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Any good books or advice on saving for college?
Are there any suggestions on books or articles to read on saving for college?
I have about 8k saved for my daughter so far. Right now it is just sitting in a savings account making very little interest. I want to educate myself more before I do an ESA or other college saving programs as I heard depending on what I choose it might limit her choices later (state vs private colleges) .
Re: Any good books or advice on saving for college?
I'm probably not explaining it well and possibly not even remotely correct, but there is a way to avoid declaring it on the FAFSA legally.
Most accounts in the kid's name counts and an account held in your own name also usually counts (with certain exceptions). The money that's just sitting in your bank account would count if your kid was filling out the FAFSA tomorrow.
Things that do not count: retirement account balances, home equity, life insurance policies... in other words, all things that you would not necessarily want to tap into, unless this was a long-term strategy. For instance, you could pay money into your home mortgage instead of a college savings account with the intention of leveraging that equity in the future specifically FOR college - but then you are taking out a loan instead of cash when it comes time to pay. And if sh*t hit the fan, that loan would be secured by your home. It's really not the best strategy unless you can cover that loan some other way.
But you really need to consider whether worrying about the FAFSA is going to make sense for you.
Keep in mind the rules change from year to year, but for some perspective... my parents made less than 6 figures when I went to college, and based on their assets and income I received 0 need-based aid for Vanderbilt, which at the time had just crossed the $40K/year mark. I did receive an academic scholarship, but it was not related to the FAFSA. The FAFSA formula cuts out a lot of middle-income families, so H and I are just not going to worry about FAFSA eligibility. Our kids won't qualify, and I'm not willing to perform financial gymnastics to try.
529's are pretty great because money invested in them grows tax-free if used for a qualified educational expenses. It's basically like a Roth IRA for education. That being said, you want to make sure you don't go overboard with them and wind up with a ton of money you can't spend. You can use it for trade school and grad school, and if your kid gets a scholarship you can take that money out without penalty. However, if you save for full-freight private college tuition and your kid goes to state school, then you are kind of SOL unless you transfer that money to a different beneficiary. You can always take the money out for non-educational expenses, but you will pay a 10% penalty. So obviously that's not ideal.
H and I are planning on using a 529 to cover the expenses for in-state public school (Alabama & Auburn will be our benchmarks), and then we will use taxable investments to cover the difference in case our kid gets into an elite private school.
This is all hypothetical for us because we do not have kids yet, but it's something we are considering as part of our "baby budget" while TTC.
EDIT: It looks like under the new rule grandparent 529's can finance about 2 1/2 years of college without it counting toward FAFSA. You just have to be really careful how you set it up. Here is a good article:
https://personal.vanguard.com/us/insights/article/529-fafsa-rules-032016
And you also have to decide if chasing FAFSA status is worth it. You might get bumped based on your income or other assets you hold that are not related to college.
Yes it would be nice for our children to get some assistance through the FAFSA, but I'm not going to jump through hoops just to hide money so they get assistance.
We have DD's college fund in a 529. There's enough in there for 4 years at a state school. We figure that if she doesn't use all of it then we'll use the remainder for #2. Once that is depleted then we'll cash flow the remaining.
We very well might try to cash flow as much as we can anyways and take the penalty and roll it into our retirement. It really all depends on how we are financially at that time and if cash flowing it is a possibility.
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Part of it had to do with Dad owning a small business (which I think was incorporated at the time but I could be wrong) and the FAFSA counted his business as an asset even though the assests were in land, buildings and heavy machinery.
So yeah, I don't know how much it is worth it to avoid a 529 because it will count towards FASFA.
My dad was career navy raising two boys and a stay at home mom. We were told we made too much and qualified for the same. Loans and work study.
I'm not sure how much it's worth trying to avoid a 529 either. My wife and I combined make a lot more than my poor old dad is. So even gaming the 529 some how wouldn't get our son any free aid. We started one for my son. Not sure how much we'll put in, but right now, we're funding to the state tax deduction.
This was exactly my parents. Farmers, but during the worst years of farming. Their net income every year I was in college was zero. Yet I still didn't qualify for any assistance because they had assets in farm land, buildings, and equipment.
The part that made me the most mad was that they didn't help me with a single penny of school and my dad was so anti-college that my mom co-signed my student loans without telling him. Yet I had to take their income into consideration when it came to whether or not I received any help.
