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my parents are so strict
hi, I have really strict parents. Im used to it and all but one thing is that they do not let me message my friends! I use whatsapp to msg my friends and when my mom found out that I chat with my friends, also boys, she flipped out and gave me a really harsh lecture. I promised I wouldn't do it again. But I cant live without my friends. she checks my phone and today she found out that I have been msging my friends. I really don't get whats wrong in doing so!! Im doing fine at school and I get good grades but my parents don't even let me socialize with my friends!! Please give me some advice T.T
Re: my parents are so strict
You don't say how old you are. If you are in high school, it seems odd that your parents are discouraging communicating with friends. If you are in middle school, I can completely understand where they are coming from.
Of course, maybe your choice in friends is the problem for your parents? At least your parents care enough to monitor your social interactions. A lot of parents are completely in the dark until it is too late. It's our job to protect you while you are young from things that are harmful, including people. Sorry. Until you are making your own living and paying for your own internet/wireless connectivity, you're stuck with the rules of the folks paying the bills.
I had a very controlling mom. I'm 33 now. But as a teenager, although I was top of my class and involved in many activities, she monitored me.
I'm a parent now. My kids aren't teens yet. But, I understand why my mom was the way she was. I'm sad to say this, but not all kids are good kids - they are bad influences. Maybe they aren't into drugs, etc.. but their words and other life behaviors just are not healthy. Your mom is attempting to protect you from this.
However, if you have one or two friends that are girls that are like you with good grades and live clean lives, then what about inviting them over when your mom is home so they can all meet and interact? Have them over for dinner? A movie night? A game night? Parents fear the unknown. So, if your mom sees and understands who your friends are, then she may feel better about you talking to them.
Also, help the situation by telling your mom how you know these friends. From your classes? Activities?
Also, if you are so responsible, what about suggesting phone rules to your mom. "Mom, if I message my friends only before 8pm at night, may I message them? I won't message them after 8pm."
You have to earn her comfort and trust.
Are you the eldest child? Or, the only girl?
Right now, you need to avoid the boy issue. Sorry, but you do. Your mom isn't even comfortable with you talking to girls. So, boys are out of the question. And, if you do talk to boys you will do nothing for your credibility.