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post wedding sadness
Hi girls....so this is half vent/half please tell me there isn't something wrong with me. I got married about 2 months ago and I am really happy with married life and love my DH very much. We bought a house in May and I have been settled into my job for a while now...and now I have this overwhelming feeling that everything there is to look forward to is over for me. I know deep down it's not true, but DH just got offered a brand new job, which is exactly what he has been hoping for and my sister is getting married in a year and picked out her wedding dress this weekend. I don't know what my deal is...maybe we did too much this year with the wedding and the house. I am reluctant to say anything to DH or anyone else because I don't want to upset them when they have such wonderful things to celebrate. I just feel like I will not going to have anything to look forward to again....did this happen to anyone else or is it just me?? If it did happen to you any suggestions for how to help it pass without so much crying (PS-totally bawling just typing this....)
TIA
Re: post wedding sadness
I'm sorry you're feeling so sad, but you have a whole life together to look forward to. Whether it's having children or traveling or decorating your new home, there are so many wonderful things ahead. Yes the wedding was fun and exciting, but it was just one day(most would love to do it all over again). Now enjoy the marriage!
Lisa Beth
There is def an emptiness post wedding. So much of your time and efforts are going into that one day that when it's over you don't know what to do with yourself.
Hang in there and try something new. Join a gym, start a new craft hobby, get involved in something that gives you purpose and I think you'll feel better.
I think that can be a very normal feeling. People have different reactions, some just move on and are happy to no longer have things to do, but for me I felt like I didn't have anything else to put my energy and time into. I was going from thing to thing and it was difficult not to be sad that it was over, even though we had a great day.
I've accepted now though that I need things to research and plan, it makes me happy.
I remember reading post after post of post-wedding depressed brides. You spend all that time and energy planning for something; one of the biggest moments in your life it's only natural that you feel let down and depressed.
Hang in there. It does get better. What about hosting family for Thanksgiving or Christmas? A lot of times all it takes is to have something else to plan or occupy the time you use to use planning for the wedding.