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Would I be an evil mom if I did this?

L falls asleep just fine at night. He goes in the PNP fusses for maybe 10 minutes and then he's out. He gets up 2x a night like clockwork, usually at the same time. To us, this means that he doesn't need to eat, he's just conditioned. Soooo we're thinking of trying to break that habit this weekend by letting him cry when he wakes up and get himself back to sleep. I know people (family) that have done this and after a couple nights of crying, they STTN.

I know A can handle it, I just don't know if I can. I know he's gonna get all worked up and sweaty and have that desperate cry :( I told A he'll have to take care of two crying people.

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Re: Would I be an evil mom if I did this?

  • I personally couldn't do it, but that doesn't make me better or you evil. My own thoughts, C a baby for so long and if he wants me/bottle for comfort I'm fine w/it. Does waking up in the middle of the night suck? hell yeah. But 6 months has flown by. I can only imagine the years to follow.

    To each his own. I wish you the best of luck if you decide to go through w/it.

  • Neither I nor DH handled the CIO very well. We tried it for a week and it didn't make any difference. We just went back to the way it was. You just have to go with what feels right. Like Brandy says it doesn't make you an evil mom at all.
  • I was on 6-12 month board yesterday and A LOT of women did the Ferber method at 6 months. So it seems to me that you're right on..

    *edit* From what I understand...Ferber is slightly different than simply CIO.

  • You are not evil. Last week when I came here looking for help, I did cio, and she never fell asleep. She cried non-stop, some of the most awful cries I've ever heard. I won't ever let her cry that long or that intensely again. I still feel guilty about, but I tried it and found it didn't work for us. Try it out and see if it will work for you.
  • imageDarbyKat:
    You are not evil. Last week when I came here looking for help, I did cio, and she never fell asleep. She cried non-stop, some of the most awful cries I've ever heard. I won't ever let her cry that long or that intensely again. I still feel guilty about, but I tried it and found it didn't work for us. Try it out and see if it will work for you.
  • Irma - I tried that when l was about 2 mos and it was awful. I did it b/c he would fall asleep being held and then wake up as soon as I put him down. I wanted to see if he could get back to sleep, he didnt and I felt like a monster.

    I think we would do more Ferber - comfort him and not just leave him. I dunno...I think we'll try and see how it goes. If it's bad, than I am fine getting up with him. Like Brandy said, he's only a baby so long. I'm just worried he doesnt get enough sleep - he goes down like at 7:30, up around 11 and 2 and then up for the day at 6:30 so he doesn't get very long stretches.

  • imageBeckiC:

    Like Brandy said, he's only a baby so long.

    Brandy is the voice of reason on this board. I <3 her!

  • He's not up for very long right? And naps during the day so I think he should be fine. J doesn't go to sleep until 9, wakes up around 1. Than wakes up for the day around 6:30-7.

    Isabel would wake up all the time at night and hardly nap during the day but her dr said it was perfectly fine. Some babies just aren't big sleepers.

  • imageDarbyKat:
    imageBeckiC:

    Like Brandy said, he's only a baby so long.

    Brandy is the voice of reason on this board. I <3 her!

    *swoon*  I <3 you too!

    Becki: I wanted to add, that our pedi reccomended feeding him jar food more during the day. C been waking up a few times a night since I came back from Cali.

    we were feeding his twice a day but half a jar w/cereal. Now, he get a full jar 3x a day & sleeps from 8-8:30 until around 3-3:30.

     

  • imagemzjackson:

    e were feeding his twice a day but half a jar w/cereal. Now, he get a full jar 3x a day & sleeps from 8-8:30 until around 3-3:30.

    Holy cow! 3 jars a day? No wonder he's getting to be a little chunky monkey. SmileHow much is he nursing?

  • imagekatdcliff:
    imagemzjackson:

    e were feeding his twice a day but half a jar w/cereal. Now, he get a full jar 3x a day & sleeps from 8-8:30 until around 3-3:30.

    Holy cow! 3 jars a day? No wonder he's getting to be a little chunky monkey. SmileHow much is he nursing?

    Bwaaaaahahahahahahahaha no kidding! my sumo wrestler. He doesn't always finish the jar but sometimes 1 jar isn't enough. hee hee

    He drinks 3 (6-6 1/2) oz of milk a day. Then he has his bottle at bed (usually 6 oz but rarely finishes it).

  • Maybe I do need to feed him more. He eats 3x a day - cereal for breakfast, fruit/veggie for lunch and cereal/veggie for dinner. I've only been giving 1/2 a container though. He did eat a whole stage 2 container yesterday, so I think he's ready for more!

  • imagemzjackson:
    imagekatdcliff:
    imagemzjackson:

    e were feeding his twice a day but half a jar w/cereal. Now, he get a full jar 3x a day & sleeps from 8-8:30 until around 3-3:30.

    Holy cow! 3 jars a day? No wonder he's getting to be a little chunky monkey. SmileHow much is he nursing?

    Bwaaaaahahahahahahahaha no kidding! my sumo wrestler. He doesn't always finish the jar but sometimes 1 jar isn't enough. hee hee

    He drinks 3 (6-6 1/2) oz of milk a day. Then he has his bottle at bed (usually 6 oz but rarely finishes it).

    Wow. I leave DH a bottle on the bed when I leave,usually about 4-6ozs. And sometimes that one bottle will last J until I come home. With no solid food.

