NMR: I don't get these types of people (Facebook)

catsareniice1 · January 2015

I do not understand people who use Facebook and never post or like a funny status. I noticed that 95% of these people only post family pictures, vacation pictures and brag.

While I enjoy seeing some of the pictures, I am baffled by the people who show zero sense of humor.

I also noticed that my married friends rarely like my statuses. I like statuses whether the poster is married or single.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

In general, I try not to analyze too much about what happens on FB. I might fall into the category you're describing, but to me the purpose of FB is to keep in touch with my family and friends and see what they're up to. Though don't bother me or anything, but I rarely repost memes. If they make me giggle, sure I'd like one, but I'm more into FB for keeping in touch.

I'd guess that the married/single thing is just a coincidence, and that your friends who happen to be married just also happen to be less into FB.

brij2006 · January 2015

Eh, everyone uses Facebook for different purposes.

The only things that really get to me are when someone is constantly bragging about their husband or posting on their spouses wall about how amazing they are or thanking them. Um, you live with them. You want to show them you appreciate what they did, then tell them.

bmo88 · January 2015

brij2006 said:

Eh, everyone uses Facebook for different purposes.

The only things that really get to me are when someone is constantly bragging about their husband or posting on their spouses wall about how amazing they are or thanking them. Um, you live with them. You want to show them you appreciate what they did, then tell them.

Exactly!!! I don't understand that. My cousin used to share a profile with her now ex-husband. She would post all the time about what an amazing man he was and how he would cook and clean. He was ok with her quitting her job because she didn't like it, ya da ya da. Then, they got divorced 7 months after getting married. I guess it was all a facade.

brij2006 · January 2015

bmo88 said:

brij2006 said:

Eh, everyone uses Facebook for different purposes.

The only things that really get to me are when someone is constantly bragging about their husband or posting on their spouses wall about how amazing they are or thanking them. Um, you live with them. You want to show them you appreciate what they did, then tell them.

Exactly!!! I don't understand that. My cousin used to share a profile with her now ex-husband. She would post all the time about what an amazing man he was and how he would cook and clean. He was ok with her quitting her job because she didn't like it, ya da ya da. Then, they got divorced 7 months after getting married. I guess it was all a facade.

I want to say there was a study floating around somewhere about this. That the couples who brag about their relationship on facebook are usually the ones in a broken relationship.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

The other one that drives me crazy is political stuff. I seem to have friends divided 50/50 on their political views and a bunch of them just won't shut up about it on FB. I don't really mind interesting articles from either side that bring up good points, but a lot of it so polarizing when so many issues have a lot of grey areas in reality. If the crux of your argument is "this is all Obama's fault!" or "this is all the conservatives' fault!" you probably need a better argument.

strickland8052 · January 2015

My Facebook pet peeve is when people block or unfriend you for no apparent reason. A couple of old "friends" from high school did this to me. We never had an argument or anything like that... In fact, I had not even seen them in 5 years. They just randomly deleted me one day and declined my request when I tried to add them back. A coworker also did that to me after a very small argument in real life. That stuff makes things super awkward in person. Why do it? I know that all of these people would be real nice and polite to my face, so blocking on facebook seems so strange to me.

If you don't like what I post (which I don't really post much of anything anyway) then just hide my statuses. If you don't want me to see what you post then just change your security settings. I think that the block feature should be for creepy ex boyfriends or stalkers.. and that is about the only time it should be used.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

strickland8052 said:

My Facebook pet peeve is when people block or unfriend you for no apparent reason. A couple of old "friends" from high school did this to me. We never had an argument or anything like that... In fact, I had not even seen them in 5 years. They just randomly deleted me one day and declined my request when I tried to add them back. A coworker also did that to me after a very small argument in real life. That stuff makes things super awkward in person. Why do it? I know that all of these people would be real nice and polite to my face, so blocking on facebook seems so strange to me.
If you don't like what I post (which I don't really post much of anything anyway) then just hide my statuses. If you don't want me to see what you post then just change your security settings. I think that the block feature should be for creepy ex boyfriends or stalkers.. and that is about the only time it should be used.

