Not MMR but baby related

vlagrl29 · November 2015

So I've been interviewing OBs for a VBAC before we TTC next year. I've interviewed 2 so far, 1 I really like. 1 more interview in January. I wanted to get this done before we start trying again. I've researched very fully I feel and even joined a local VBAC support group. Problem is I'm starting to get freaked out about being pregnant again. After each interview with the OBs and after a day writing out my questions to ask I've gotten very anxious about TTC and actually end up crying. I'm thinking I haven't come to terms with my pregnancy with DD - god it was horrid and turned my life upside down for those 9 months. Don't get me wrong I feel so thankful for her and wouldn't change a thing and I know I should be thankful that I can reproduce without complications but it TRULY sucked. Life right now is at a really great balance and I'm happy with everything and I know if I have the same pregnancy I'm going to have to lighten my load and I'm just honestly scared that even though I've been trying to keep things positive and visualize what I want next time - its kinda taking a turn to not being so confident about this anymore. I know a lot of you don't have kids but those that have multiple kids did you have this experience the 2nd time around? I was all full speed ahead with DD and now I'm gun-shy.

orangehills · November 2015

I feel you. I have no desire to get pregnant again. My pregnancy sucked- I got such bad acne, I was in pain all the time and got bad scarring. And that was just one of a list of like 20 things that were really bad. I could barely walk from pain by the end of it. Though I was lucky that there weren't any major medical issues with myself and my baby. And my labor was 25 hours with 4 hours of pushing, almost to a csection, but not. I just can't see how I could do that pregnancy again working full time with a kid. Makes me want to just stick with 1. Good luck!

blondie42107 · November 2015

I think I understand what you're talking about. I have two, 5 and 3 years old. I had pretty easy pregnancies until the end. I had an unplanned c-section with my first (it was a long two days in the hospital on pitocin for over a day, pushing for over two hours and then sobbing as I headed for my c-section....my recovery sucked!). It took me a week to admit to my best girlfriend that I had a c-section. We decided to TTC again shortly after our first turned one. Boys were born almost exactly two years apart. Everything was fine until I had to start talking about a VBAC or another c-section. H went to some of my appts and I'm glad. I sobbed talking to my OBGYN about wanting a VBAC, etc. I had a failed VBAC and wanted to cry as my OBGYN was stitching me and someone was working on my chart asked the reason for my c-section. "Failed VBAC" stung! I felt like a failure again. My anxiety was high. Before motherhood I wouldn't have understood why that would upset me. It's a crazy ride but once the pregnancy was over and I had my baby in my arms, most of that anxiety left! Then there's just the normal "holy crap I'm responsible for another kid" anxiety... Lol

vlagrl29 · November 2015

orangehills said:

I feel you. I have no desire to get pregnant again. My pregnancy sucked- I got such bad acne, I was in pain all the time and got bad scarring. And that was just one of a list of like 20 things that were really bad. I could barely walk from pain by the end of it. Though I was lucky that there weren't any major medical issues with myself and my baby. And my labor was 25 hours with 4 hours of pushing, almost to a csection, but not. I just can't see how I could do that pregnancy again working full time with a kid. Makes me want to just stick with 1. Good luck!

I didn't have a desire for another until DD was around 3. I think these appts are making it more real for me hence my freaking out. No doubt if I have the same pregnancy I will have to put teaching on hold for awhile. Sucks but its the reality of things. I couldn't even go outside our house for the month of December because I was in so much pain. DH had to do the errands.

