired of all my statuses being monitored and being accused of them ALL being about her (like really), and the last was someone sent her a website text message saying nasty things and she assumed it was me.
Everyone informed me its a jealousy thing because she has three kids and isn't married but I have a college degree and am now married and instead of figuring out her relationship she rather attack me? I don't want to be in competition with her. She wants to be the number one gf in the number one relationship. How can I stop her from constantly attacking me?
Re: Brother in law's girlfriend
Hell, my parents divorced 24 YEARS ago, and my maternal family members STILL to this day attack my father on a regular basis.
All you can do is control the way you respond to her. She is likely jealous that you've been with your DH the same amount of time that she's been with your BIL and he hasn't put a ring on it, much less two.
Honestly, I'd ignore her completely and feel sorry for her. It takes a lot of personal strife to be that petty and miserable.
The best thing I managed to do was just make my life good and focus on those I love. If a person who is acting nasty acts immaturely to a person who is calm, then true colors show.
You are not in competition with her because to compete means two people agree to be against each other. You did not agree to this therefore there isn't a competition but just someone who is directing their misguided feelings at someone who has little to do with them.
Thanks again