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• pinkybooklover09 member

  

  January 2015

  @booknerd626 - Your friend sounds like the worst example of a bridezilla. I'm a complete marshmallow, so I would suck it up and try to get through it while totally talking shizz behind her back.Her behavior is the LITERAL WORST. Bridesmaids meetings? Oh hells no.

  
  

  

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• RevJen member

  

  January 2015

  Hoycie said:

  
  

  booknerd226 said:

  
  

  My post was really harsh, I know. I've just been listening to this for nearly a year now and I'm tired of it. I was so excited when she got engaged, and now I feel like I dread talking to her, which makes me feel really guilty. 

  
  

  I don't really know what I'm supposed to "suck up" though. I have been. I go to as many of the meetings as I can and I have listened to all of the wedding talk, but it's just gotten to be too much. I don't want to resign because I care a lot about her, which is why I finally told her that even though I care about her I needed a new topic. I actually didn't talk much about school IRL, though it probably came across that way here since I wasn't reading a lot during that time. 

  
  

  I never said she can't be excited for her wedding, but I can't even think of the last thing she talked about that wasn't wedding related. Plus, I'm tired of her bitching about us bridesmaids behind our backs because no matter what we do it isn't enough.

  
  

  But yes my post was mean. I thought if I finally was just honest with her about it (and I was very nice when I said it) that she would tone it down, but instead she got really mad and wanted to end our dinner early. Hence my venting.

  
  

  
  

  @booknerd226 - IMO, you weren't harsh at all. This is how you feel.  

  You're allowed to vent and this is the forum that is supposed to allow you to do so.  If you've been the supportive friend for a year and change- you've been more than a great BM.

  
  

  Just because you're getting married, it doesn't mean you should stop being a friend.

  
  

  
  
  It came across to me as petty and selfish which is why I said what I did. I was a very relaxed bride and didn't put any demands on my moh at all and I was STILL called a bridezilla. I was reacting to it from that standpoint. If that wasn't your intent, I apologize.
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• pinkybooklover09 member

  

  January 2015

  RevJen said:

  booknerd226 said:

  My post was really harsh, I know. I've just been listening to this for nearly a year now and I'm tired of it. I was so excited when she got engaged, and now I feel like I dread talking to her, which makes me feel really guilty. 

  
  

  I don't really know what I'm supposed to "suck up" though. I have been. I go to as many of the meetings as I can and I have listened to all of the wedding talk, but it's just gotten to be too much. I don't want to resign because I care a lot about her, which is why I finally told her that even though I care about her I needed a new topic. I actually didn't talk much about school IRL, though it probably came across that way here since I wasn't reading a lot during that time. 

  
  

  I never said she can't be excited for her wedding, but I can't even think of the last thing she talked about that wasn't wedding related. Plus, I'm tired of her bitching about us bridesmaids behind our backs because no matter what we do it isn't enough.

  
  

  But yes my post was mean. I thought if I finally was just honest with her about it (and I was very nice when I said it) that she would tone it down, but instead she got really mad and wanted to end our dinner early. Hence my venting.

  
  

  
  

  @booknerd226 - IMO, you weren't harsh at all. This is how you feel.  

  You're allowed to vent and this is the forum that is supposed to allow you to do so.  If you've been the supportive friend for a year and change- you've been more than a great BM.

  
  

  Just because you're getting married, it doesn't mean you should stop being a friend.

  It came across to me as petty and selfish which is why I said what I did. I was a very relaxed bride and didn't put any demands on my moh at all and I was STILL called a bridezilla. I was reacting to it from that standpoint. If that wasn't your intent, I apologize.

  

  
  

  

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• RevJen member

  

  January 2015

  pinkybooklover09 said:

  
  

  
  

  RevJen said:

  
  

  
  

  booknerd226 said:

  
  

  My post was really harsh, I know. I've just been listening to this for nearly a year now and I'm tired of it. I was so excited when she got engaged, and now I feel like I dread talking to her, which makes me feel really guilty. 

  
  

  I don't really know what I'm supposed to "suck up" though. I have been. I go to as many of the meetings as I can and I have listened to all of the wedding talk, but it's just gotten to be too much. I don't want to resign because I care a lot about her, which is why I finally told her that even though I care about her I needed a new topic. I actually didn't talk much about school IRL, though it probably came across that way here since I wasn't reading a lot during that time. 

  
  

  I never said she can't be excited for her wedding, but I can't even think of the last thing she talked about that wasn't wedding related. Plus, I'm tired of her bitching about us bridesmaids behind our backs because no matter what we do it isn't enough.

  
  

  But yes my post was mean. I thought if I finally was just honest with her about it (and I was very nice when I said it) that she would tone it down, but instead she got really mad and wanted to end our dinner early. Hence my venting.

  
  

  
  

  @booknerd226 - IMO, you weren't harsh at all. This is how you feel.  

  You're allowed to vent and this is the forum that is supposed to allow you to do so.  If you've been the supportive friend for a year and change- you've been more than a great BM.

  
  

  Just because you're getting married, it doesn't mean you should stop being a friend.

  
  

  
  
  It came across to me as petty and selfish which is why I said what I did. I was a very relaxed bride and didn't put any demands on my moh at all and I was STILL called a bridezilla. I was reacting to it from that standpoint. If that wasn't your intent, I apologize.
  
  
  
  
  
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• booknerd226 member

  

  January 2015

  I didn't intend to sound petty or selfish. I'm truly happy for her. I just miss talking about other things with her. DH and her fiance are friends, so I feel like I'm getting updates on her through them instead of her. I asked whether she got the promotion her fiance mentioned, and she said yes and didn't elaborate. Same with her brother having a new baby. :-/

  
  

  I know I don't know you IRL, but you come across as pretty laid back on here. I really can't picture you as a bridezilla at all.

  
  

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