Xstatic3333 · November 2015

I'll only be TTC #1 in a few months, but just wanted to send you good vibes as you get ready to take that next step. I'm pretty scared about pregnancy too, even without the prior experience. If I could fast forward to the infant stage I'd be a-okay with that. Good luck with your OB search!

cbee817 · November 2015

Honestly, we were so busy with DD#1 (she just turned 1) and work that I forgot half the time I was pregnant with DD#2. I had some minor nauseousness but never got really sick and gained 27 lbs with DD#1, 35 with DD#2. DD#1's pregnancy and delivery were really smooth- I started pitocin at the hospital and 6 hours later she was born without any other meds/epidural/etc. DD#2 was even faster- we got to the hospital at 8:40pm and she was born at 10:08pm without any meds/epidural/etc. Right after DD#2 was born, I did tell DH that I could never do it again despite having 2 easy pregnancies and deliveries. We're done anyway, so it worked out!

PurpleBookmark · November 2015

We have 3 kids - I get where you're coming from, we had a total of 4 early miscarriages and after testing we knew with our second two pregnancies how high our chance of miscarriage really was. This made the pregnancies very hard to enjoy due to fear. I never want to go through that again, as much as my kids are 100% worth it mentally and emotionally it was very difficult.

I wish you the best of luck, hopefully your next pregnancy will be easier!

KatieCutie05 · November 2015

My pregnancy was not as horrible as it could have been, as i got very little morning sickness and i am still scared of dealing with it again.. I was however an emotional wreck and i had ZERO energy. Just going to the grocery store or my desk job was utterly exhausting. I cannot imagine doing all that again with a toddler too! Forget it! I can barely handle being a working mom as it is, throw pregnancy in there and i just might die. I don't want another baby until ds is out of diapers, off bottles and we can afford a maid because i really dont even want to think how disgusting our house would be - nor do i want to listen to my husband complain that he has to do everything. The man did not understand how utterly exhausted i was ALL the time. His solution "just go to bed earlier" hahahaha - i wish! After the birth he got it, but when i was 2 months pregnant it was like normal life for him while i was there like "the baby is the size of a pumpkin seed and he is already trying to kill me!" But my son is worth all that and more and I will do all that again happily for another miracle .... just not for a while!

bcarb · November 2015

I am not sure I understand, but I am sorry you had such a horrible pregnancy. Mine was super easy, and easy delivery, but I have no desire to be pregnant again anytime soon (wont start trying for at least 2 years). Like someone else suggested, maybe have Hubby with you at these interviews. I also wouldnt borrow worry, every pregnancy is different so it may not be as a bad as you are imagining (easier said than done, I know). But, know it will be worth it in the end. and know that you are NOT a failure if you dont have the birth experience you planned. I hate how us mothers put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Hugs!

brij2006 · November 2015

I've come to terms that no matter what the circumstances, it's a legitimate fear to TTC again. For anyone. You never know what it's going to be like. Will it be better? Worse? The same? Will it end with a csection, natural, or VBac?

We are currently TTC#2 and have been for 4 months. My fears are in the TTC part. Pregnancy wasn't so great with DD, but I managed and am quickly reminding myself that she's worth the 9 months of hell. But TTC scares the shit out of me. I have a reputation of chemical pregnancies and miscarriages, along with very long cycles. We have already had 1 chemical pregnancy, and I just got done with a 75 day long cycle that we were unsuccessful with. My H is all gunho. Asking when we can get the referral to start fertility treatment, when I'm going to start temping and charting to track my cycles, and start the PCOS diet again (was the way we got pregnant with DD). All of this makes me start crying. I remember the hurt, pain, and fear that accompanied every one of those pregnancies that ended, or long cycle where my body didn't ovulate yet again, giving us no chance to even get pregnant.

One thing that is helping me is watching DD grow and play. Our desire to have another child is greater than the fear of struggling to do so. That's what helps me at least. I keep telling myself that in the end, if it takes us 2 years again to conceive, then it's worth those 2 years of struggle. If the PCOS diet doesn't work again like I hope it will, then we have plan B of getting assistance again. Not my hope or "plan," but that's beyond my control.

vlagrl29 · November 2015

brij2006 said:

I've come to terms that no matter what the circumstances, it's a legitimate fear to TTC again. For anyone. You never know what it's going to be like. Will it be better? Worse? The same? Will it end with a csection, natural, or VBac?