I know some people who will occasionally "purge" people they don't talk to anymore IRL, and I've noticed that it's been done to me a few times. It doesn't really bother me, but I don't do it myself for exactly the reason you described. I like the new "see less from this person" feature.

I thought of one more pet peeve (this is fun!) My SSIL recently finished nursing school and was constantly posting really gorey videos and memes of surgeries so she could "find them again later." Really nasty stuff. I didn't want to block her hide her since she's family, but I'm glad she's through her boards so that will slow down!

hoffse · January 2015

brij2006 said:

bmo88 said:

brij2006 said:

Eh, everyone uses Facebook for different purposes.

The only things that really get to me are when someone is constantly bragging about their husband or posting on their spouses wall about how amazing they are or thanking them. Um, you live with them. You want to show them you appreciate what they did, then tell them.

Exactly!!! I don't understand that. My cousin used to share a profile with her now ex-husband. She would post all the time about what an amazing man he was and how he would cook and clean. He was ok with her quitting her job because she didn't like it, ya da ya da. Then, they got divorced 7 months after getting married. I guess it was all a facade.

I want to say there was a study floating around somewhere about this. That the couples who brag about their relationship on facebook are usually the ones in a broken relationship.

Yeah there are studies showing that overuse of facebook and social media lead to severe depression. Apparently there are lots of people who don't understand that posting on facebook =/= real life. So the lives of their facebook friends looks more perfect than theirs, and then they become dissatisfied with what they have. There just seems to be an inability to separate fiction from reality, and I guess it's harder to distinguish if the people posting the fiction (or at least a heavily sanitized version of reality) are people you know.

My biggest FB pet peeve are people who post parenting advice on facebook. It just seems to perpetuate the mommy-wars. Besides, some of it is really REALLY obvious, and I kind of worry for their kids when the post says something like, "So glad I read this! I learned so much!" and the article is all about how parents are role models for their kids or whatever. Uhhh yeah. If you hadn't figured that one out before having kids, I'm sort of worried for your offspring. There's one girl I know who posts articles about dads and daughters all. the. time. And she always tags her husband. She usually says something like, "Hubby is doing such a great job with baby!" But honestly, I kind of think she keeps doing that to try to get him more involved with their kid in a hint-hint-nudge-nudge-this-is-what-dads-should-do sort of way. It's pretty sad.

brij2006 · January 2015

strickland8052 said:

My Facebook pet peeve is when people block or unfriend you for no apparent reason. A couple of old "friends" from high school did this to me. We never had an argument or anything like that... In fact, I had not even seen them in 5 years. They just randomly deleted me one day and declined my request when I tried to add them back. A coworker also did that to me after a very small argument in real life. That stuff makes things super awkward in person. Why do it? I know that all of these people would be real nice and polite to my face, so blocking on facebook seems so strange to me.
If you don't like what I post (which I don't really post much of anything anyway) then just hide my statuses. If you don't want me to see what you post then just change your security settings. I think that the block feature should be for creepy ex boyfriends or stalkers.. and that is about the only time it should be used.

I actually went through before we announced our pregnancy on FB and deleted a bunch of high school friends. A few of them have tried to add me back since, but I've declined. The way I looked at it, if I saw you out and about and didn't stop and have a conversation and tell you I'm pregnant, then why should I keep you up to date on things going on in my life?

brij2006 · January 2015

hoffse said:

brij2006 said:

bmo88 said:

brij2006 said:

Eh, everyone uses Facebook for different purposes.

The only things that really get to me are when someone is constantly bragging about their husband or posting on their spouses wall about how amazing they are or thanking them. Um, you live with them. You want to show them you appreciate what they did, then tell them.

