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F/U to "Is it just my husband"
So here's a question, do any of you do outdoor or 'man' chores? Like mow, trash, weed eat, etc?
Also, what about car related chores, like oil changes or car washes?
I do not. I will take out the trash, but if DH is home I'll ask him to. I do not mow or weed eat, and never have. I will help weed, if we're having outside chore day. DH leaf blows, sweeps the patio, cleans up the drive. All w/o me asking, and I have never helped.
Re: F/U to "Is it just my husband"
Dh does all of the yard work, unless we are doing a big project or planting.
He is the one that takes out the trash most of the time, and on trash day I help get it all together, but he is the one who drags the cans out
I never have to ask him to do any of this...
And, I do all of the inside chores (laundry, cleaning, cooking)
It's an even balance for us.
Not really. I hate gardening & yard work so I'm not interested in doing much more than keeping the yard presentable. DH took over the yard when we got married and he moved in. He mows, but he forgets spots like the little strip between the sidewalk and street, the area behind our detached garage, etc. I don't think he's lazy, I think the problem is that he doesn't really like yard work either, he's not handy and was never taught this stuff by his dad, plus he does not notice details. Heck, he parks on the street and comes in the front door and walked past a pop can someone left on our steps for at least 3 days. Oh, plus he lived in a condo for about 8 years so everything was done for him on the outside-I don't think he understands that someone actually has to pull the weeds and pick up bits of trash. He works his butt of at his job and is very motivated there so sometimes I think his brain just shuts down when he gets home (mine does too).
Another thing-I have ADHD, as do my dad, bro, & sister. It's very hard for people like us to deal with details, multi tasking, follow through, etc. I really see the same behaviors in DH sometimes so I guess that makes me not loose it with him b/c I know how hard I've struggled with the little details in daily life. I wonder if some of the other oblivious husbands had ADD/ADHD traits when they were younger. Again, it's not an excuse, but it does explain some of the frustration.
Yes. I do a LOT of outdoor work including mowing, weed whacking, weed pulling, hedge trimming, pruning anything, restacking stone walls, sweeping the patio, laying patio pavers.
I also take out the trash - probably a little more often than my H does or at 50-50 level. This also goes for larger - project-related - trash as well as normal trash.
In our house - nothing is anyone's particular job (except that we both do our own laundry). I don't want to police him on things and he doesn't want to police me on things. It keeps us from nagging each other. Once in awhile there's a gentle reminder as in, "how long has it been since you took a turn doing dishes?" - but that's about it.
For the most part he does all the yard work, garbage, etc and I do the laundry, cooking, cleaning. However, we're both pretty flexible. If he's having a busy week or is out of town I do the garbage and manly jobs. He will also help out with the laundry and dishes if I'm having a crazy week. I'd say we have a pretty good balance.
Although, he gets teased about this all the time, but he's not very handy. So, when it comes to putting things together, hanging stuff in the house, etc I have to do it!