We are currently TTC#2 and have been for 4 months. My fears are in the TTC part. Pregnancy wasn't so great with DD, but I managed and am quickly reminding myself that she's worth the 9 months of hell. But TTC scares the shit out of me. I have a reputation of chemical pregnancies and miscarriages, along with very long cycles. We have already had 1 chemical pregnancy, and I just got done with a 75 day long cycle that we were unsuccessful with. My H is all gunho. Asking when we can get the referral to start fertility treatment, when I'm going to start temping and charting to track my cycles, and start the PCOS diet again (was the way we got pregnant with DD). All of this makes me start crying. I remember the hurt, pain, and fear that accompanied every one of those pregnancies that ended, or long cycle where my body didn't ovulate yet again, giving us no chance to even get pregnant.

One thing that is helping me is watching DD grow and play. Our desire to have another child is greater than the fear of struggling to do so. That's what helps me at least. I keep telling myself that in the end, if it takes us 2 years again to conceive, then it's worth those 2 years of struggle. If the PCOS diet doesn't work again like I hope it will, then we have plan B of getting assistance again. Not my hope or "plan," but that's beyond my control.

Hugs - I'm sure its very hard and scary for you - hoping that the PCOS diet works and you don't need extra assistance with it.

vlagrl29 · November 2015

bcarb said:

I am not sure I understand, but I am sorry you had such a horrible pregnancy. Mine was super easy, and easy delivery, but I have no desire to be pregnant again anytime soon (wont start trying for at least 2 years). Like someone else suggested, maybe have Hubby with you at these interviews. I also wouldnt borrow worry, every pregnancy is different so it may not be as a bad as you are imagining (easier said than done, I know). But, know it will be worth it in the end. and know that you are NOT a failure if you dont have the birth experience you planned. I hate how us mothers put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. Hugs!

I was totally a ok with how I ended up with c section - there was just no way I was pushing her out after 3.5 hours of pushing. DH has been going with me to the OB consults which is really helpful. We both really liked the doc yesterday. She really made me feel at ease. I have a 75% success rate of a VBAC next time. My chances would be higher if I hadn't had went thru the labor and pushing last time. Chances are higher with previous breech babies because its straight to c/section.

I personally don't want any more surgeries - so its not a pressure of having the perfect birth although I know in my brain exactly what I want next time because I'm older and more experienced with this stuff. With my yoga practice I just want to continue with it and I don't want a surgery to get me off track with it and I also can't imagine a newborn, 5 year old, and surgery recovery all at the same time. lol

vlagrl29 · November 2015

KatieCutie05 said:

My pregnancy was not as horrible as it could have been, as i got very little morning sickness and i am still scared of dealing with it again.. I was however an emotional wreck and i had ZERO energy. Just going to the grocery store or my desk job was utterly exhausting. I cannot imagine doing all that again with a toddler too! Forget it! I can barely handle being a working mom as it is, throw pregnancy in there and i just might die. I don't want another baby until ds is out of diapers, off bottles and we can afford a maid because i really dont even want to think how disgusting our house would be - nor do i want to listen to my husband complain that he has to do everything. The man did not understand how utterly exhausted i was ALL the time. His solution "just go to bed earlier" hahahaha - i wish! After the birth he got it, but when i was 2 months pregnant it was like normal life for him while i was there like "the baby is the size of a pumpkin seed and he is already trying to kill me!" But my son is worth all that and more and I will do all that again happily for another miracle .... just not for a while!

yes - my house was a complete disaster last time because I was so sick and exhausted - as OCD as I am that was shocking for DH. He barely helped me so it was constantly a mess until I was home bound with the intense sciatic/sacrum pain and then he has no choice but to do the dishes and go to the grocery store.

vlagrl29 · November 2015

Xstatic3333 said:

