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How Many Kids Do You Want?
DH is dead set on having at least one more baby. I can't really bear to even fathom the thought of another baby right now so he may be waiting a while. A long while.
What would be the ideal number of offspring for you? If your kids were all the same sex, would you keep trying for another sex?
And yes, NONE is a perfectly acceptable answer 
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Re: How Many Kids Do You Want?
angel, I'm normally against producing more children than there are parents, but in your case.... yay! more beautiful and sweet children! I'm sure I told you this before, but if I knew I would have kids like yours, I'd probably start having kids now.
Though DH says he'd be happy with none, I'm pretty sure our plan is for one... a few years down the road.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
I say 2, DH says 3. I just feel like if the parents are outnumbered than they seem to lose control a lot. I feel this way about pets too which is why we have 2 dogs and will not ever have more.
If we have 2 girls or 2 boys, there is a chance I could be convinced to try for a 3rd. If that one is the same sex as the previous 2, no way in helll am I having a 4th.
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In a perfect world we would have 2 children, a boy and a girl. I think 2 is our plan whether or not they are the same sex. Twins run in my family so that could possibly change things. My great grandmother had 3 sets of twins.
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haha Lark, your response made me laugh.
I definitely want more than one. I was an only child growing up and haaated it! I would never put anyone else through that
I think it would be fun to have a huge family, like in The Family Stone or Dan in Real Life (which I watched this weekend). Or Home Alone! The chaos going on in those homes always made me really happy.
I always thought this too! I always wanted a big family because it was just me and my bro...but...now that I am the one that has to be pregnant and go through labor--oh and breastfeed and stay home with them 22 hours a day...2 looks good to me.?
It's true. For every photo album of your little cuties, you need to give me one tantrum video to damper the baby rabies.
Lucy Elizabeth 10.27.12
Tricky questions. For us, it really depends on finances. Alex wants to have three kids and migrate to the 'burbs (specifically, the town where he grew up in Fairfield County, CT). I never want to leave the city. I'd rather have one or two kids and stay in Manhattan. It is an ongoing discussion. I've finally gotten Alex to conceed that if money wasn't an issue, we'd stay put. So now I just have to figure out a way to not make money an issue...
Gender would only be an issue for me if I didn't have a daughter. I must have a daughter. My desire for one may be stronger than my desire to stay in NYC. So, if we had two boys in NYC and couldn't afford a third kid in the city, I'd pack up my life (and my sanity) to try for a little girl.
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I know! My best friend growing up was one of four and there was always something going on in their house. Drama, movie watching, soccer games, someone was always doing something you wanted to be a part of. Not at my house. But the birthing of it all...I think 3 is a good compromise. But I am sad that my kids will never have cousins. I want all my friends to get pregnant when I do so at least they can have some "cousins." (that's sort of flameful, isn't it?)
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B and I are planning on 2, a girl and a boy. Of course, if we have 2 boys, B is fine, but if we have 2 girls, he'd want to try for a 3rd for the male offspring.
He's such a sexist.
That all being said, twins also run in my family, on both sides, and twins run in B's mom's side. They are pretty much all fraternal, so chances of twinsies being girl/boy are higher than hoping the egg will split, but who knows.
I'd kill for twins, g/b, one pregnancy, and be done with it.
Maybe not kill.
But possibly.
The Family Stone - welcome to my family (in a few years). There are 6 of us, and the older we get, the more interesting and dysfunctional it gets, especially with adding spouses/significant others into the mix. However, I remember the chaos that was my childhood, which is why I could never be the mum of a brood, but is sure is fun to partake in the madness!
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One&Only Palmilla - Los Cabos, Mexico
This also sounds like an excellent plan to me. Sadly, twins do not run in our family. Fertility drugs? Maybe I can have my own octuplets? Should I shoot for nine? (kidding about that last part, but not the first)
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Probably 2. It depends how horrible the pregnancy/delivery for the 1st one is. I like St Joe would want to have twins to get it over and done with. M does not want to have an only child. I would prefer boys.
I think the dysfunctionality is what I loved the most about that family!!
Shoot for the moon, Lark - go for ELEVEN! Then we can all say we knew you when...
You are more than welcome to come and witness the hilarious dysfunctionality that is the Choo family. This year my 15 year old sister, my mister and I are rickrolling Christmas Eve by showing up in adult feety pajamas. In front of the guests. My poor mum will freak. It will be awesome. We're also meeting my only brother's long-time girlfriend for the first time. He's been hiding her. He should probably keep hiding her. Poor, poor girl.
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One&Only Palmilla - Los Cabos, Mexico
i grew 1 of 4 kids, and we were all really close in age. I definitely want my kids to have siblings, but not sure that I want quite as much madness. DH and I both say 2-3. It depends on how manageable it is with 2, and on the genders. K wants at least 1 boy and I want at least 1 girl. So if we get to 2 of the same sex, we'll probably try for a 3rd, unless we can't handle it financially. After three I'm definitely closin shop, haha.
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We have talked about this for years now, I grew up in a family with 3 siblings (1 sister and 2 brothers) David technically grew up with one brother, and at almost 17yrs old his other brother came along. David has always wanted 2 kids, I have always wanted 3. We have come to the conclusion that we will have 2, and see about things after that (how they act, girls/boys, finances etc) We would ultimately love to have a girl and a boy, and then if we have a third hopefully another girl... obviously that is asking for alot... We will take what we get... Growing up with my two younger brothers definitely made me think that i would NEVER want two boys... especially not around the same age.. they got into SO much trouble together, but then again my sister and I fought alot through high school, but all four of us get along amazing now... like best friends.. so i guess there are ups and downs to all groups of siblings! As long as we are able to have children we will be completely happy with whatever we get!
This is pretty much my extended family. Both sides. Mom is #2 of 8, Dad #5 of 9. Christmas at my Grams is absolute chaos...and I LOVE IT. I actually feel most at home at holiday gatherings where there are 10,000 things going on and kids underfoot. Thankfully DHs siblings are cranking out kids (one due next week, another early Jan) so there will soon be bedlam with his family too.
Our answer is 2-4. Probably 2. Might slightly depend on gender, but we'll cross that when we come to it. Will also probably depend on how the pregnancy goes and how easy it is for us to conceive (I'm 33, so kinda wanna get the show on the road).
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