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Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
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That is something I've always found strange about the whole "needs based" scholarships and such.
Plus, as we all know, incomes are "worth" widely different amounts for different parts of the country. Huge differences. For example, I grew up in one of the highest COL areas in the country (Orange County, CA). And fru-fru beach resort town San Clemente, at that. My parents made much less than the average income for the county. But they still made too much for even a few "middle income" need scholarships I came across.
LMAO, Random memory. My HS b/f complained about needs based scholarships also. His parents were involved in a class action lawsuit against their developer. The foundation for their house and the other houses on the street were failing. So, according to him, the lost value of their home should have been "taken into account".
Me, to the "love of my life" at the time, "No offense. But your dad drives a Rolls and your mom drives a 2-year-old BMW. I wouldn't give you a needs based scholarship either."
I think the reason FAFSA looks at nonliquid assets like real estate, etc. is because parents could pretty easily take out a loan against those assets in order to pay for college if they had to. I'm not saying that's a great idea, but I think this is the underlying logic.
In any event, the chances of my future, hypothetical kids qualifying for need-based aid is less than 0. So this is something I'm not going to consider when arranging college savings.
Yup. My H has made the comment that if our children qualify for government assistance then we aren't working hard enough. (he's a pretty blue collar type of guy)
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Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
You can get a quality education without multimillion dollar workout facilities, gourmet dining and luxury dorm rooms. As soon as the government made student loans easy prices started creeping up and to justify the cost they have to give the students an "experience" that is better than a cheaper school.
Then the schools start competing with each other, not to gain the "best and brightest" but to get the highest revenue.
School administrators are overpaid, professors are underpaid and so much money is put towards campus perks that have zero to do with actually TEACHING kids.
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Then you add in the brainwashing that everyone has to have a Bachelor's degree to earn a good living and that the best schools have the best job offers then you have a recipe for disaster. Parents and kids feel like they have no choice, everyone still things that college is the only way so everyone ends up in debt up to their eyeballs.
I'm not saying education is NOT important, but if I knew what I know now back then I would probably make some different decisions.
I had a better experience at the state university where I took some grad school prerequisites. FT tuition back in 2010 would have been $10,000-$12,000 a year. All of my intro science classes were taught by PhD professors (labs too!) who were talented at both science and actual teaching. Lots of people from that program worked their way through school, perhaps with minimal loans, and went on to great grad programs.
Yes!
We were chatting with some friends about the way we would like to handle our children's' college. They think we're insane and depriving our children of a college experience because we will be telling them that their option is an in-state public school unless they can get scholarships to their desired school to make up the difference.
Our friends tried using the argument that if our child gets accepted to Harvard that there are many more opportunities there for them than the in-state school. At the end of the day a degree is a degree. Yes you may have an edge in to various law firms or businesses when going to one school over the other, but is that worth paying $150k for a college "experience" vs $30k?
We may be depriving our children of a college "experience" but I really don't care. If they want to study medical to become a doctor then we'll do some researching about the best financial option to receive that degree.
I'm not going to begin to allow my children to think that the societal norm is okay. That going hundreds of thousands into student loan debt because the campus is pretty, is okay. Yes, it will be very un-American of them, but as much as my hypothetical 18 year old may hate me for it then, they'll thank me when they're 28 and don't have that financial burden.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
Room and board expenses can come out of a 529, but I agree with @April that it's gotten absurd, and I would be inclined to look at off-campus options for my kid. Off-campus housing can come out of a 529 too, but there is a rental ceiling, and rent must be paid directly to a landlord. This would make it harder to legally split payments among roommates, etc.
H and I actually live close enough to UA to commute a few days per week. A lot of kids around here to do that to lower the cost of college. H and I can't really pay ourselves "rent" out of our kid's 529 if this is what our kid does.
Alternatively, some parents actually buy condos with the intention of having all of their kids live there during their educational years, and then they either turn the condo into a rental or sell when the kids are all through school. This model works pretty well in college towns with successful football teams. I know several people who have done this at UA, and they do so well with rent that these condos have become easy investment properties for them. However, we can't use the 529 to fund a condo purchase if we go this route.
