Facebook.....I don't understand why in the world....

hoffse · July 2015

JoanE2012 said:

hoffse said:

JoanE2012 said:

hoffse said:

See, I am "friends" with a lot of people I don't know very well for work reasons. If a client wants to find me on linked in or FB they have to be able to. I'm supposed to share my life on FB at least to some degree so clients/potential clients can relate on a personal level and not just a professional one.

So no, I don't post when I'm going to be gone. You're right that if somebody really wants to break in they will. I recognize that. But I also don't want to blast it out to the internet every time I'm gone. That's just creating low-hanging fruit.

I'm not in such a rush to share my life that it has to happen at that very moment. I do use facebook as a way to help store photos - but it doesn't have to be shared the instant it happens either. I feel like if I'm on vacation, people on the internet can wait until I get back to learn what we did.

Besides, there's a lot to be said for disconnecting once in awhile. Vacation is the perfect opportunity to do that. Also - people seem to experience the world behind the lens of a camera these days. Put the camera away once in awhile and actually take a few moments to experience it for real. I can't tell you how irritated I get when I'm in a museum and I watch people just move from painting to painting taking pictures (or selfies) and not actually looking at anything.

Couldn't you keep your FB private and just say you're not on there? I wouldn't want my work world to get mixed in with my personal world. LinkedIn? That's where I network for work.

No, our marketing department requires us to have both.

Both my FB and LI are very vanilla.

Then I'd have two versions of FB - one to satisfy work that would just get an occassional update to please them - and one that they wouldn't know about.

Except the marketing people are one of my 800 "friends."

It doesn't bother me - I just don't post stuff while we're gone. I'm not super active on FB anyway.

jtmh2012 · July 2015

I look at it this way. I don't live my life around posting to FB, however, I also don't not post something because I'm afraid of the evil internet people.

Three years ago my house got broken into when I was at work. Had nothing to do with me posting on FB that I was gone. Just common sense that in your typical suburban neighborhood that people are gone all day long for work. Doesn't take a FB post to figure that out.

formerlyGDaisy09 · July 2015

I'll admit that my facebook is filled with photos of our pets, and when we travel with the dogs I often post those photos. but anytime we're going there is always someone looking after the house to feed the cats and/or watch the dogs. We also live in a neighborhood where no fewer than 4 neighbors (in the summer with leaves on the trees) can see the entrances to our home. most the time we alert the neighbors when we'll be out of town. and we have motion sensor lights on the exterior of the house.

I think often break-ins are a much more spontaneous thing and things like forgetting to cancel you newspaper or have your mail held are a much bigger invitation for trouble. I recently ran past a house on the main street in the historic district in town (read much nicer home than mine in a neighborhood frequented by many more people) and there were about a week and a half of newspapers just lying in the driveway, clearly no one had been in that home, and no one was looking after it.

short+sassy · July 2015

I'm not much a FB user at all. It's been nice to see, in general, what HS/College friends are up to. People I haven't really kept in touch with, but it's nice to connect with every once in awhile.

But I am alarmed that there seems to be a trend in our world to live our lives through social media instead of actually living our lives. Case in point, my H and I went out to dinner the other night. At a table next to us, there were three people. I presume it was parents with their adult daughter. All three people were texting/surfing the internet the entire time they were waiting for their food! Not even looking at each other, much less having a conversation. Ugh!

formerlyGDaisy09 · July 2015

short+sassy said:

I'm not much a FB user at all. It's been nice to see, in general, what HS/College friends are up to. People I haven't really kept in touch with, but it's nice to connect with every once in awhile.
But I am alarmed that there seems to be a trend in our world to live our lives through social media instead of actually living our lives. Case in point, my H and I went out to dinner the other night. At a table next to us, there were three people. I presume it was parents with their adult daughter. All three people were texting/surfing the internet the entire time they were waiting for their food! Not even looking at each other, much less having a conversation. Ugh!

This is terrible. I was just having coffee with a friend and talking about how my parents are worse than I am. we were at their house last weekend and as soon as breakfast was over I was left sitting "alone" at the kitchen table with my coffee while my mom, dad, and husband burried themselves in their phones.

brij2006 · July 2015

formerlyGDaisy09 said:

short+sassy said:

I'm not much a FB user at all. It's been nice to see, in general, what HS/College friends are up to. People I haven't really kept in touch with, but it's nice to connect with every once in awhile.
But I am alarmed that there seems to be a trend in our world to live our lives through social media instead of actually living our lives. Case in point, my H and I went out to dinner the other night. At a table next to us, there were three people. I presume it was parents with their adult daughter. All three people were texting/surfing the internet the entire time they were waiting for their food! Not even looking at each other, much less having a conversation. Ugh!

This is terrible. I was just having coffee with a friend and talking about how my parents are worse than I am. we were at their house last weekend and as soon as breakfast was over I was left sitting "alone" at the kitchen table with my coffee while my mom, dad, and husband burried themselves in their phones.

We have a rule when out for dinner now. Everyone's phones go in the center of the table. The first to grab their phone, pays the bill. It's surprising that the first ones to grab their are our parents. We shut off from them better than they do.

We have also started having "no data, no tv" time at night. From the minute we get home from work, until our DD goes to bed, our data gets turned off on our phones. We can still text or call (it's mostly our parents who contact us then), but instead we will talk and spend time together while cooking and eating dinner. It also helps us to be 100% in the moment as a family.
People also know this is a rule in our home. If our parents come over, they get told to do the same.

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