I'll only be TTC #1 in a few months, but just wanted to send you good vibes as you get ready to take that next step. I'm pretty scared about pregnancy too, even without the prior experience. If I could fast forward to the infant stage I'd be a-okay with that. Good luck with your OB search!

we delayed TTC because of DH's studio project - it has had some delays and may not be done til March now so we won't TTC at least until March. Which now I"m totally ok with. Before I was so excited to try again and now I'm all like lets wait a little longer.

bcarb · November 2015

Totally understand about the surgery. Well I hope you get your VBAC, I can imagine your constant Yoga practice can only help

I know When I was delivering, I was saying to my H that I wished I had taken Yoga more seriously... like big time lol. And I cant imagine a life with a newborn & five year old... that scares me!

smerka · November 2015

My kids are Irish twins and the second was a surprise. I didn't want a second kid after my first pregnancy/delivery. But the pregnacies were very different. My first I had horrible random symptoms, exhaustion, drooling (yes I uncontrolably drooled), hip pain. The second, I had horrible morning sickness the whole effing time. My first delivery was horrible and the recovery was brutal. My second was breech and I had a planned c-section. The recovery was a breeze in comparison. My advice - go easy on yourself. You are growing a human. It is okay if your house is a mess and you are sleeping a lot. And more importantly - the way your baby comes into the world has no impact on your ability to parent or whether or not you are a 'failure'. Anyone who makes you feel like that deserves a throat punch. There is no shame in having a c-section. Having a vaginal delivery isn't like the movies. Birth is messy, painful, and frankly kind of disgusting. For me there was a spray of blood on the wall about four feet away. But you get a baby in the end and that's what makes it a beautiful thing.

smetter04 · November 2015

H and I are planning on starting to TTC our first in September 2016. It's still quite a few months away, but it's less than a year and is becoming so much more real. I am definitely both excited and scared.

@vlagrl29 - question about interviewing OB's - is it standard practice to interview them? I've just never heard of interviewing a doctor before and if it's important to do, I had better get it on our to-do list for 2016.

formerlyGDaisy09 · November 2015

I'm 38w+1 right now...and I'm so ready to be done with this pregancy. however while the last few weeks have crawled by, I'm impressed by how quickly the whole 9 months actually does go.

I'm a FTM, so I can't speak from primary experience, but many people I've spoken with have shared that their first pregnancy didn't necesarily dectate how subsequent pregnancies would go.

as far as the VBAC goes, maybe see if you can get outcomes data for the hospitals where the OBs you're interviewing practice to see what their VBAC success rates are? totally understand wanting to aviod a c-section.

vlagrl29 · November 2015

smetter04 said:

H and I are planning on starting to TTC our first in September 2016. It's still quite a few months away, but it's less than a year and is becoming so much more real. I am definitely both excited and scared.

@vlagrl29 - question about interviewing OB's - is it standard practice to interview them? I've just never heard of interviewing a doctor before and if it's important to do, I had better get it on our to-do list for 2016.

If I were you I would put it on my to do list. I didn't do that and had just assumed I would have a vaginal baby and didn't research c/s at all so I had no idea what was going on with all that recovery. For me its important that I have a doctor on my side that will let me labor, walk, delay epidural, etc. Also, if I do end up in c/s I want either a lowered drape or a clear drape so I can see baby being born and I want skin on skin and baby with me in recovery room which didn't happen for quite awhile last time. I wish I was this educated last time, but honestly with such a horrible pregnancy I was just going thru the daily motions taking it a day at a time. I'm so much more aware of my body now. And with all the yoga - sucking up and in the abdominal muscles I believe I can push so much better now. I told DH if whatever OB I end up with starts to change their tune about being VBAC supportive I will switch even if its in the 9th month. Not every hospital is VBAC friendly so that leaves me less options.