    Oh you are going to have one high grocery bill. Yes

  • w/the jar food? It would be about $45 I guess. Idk. Happy baby, happy mama.
  • imagemzjackson:
    w/the jar food? It would be about $45 I guess. Idk. Happy baby, happy mama.

    hehe I meant when he gets older.

    When we were younger my bro,sis and I were really big eaters. My parents would take us to dennys and we would each order 2-3 of the kids plates and finish them. My mom said she would be so embarassed, like people were thinking she wasn't feeding us or something.

  • imagekatdcliff:

    imagemzjackson:
    w/the jar food? It would be about $45 I guess. Idk. Happy baby, happy mama.

    hehe I meant when he gets older.

    When we were younger my bro,sis and I were really big eaters. My parents would take us to dennys and we would each order 2-3 of the kids plates and finish them. My mom said she would be so embarassed, like people were thinking she wasn't feeding us or something.

    A's dad tole me that they used to go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread each day Indifferent

  • imagekatdcliff:

    imagemzjackson:
    w/the jar food? It would be about $45 I guess. Idk. Happy baby, happy mama.

    hehe I meant when he gets older.

    When we were younger my bro,sis and I were really big eaters. My parents would take us to dennys and we would each order 2-3 of the kids plates and finish them. My mom said she would be so embarassed, like people were thinking she wasn't feeding us or something.

    omg, if you met P you would know that was in our future. when we go out to eat he wants "the biggest thing you have". He did this the last time we went out & I had to explain to the waitress, "I'm sorry. This is my husbands last meal."

  • imageBeckiC:

    A's dad tole me that they used to go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread each day Indifferent

    wow how many bro&sis did he have?

  • imagekatdcliff:
    imageBeckiC:

    A's dad tole me that they used to go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread each day Indifferent

    wow how many bro&sis did he have?

    Ummm, A is one of 6.

  • imageBeckiC:
    imagekatdcliff:
    imageBeckiC:

    A's dad tole me that they used to go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread each day Indifferent

    wow how many bro&sis did he have?

    Ummm, A is one of 6.

    I love my kids but I don't think I could handle 6.

  • imagekatdcliff:
    imageBeckiC:
    imagekatdcliff:
    imageBeckiC:

    A's dad tole me that they used to go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread each day Indifferent

    wow how many bro&sis did he have?

    Ummm, A is one of 6.

    I love my kids but I don't think I could handle 6.

    ditto, triple, quadruple that!

    In the end it would have been less expensive to buy a tv.

     

  • imagekatdcliff:
    imageBeckiC:
    imagekatdcliff:
    imageBeckiC:

    A's dad tole me that they used to go through a gallon of milk and a loaf of bread each day Indifferent

    wow how many bro&sis did he have?

    Ummm, A is one of 6.

    I love my kids but I don't think I could handle 6.

    I couldn't agree more!

  • My family would go through a gallon of milk at dinner alone when i was growing up. I have 2 brothers. But it was my Dad that could kill a gallon of milk.

    When I was home all day on mat leave I would drink a 1/2 gallon of milk a day. (just me, by myself)

  • I'm an annoying non-mom that doesn't know what she's talking about, so I'm sorry, but  I don't think you'd be evil or anything. I think it depends on his teperment and what you can handle. If it's too much right now, try again when he's a little older and not as needy.

    Have you tried not feeding him when he wakes up at night, just holding him?

  • imageLadykat42:

    I'm an annoying non-mom that doesn't know what she's talking about,

    This is the second time you've said/posted that & gave out great advice.

    Remind me to pinch you twice, when I go back to cali.

  • imagemzjackson:
    imageLadykat42:

    I'm an annoying non-mom that doesn't know what she's talking about,

    This is the second time you've said/posted that & gave out great advice.

    Remind me to pinch you twice, when I go back to cali.

    Minus the pinches I agree. :)

  • imagemzjackson:
    imageLadykat42:

    I'm an annoying non-mom that doesn't know what she's talking about,

    This is the second time you've said/posted that & gave out great advice.

    Remind me to pinch you twice, when I go back to cali.

    I agree. You have earn the right to not put the "i'm not a mom but" disclaimer in your advice.

  • imagemzjackson:
    imageLadykat42:

    I'm an annoying non-mom that doesn't know what she's talking about,

    This is the second time you've said/posted that & gave out great advice.

    Remind me to pinch you twice, when I go back to cali.

    I like to add the disclaimer so people can feel free to ignore me and I don't wanna get flamed for being sticking my nose into things. I just can't keep my mouth shut, but I know it bugs to have a non-parent spouting off about parenting. Smile

  • imageLadykat42:
    imagemzjackson:
    imageLadykat42:

    I'm an annoying non-mom that doesn't know what she's talking about,

    This is the second time you've said/posted that & gave out great advice.

    Remind me to pinch you twice, when I go back to cali.

    I like to add the disclaimer so people can feel free to ignore me and I don't wanna get flamed for being sticking my nose into things. I just can't keep my mouth shut, but I know it bugs to have a non-parent spouting off about parenting. Smile

    You dont come off that way at all! I really appreciate any input :)

  • Is it bad that I had to google STTN and CIOEmbarrassed?  I'm glad that you asked this Becki.  It's nice to hear everyone's opinions.  I hope you find something that works for you.
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