Exactly!!! I don't understand that. My cousin used to share a profile with her now ex-husband. She would post all the time about what an amazing man he was and how he would cook and clean. He was ok with her quitting her job because she didn't like it, ya da ya da. Then, they got divorced 7 months after getting married. I guess it was all a facade.

I want to say there was a study floating around somewhere about this. That the couples who brag about their relationship on facebook are usually the ones in a broken relationship.

Yeah there are studies showing that overuse of facebook and social media lead to severe depression. Apparently there are lots of people who don't understand that posting on facebook =/= real life. So the lives of their facebook friends looks more perfect than theirs, and then they become dissatisfied with what they have. There just seems to be an inability to separate fiction from reality, and I guess it's harder to distinguish if the people posting the fiction (or at least a heavily sanitized version of reality) are people you know.

My biggest FB pet peeve are people who post parenting advice on facebook. It just seems to perpetuate the mommy-wars. Besides, some of it is really REALLY obvious, and I kind of worry for their kids when the post says something like, "So glad I read this! I learned so much!" and the article is all about how parents are role models for their kids or whatever. Uhhh yeah. If you hadn't figured that one out before having kids, I'm sort of worried for your offspring. There's one girl I know who posts articles about dads and daughters all. the. time. And she always tags her husband. She usually says something like, "Hubby is doing such a great job with baby!" But honestly, I kind of think she keeps doing that to try to get him more involved with their kid in a hint-hint-nudge-nudge-this-is-what-dads-should-do sort of way. It's pretty sad.

The only parenting ones I share are ones about car seat safety. We live in a very rural area, and it's common to see someone move their child into a convertible car seat at 6 months because they were "too big" for their infant seat but then face it forward. They don't realize that it's still illegal to have them forward facing until they're 1, even if they're out of their infant seat. For us it's really the lack of knowledge thing. Nobody told them, they don't know any different, and Jo Shmoe didn't rear face the seat so they thought that was fine.

catsareniice1 · January 2015

Xstatic3333 said:

In general, I try not to analyze too much about what happens on FB. I might fall into the category you're describing, but to me the purpose of FB is to keep in touch with my family and friends and see what they're up to. Though don't bother me or anything, but I rarely repost memes. If they make me giggle, sure I'd like one, but I'm more into FB for keeping in touch.

I'd guess that the married/single thing is just a coincidence, and that your friends who happen to be married just also happen to be less into FB.

No. They are on a lot, just as much as single people.

als1982 · January 2015

Parents who post about their children's bathroom habits, potty training and other gross bodily functions. Sorry, but no one needs or wants to know about your toddler having the stomach flu, let alone the vivid detail in which you describe it. Blech!!!

lifeonthehill · January 2015

This is probably my age showing. The majority of my friends are 22-24. I am sick of the drunk status updates, bf/gf facebook fights, and the scantily clad bar photos.

I am only 23 but I just feel like I am light years ahead of the kids I grew up with.

vlagrl29 · January 2015

I'm always afraid to post photos of DD in her car seat in fear someone will find something wrong with it and mention it to me even though I know she is bucked in correctly. Mom wars really piss me off.

The photos of your calorie counter and how many calories you burned today I could give a bigger shit about. LoL

I admit I post way to many kid photos on my FB but I am biased. My instagram account is for yoga purposes - different yoga challenges each month and a different pose each day.

kmurphy2131 · January 2015

vlagrl29 said:

I'm always afraid to post photos of DD in her car seat in fear someone will find something wrong with it and mention it to me even though I know she is bucked in correctly. Mom wars really piss me off.

The photos of your calorie counter and how many calories you burned today I could give a bigger shit about. LoL

I admit I post way to many kid photos on my FB but I am biased. My instagram account is for yoga purposes - different yoga challenges each month and a different pose each day.