Also find a local ICAN support group. They are great when it comes to preferred OBs whether your vbac, vaginal, or c/s delivery.

vlagrl29 · November 2015

formerlyGDaisy09 said:

I'm 38w+1 right now...and I'm so ready to be done with this pregancy. however while the last few weeks have crawled by, I'm impressed by how quickly the whole 9 months actually does go.

I'm a FTM, so I can't speak from primary experience, but many people I've spoken with have shared that their first pregnancy didn't necesarily dectate how subsequent pregnancies would go.

as far as the VBAC goes, maybe see if you can get outcomes data for the hospitals where the OBs you're interviewing practice to see what their VBAC success rates are? totally understand wanting to aviod a c-section.

Yes I've done that already and both hospitals I'm looking have about the same percentage of c/s and both doctors have high success rates on vbacs.

brij2006 · November 2015

Have you checked into a midwife? It sounds like that may be a better option for what you're wanting out of the next pregnancy. I found that they were more pro moving around during labor, using the tub, having focus points, and doing everything possible to not have a csection.

Best decision I ever made. We also hired a doula to aide in it as well, and will definitely go that route again next time.

formerlyGDaisy09 · November 2015

brij2006 said:

Have you checked into a midwife? It sounds like that may be a better option for what you're wanting out of the next pregnancy. I found that they were more pro moving around during labor, using the tub, having focus points, and doing everything possible to not have a csection.

Best decision I ever made. We also hired a doula to aide in it as well, and will definitely go that route again next time.

+1 we've loved using the midwives, I *think* if you aren't considered high risk for any other reasons midwives are completely equipped to handle a VBAC (at least I know the ones at the hospital I work at do VBACs all the time and the MW practice has a better VBAC and C/S rate than the OB practice.

We've also hired a doula, I can't comment on that experience yet, but there is outcomes research that shows that women who have doulas tend to have fewer interventions and tend to be more satisfied with their overall birth experience. (now there could be some confounding there, but I'm inclinded to believe that having someone more educated/experienced than H and I in the room will only benefit us).

formerlyGDaisy09 · November 2015

vlagrl29 said:

smetter04 said:

H and I are planning on starting to TTC our first in September 2016. It's still quite a few months away, but it's less than a year and is becoming so much more real. I am definitely both excited and scared.

@vlagrl29 - question about interviewing OB's - is it standard practice to interview them? I've just never heard of interviewing a doctor before and if it's important to do, I had better get it on our to-do list for 2016.

If I were you I would put it on my to do list. I didn't do that and had just assumed I would have a vaginal baby and didn't research c/s at all so I had no idea what was going on with all that recovery. For me its important that I have a doctor on my side that will let me labor, walk, delay epidural, etc. Also, if I do end up in c/s I want either a lowered drape or a clear drape so I can see baby being born and I want skin on skin and baby with me in recovery room which didn't happen for quite awhile last time. I wish I was this educated last time, but honestly with such a horrible pregnancy I was just going thru the daily motions taking it a day at a time. I'm so much more aware of my body now. And with all the yoga - sucking up and in the abdominal muscles I believe I can push so much better now. I told DH if whatever OB I end up with starts to change their tune about being VBAC supportive I will switch even if its in the 9th month. Not every hospital is VBAC friendly so that leaves me less options.

Also find a local ICAN support group. They are great when it comes to preferred OBs whether your vbac, vaginal, or c/s delivery.

Also! if yoga is new since your last pregnancy, that in itself may lead to some parts of pregnancy being easier. there's no way to prove it, but I'm convinced I've had an easier time than many because I was in great shape when I got pregnant, I kept moving as long as I could, I sought chirporactic care when alignment issues were causing pain, etc. It sounds like you're in a totally different place with your body this time around, and that could make a huge difference.

cbee817 · November 2015

brij2006 said:

Have you checked into a midwife? It sounds like that may be a better option for what you're wanting out of the next pregnancy. I found that they were more pro moving around during labor, using the tub, having focus points, and doing everything possible to not have a csection.