We want to keep our options open, so we are going to use a 529 but keep it conservative in the early years. The nice thing is this plan can certainly change as it becomes clear what are kids are going to be doing. We can always add $$ to their account while in high school and lock in some additional years of growth that way.
https://vanguard.wealthmsi.com/csp.php
We used our largest public local university (where DH and I both went for undergrad and grad school) and we're actually over contributing for both girls. We'll keep as is for now so that the extra $ can be there for summer classes, grad school, or other expenses. It assumes 5% annual cost increase. I think as they get into middle school, we'll track that more closely to see if it really is about 5% per year.
I know we're all on the same page, it just really gets me going.
If my kids receive enough scholarships for an Ivy league school to make up the difference or a full ride to one, then heck yeah, go for it kid! But I'm not going to purposely deplete all of the 529 and have them take out student loans in order for it to happen for a prestige experience.
TTC since 1/13 DX:PCOS 5/13 (long, anovulatory cycles)

Clomid 50mg 9/13 = BFP! EDD 6/7/14 M/C 5w6d Found 11/4/13
1/14 PCOS / Gluten Free Diet to hopefully regulate my system.
Chemical Pregnancy 03/14
Surprise BFP 6/14, Beta #1: 126 Beta #2: 340 Stick baby, stick! EDD 2/17/15
Riley Elaine born 2/16/15
TTC 2.0 6/15
Chemical Pregnancy 9/15
Chemical Pregnancy 6/16
BFP 9/16 EDD 6/3/17
Beta #1: 145 Beta #2: 376 Beta #3: 2,225 Beta #4: 4,548
www.5yearstonever.blogspot.com
Aside from some business, law, and maybe medical jobs, I don't think you need the elite private school.
However, depending on your intended a career path, a bachelors is sadly "required" for a lot of jobs these days. I'm not saying you actually use said degree, but like the position I'm in "bachelors degree required". Don't have it? No job.
I have a friend who is of the opinion that college degrees are an unnecessary waste. He's in a similar field to mine, but I make way more than he does. So while I don't think a degree is "required", I do think not having one limits your career choices. I also don't think a lot of debt is required to make it happen either.
I went to a state college, though went to a community college first and lived at home for that portion. Worked p/t all through HS and college to save for it. My parents gave some money and my employer paid for most of my community college tuition.
Not only did I graduate with zero student loan debt, I put $9K in mutual funds one year before I graduated. Because I wouldn't need it for my last year.
The "lowly" state school that made this possible? Every single class, except one, had 25 or fewer students. The majority only had 15-20 students. I was never taught by a TA. Not once. Every class was taught by the professor and all of them had at least a master's in their field of study, most had PhDs. This was also true for my community college, though their class sizes were a bit bigger.
There were aspects of the college experience I missed out on. My frosh/soph years I was stuck at home and went to a community college. Even at my four-year school, there were no dorms or meal plans. Maybe that wasn't such a bad thing, lol. We also didn't have any sports, but then a lot of state schools do.
I'm mildly disappointed I missed out on some aspects of the stereotypical college experience. But I prefer, by 100x, graduating with no debt and watching my $9K mutual fund balloon to $23K in three short years. On that last one, I just got super lucky and invested right when the tech boom was starting. It did set me up for mutual fund disappointment later because "what do you mean it is not normally a 20+% return every year", lol.
When it came time to sell a couple years later, we were able to sell it for $140,000, so she recouped her money, and then some, even after taxes. Now, I know this wouldn't work in some areas because of the housing costs, but it sure made sense for her to do it. And, it solved the housing cost issue.
There are a handful of schools that really do not give scholarships, but the vast majority do.
At the end of the day it cost about the same to send me to Vandy as it would have cost to pay in-state tuition for one of the big state schools. For my family this was an obvious choice, even though it involved giving up a full ride to state school. I am susceptible to social distraction, and even at 18 I doubted that I would thrive at a huge state school. Vandy is tiny by comparison, and it didn't overwhelm me like UGA did. My parents had been saving my entire life for this, and they decided that I had done my part through scholarships to make private school very affordable.
We actually doubted whether the "name" would carry any real benefit, but I have decided that it really does. I was literally offered millions in scholarship money for law school (I wish I could have taken all of it!). Now as an adult I am discovering my undergrad contracts are a great source of legal work while building my book of business.
For other families, giving up a full ride would never be an option for their kids. I am grateful my parents we were able and willing to let me do it.