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My pet peeve
Can we all agree that this year we will say my refund instead of my return? You file a tax return and receive a tax refund. That is all.
Re: My pet peeve
Lol, I wouldn't be surprised if I am guilty of that. I will try to keep the proper terminology in mind.
Even though I know the definitions and different meanings, I mix up the words "appraisal" and "assessment", in terms of real estate lingo. If I'm putting it in writing somewhere, like an e-mail or a post, I will read it over a couple times to make sure I'm using the correct word.
I usually only hear it when I am watching those daytime tv court shows, like People's Court/Judge Judy, but it is like nails on a chalk board for me when someone uses the word "borrow", when they really mean "loan". Like, "I borrowed my sister $500 to help her with her rent, but she still hasn't paid me back."
That was a crazy cultural difference for me when I first moved from So. CA to the South. I was just so surprised at all the random strangers who would call me "Boo" or "Honey". But it was usually much older women, not men, so it didn't really bother me.
The Southern tradition I do like and have adopted myself is calling someone Miss or Mr. (their first name). It's a nice middle ground between someone you don't know well...especially if they are older than you...where calling them by their first name seems too informal, but calling them by their last name seems too formal. For example, one of my neighbors who I don't know that well is over 80 years old. I always address her by Miss (first name). And, in these cases, it's always "Miss". Whether women are married or not.
Since it is political season, two important words that are not the same at all. But even reporters and politicians themselves get wrong and use interchangeably are "national debt" and "national deficit".
National deficit = one year of our country's budget shortfall.
National debt = the total amount of all our country's debts = the total amount of each year's deficit minus whatever has been paid off.
Those are certainly simplified definitions, but that is the gist. Obviously the national debt is a substantially larger sum than any year's deficit.
My Economics professor used to say, "If they are talking about billions, it's the deficit. If they are talking about trillions, it's the debt. But that's assuming they got their numbers right to begin with."
Ugh! So rude! Sweetie and hun drive me crazy too, particularly in a professional setting. I try to remind myself that people have best intentions. One of our board members, who I get along well with and who went to bat for me for my promotion, sometimes introduces me as "our water quality girl." I count to ten slowly and force a smile.
Wow, this makes my blood boil! I know that the type of relationship with the person saying it dictates how one can react, but it's so patronizing that I like to shut it down before it goes further.
I've been called 'sweetie' when a coworker (who was my husband's supervisor) told me to shut the lights off at the end of the day (when he or my husband could have done it just as easily). I knew this person well enough to give him a look and 'joke' back that I'll do it when he doesn't call me sweetie. My husband had the 'oh no you didn't' look when his supervisor said that because he knew how I'd react.