Best decision I ever made. We also hired a doula to aide in it as well, and will definitely go that route again next time.

I didn't use a midwife or a doula, but the nurses in the hospital put me on an exercise ball (which sounds weird) for DD#1.. it was amazing! I rocked through the contractions and sat on it until I was ready to push- she took a good 30 minutes to come out, but I think it was because I was so tired (she was born at 12:04am). I did the exact same thing with DD#2 (used the ball) and she was out in 3 pushes and weighed 1 lb more than DD#1. The staff was super supportive and was so proud when I told them I didn't need anything for pain. The one thing I did get with both girls was the shakes really bad after they were born- I had each on me for a few minutes right after but then asked DH to hold them until I stopped shaking. It took a good 20 minutes but I was scared I would drop them (not very realistic now that I think about it, but in the moment I was just trying to stop shaking).

brij2006 · November 2015

cbee817 said:

brij2006 said:

Have you checked into a midwife? It sounds like that may be a better option for what you're wanting out of the next pregnancy. I found that they were more pro moving around during labor, using the tub, having focus points, and doing everything possible to not have a csection.

Best decision I ever made. We also hired a doula to aide in it as well, and will definitely go that route again next time.

I didn't use a midwife or a doula, but the nurses in the hospital put me on an exercise ball (which sounds weird) for DD#1.. it was amazing! I rocked through the contractions and sat on it until I was ready to push- she took a good 30 minutes to come out, but I think it was because I was so tired (she was born at 12:04am). I did the exact same thing with DD#2 (used the ball) and she was out in 3 pushes and weighed 1 lb more than DD#1. The staff was super supportive and was so proud when I told them I didn't need anything for pain. The one thing I did get with both girls was the shakes really bad after they were born- I had each on me for a few minutes right after but then asked DH to hold them until I stopped shaking. It took a good 20 minutes but I was scared I would drop them (not very realistic now that I think about it, but in the moment I was just trying to stop shaking).

The ball was a Godsend for me. I labored at home as long as possible, but took pressure off by being on that while watching some TV and using a focal object to help me through the pain. It also really helped that I was able to walk around my house. I put away laundry, did one last swoop of cleaning, and was able to take a hot shower and have H apply counter-pressure through contractions. Best decision ever.

One thing that also really helps, is researching which hospital has things like wireless monitors, a labor tub (some states won't let you birth in them in a hospital so they're called different things depending on your state), exercise ball, birthing bar, drop down beds, birthing stool, etc. There are so many tools that can be used to help with the process, and depending on what hospital has those items, will also determine which one will have nurses that know how to use those tools to help you through labor.

When I did my research, our local hospital only had a birthing bar and exercise ball. Their csection rate was insanely high, at 40%. The hospital I ended up using, has a 9% csection rate, and had every one of those tools to utilize. However, that meant driving an hour to deliver. We did, and it was the best decision ever.

You can also search some doulas and e-mail them and ask which hospital they prefer to accompany clients at. That helped me narrow it down as well. I asked 3 doula's, and they all said the same hospital.

vlagrl29 · November 2015

formerlyGDaisy09 said:

vlagrl29 said:

smetter04 said:

H and I are planning on starting to TTC our first in September 2016. It's still quite a few months away, but it's less than a year and is becoming so much more real. I am definitely both excited and scared.

@vlagrl29 - question about interviewing OB's - is it standard practice to interview them? I've just never heard of interviewing a doctor before and if it's important to do, I had better get it on our to-do list for 2016.

If I were you I would put it on my to do list. I didn't do that and had just assumed I would have a vaginal baby and didn't research c/s at all so I had no idea what was going on with all that recovery. For me its important that I have a doctor on my side that will let me labor, walk, delay epidural, etc. Also, if I do end up in c/s I want either a lowered drape or a clear drape so I can see baby being born and I want skin on skin and baby with me in recovery room which didn't happen for quite awhile last time. I wish I was this educated last time, but honestly with such a horrible pregnancy I was just going thru the daily motions taking it a day at a time. I'm so much more aware of my body now. And with all the yoga - sucking up and in the abdominal muscles I believe I can push so much better now. I told DH if whatever OB I end up with starts to change their tune about being VBAC supportive I will switch even if its in the 9th month. Not every hospital is VBAC friendly so that leaves me less options.