******STUCK IN THE BOX!******

I know there are a ton of instagram yoga challenges (and this is 100% off topic from the off topic conversation lol), but I am doing the yoga by candace 31 day strength challenge on instagram right now. are you doing that one?

vlagrl29 · January 2015

kmurphy2131 said:

vlagrl29 said:

I'm always afraid to post photos of DD in her car seat in fear someone will find something wrong with it and mention it to me even though I know she is bucked in correctly. Mom wars really piss me off.

The photos of your calorie counter and how many calories you burned today I could give a bigger shit about. LoL

I admit I post way to many kid photos on my FB but I am biased. My instagram account is for yoga purposes - different yoga challenges each month and a different pose each day.

******STUCK IN THE BOX!******

I know there are a ton of instagram yoga challenges (and this is 100% off topic from the off topic conversation lol), but I am doing the yoga by candace 31 day strength challenge on instagram right now. are you doing that one?

I am doing #bestrongin2015 hosted by kinoyoga and beachyogagirl. I didn't do last nights challenge but will get back on it today.

catsareniice1 · January 2015

als1982 said:

Parents who post about their children's bathroom habits, potty training and other gross bodily functions. Sorry, but no one needs or wants to know about your toddler having the stomach flu, let alone the vivid detail in which you describe it. Blech!!!

I hear ya! I have a strong stomach but never want to scroll by a child's bloody dangling tooth. I don't want to see anyone's feet either, including baby feet.

Wulfgar · January 2015

I tend to stop following people who post articles that are biased and are from certain "news" sites that are actually activist opinions. I have had two people that I have had to do this with.

The only people that I will not stop following are relatives including my brother no matter how much I disagree with what they post. It is really hard sometimes with my brother though since he is a Union Representative in his school district and he gets mad when I tell him he is a Union Boss.

KatieCutie05 · January 2015

I have really just started to hate facebook altogether. I go on to get updates on other ppl that i'm not that close with or too see pictures. But thats about it. All i keep thinking about is the commercial.... "my selfie just hit 100 likes! 100!" lol Its just such a popularity contest. no one cares that you have 500 "friends" you never talk to.

And now after my sister decided to steal my sons name and "call dibs" by posting it on facebook first that she is naming her twins that so now everyone will think i stole her sons name and she can say "i picked it first" um no you really didn't. i made the stupid mistake of trusting you enough to tell you the 2 names we were between and a week later its on facebook that you are naming your twins those 2 names... facebook is nothing but a cry for attention. Welcome to the real world.

Xstatic3333 · January 2015

@KatieCutie05‌ that's crazy town! Good for you for using your name anyway. Cousins with the same name will be cute

blondie42107 · January 2015

@KatieCutie05‌ That's crap.

Both pregnancies H and I never shared names we had picked out. Mostly so people couldn't give us their opinions but also I had several cousins expecting at the same time.

I like Facebook for keeping in touch with friends from high school, family I don't see often, etc. I don't friend people just to have Facebook friends. I have a former coworker that moved across the country. It's been great to keep in touch. I don't post status updates daily. I don't treat my single friends differently from the married ones. I don't share/post "humorous " jokes, photos, etc. Although I keep my professional life out of Facebook (I'm not friends with all my coworkers, etc) , I don't post things that are controversial just because they might be funny. I have friends that post ridiculous stuff during political campaigns. That's just not my thing.

mollyaa · January 2015

I shut down my Facebook account about a year ago and haven't missed it at all. I felt like it was bringing a lot of negativity into my life. You don't have to continue to participate in something you don't really enjoy.

I have no problems keeping in touch with the people I care about without Facebook.

Sisugal · January 2015

I do not reply to many posts - period
I do not post personal information on the internet - and limit my Facebook presence to a few close family and friends - which is the main reason that I am even on Facebook as it is their primary way of communicating and sharing.
I ignore the advertising, political posts and most jokes on Facebook.
I do not care what others think of my way of using Facebook.

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