Also find a local ICAN support group. They are great when it comes to preferred OBs whether your vbac, vaginal, or c/s delivery.

Also! if yoga is new since your last pregnancy, that in itself may lead to some parts of pregnancy being easier. there's no way to prove it, but I'm convinced I've had an easier time than many because I was in great shape when I got pregnant, I kept moving as long as I could, I sought chirporactic care when alignment issues were causing pain, etc. It sounds like you're in a totally different place with your body this time around, and that could make a huge difference.

No i didn't do yoga last time so I'm hoping it helps. I'm in the best shape of my life right now. We will also be hiring a doula. Of the 2 hospitals I'm looking at I know 1 has tubs and peanut balls and I can keep moving during labor. My next appt is in Jan with a different doc that came highly recommended and I will find out what that hospital has to offer. I'm totally fine with an OB - I just want my options acknowledged and my DH and doula will be there to be on my side as well. So prepared this time and we aren't even pregnant.

short+sassy · November 2015

Speaking as a childless by choice gal, I'm curious as to the difference between a mid-wife and a doula. I actually thought that was the same thing until I read this thread.

julieanne912 · November 2015

short+sassy said:

Speaking as a childless by choice gal, I'm curious as to the difference between a mid-wife and a doula. I actually thought that was the same thing until I read this thread.

I'm sure others will answer but from this fellow childless gal, I believe a mid-wife is kind of like a nurse/doctor and does the actual delivery. A doula is more of a coach and spokesperson for the mother at the birth.

blondie42107 · November 2015

julieanne912 said:

short+sassy said:

Speaking as a childless by choice gal, I'm curious as to the difference between a mid-wife and a doula. I actually thought that was the same thing until I read this thread.

I'm sure others will answer but from this fellow childless gal, I believe a mid-wife is kind of like a nurse/doctor and does the actual delivery. A doula is more of a coach and spokesperson for the mother at the birth.

SITB

This. Certified Nurse Midwife can do almost everything an OBGYN can other than write a prescription and surgery. I used midwives with my first pregnancy. I saw them for all of my appts and we're with me through 3 shifts at the hospital before we started talking about a c-section. At that point she brought in the OBGYN and we discussed together. Midwife was present during my c-section.

lbonga1 · November 2015

We're probably going to start TTC our third within the next 6 months or so. We're hoping that our current youngest and the new baby will be less than three years apart. Our first was a surprise pregnancy, and our second I got pregnant during my first post-partum cycle. Morning sickness was worse with my second pregnancy, and I had preterm contractions consistently during both pregnancies. With #2 I was induced a couple days before my due date because of the contractions, and my OB didn't even make it to the hospital in time she came out so fast! The nurse checking stuff because I had just gotten an epidural, and I told her I felt a head between my legs. She threw the sheet off me and started scrambling for some gloves. The shocked look on my FI's face was priceless. I literally didn't even push. I'm going to have to make sure to stay close to the hospital during the last couple weeks if we have another, because I want to make sure we make it there in time!

So long as my next pregnancy goes smoothly, I would like to be a surrogate afterward. Not that I enjoy pregnancy so much, but I have such joy in my children that I want another couple to experience that if they otherwise wouldn't be able to.

BlueBirdMB · November 2015

vlagrl29 This is sort of off, but on topic, but I have questions about maternity leave since you and I have the same job.

How long did you take for maternity leave last time? Did you hire another teacher to take over your schedule? If so, how did you find the teacher? If not, did you lose students who didn't want to wait for you? What percentage?

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