Preference: male or female gyno?

MarynJoe · January 2010

I've gone to both and I LOVE my current male doctor, more than any doctor I've ever had. My second favorite was also a man. It has to do with their bedside manner, if they listen to my concerns, if they respect my privacy/modesty, things like that. When I talk about a problem or pain, like the surgery I had a year ago, my doctor sympathizes because his wife went through the same thing, or mentions a previous patient who had the same reaction. So, while he doesn't personally know, he's heard and seen enough to be empathetic. And it's genuine. I love him.

jonesdouglas · January 2010

Female

JuneBride5 · January 2010

Well first and foremost - I want to see someone who knows what their doing, regardless of gender.

All the females I've seen up until now have been complete idiots. I'm now seeing a man, and he's really good. I find he makes more effort to make me feel comfortable and relaxed than any women doctor I've ever had (probably because most people find it more awkward spreading your legs in front of a strange guy). All my women doctors were kind of rude, and were very painful at administering exams (they didn't really care how anything felt - they just got in there and poked around right away).

JuneBride5 · January 2010

dirtyred:
I've had both and HANDS DOWN the men were more gentle than the women.

I'm sticking with males from now own.

Exactly!

sara7238 · January 2010

I've had both male and female gynos, but honestly I prefer a female one. I know that they are both trained the same, but I feel more comfortable with someone who's actually been through the process themselves. A male, no matter how good of a doctor he may be, does not truly know what it feels like to have a pelvic exam, a speculum inserted or a scrapping of their cells. It's been my experience from the doctors that I've had, that I have less anxiety with a female gyno because I know that they can relate to what I'm feeling while I'm in those aweful stirrups. DH didn't understand this until he had to go to the doctor for groin injuries. He had both a female and male doctor, but said he felt more comfortable with the male doctor b/c as he put it, they "have the same parts".

lifeguard · January 2010

Grow up girls. You are getting your body checked and or treated for disease or injury. It's not romance, can you not separate the two? Physicians are trained professionals, not targets for your sexual hangups or immaturity.

And just what is so special and important about your p*ssy above everybody else"s? You do know that half the population has one.

augrl0307 · January 2010

Only been to a female gyno so far, because I asked friends for recommendations when I was new to the area. Plus I work in Labor/Delivery and just personally would feel awkward going to a male doctor that I work with every day. Just a personal preference.

The_Quiet_One · January 2010

I've always had female gynos, and that's what I prefer. I was molested in college and I had a hard time getting to the point where I would let me now-DH get near me, and I'm still not at the point where I would *willingly* choose a male gyno. There are two men at the practice I now go to (and where I'm planning on going when we start a family), so I know that at some point I might end up seeing them and I'm working at getting myself to a point where I would be comfortable with that.

That said, I've had my fair share of lousy women gynos. Being female doesn't automatically make someone a good, pleasant doctor. I've had one or two who I thought were going to pop my ovaries like grapes and one who left me in tears after the way she lectured me about the dangers of a lack of folic acid in my diet. But at this point in my life, I'm still more comfortable with a female doc -- I'm just experienced enough now to know that I can shop around until I find one I like.

Jennyjenz · January 2010

dirtyred:

I've had both and HANDS DOWN the men were more gentle than the women.

I'm sticking with males from now own.

ditto. been to both, prefer a male doc. i feel b/c they don't have our 'parts' they're more inclined to be gentle. i speak from experience. one of the female docs in my ob's practice saw me when i was bleeding while 3 months PG and she was rough, to say the least.

mrs.forrister · January 2010

I love my female doctor and I'll stick with her for a while. I've never seen a male. She was the first doctor I saw and I really, really like her. I feel like she knows what I'm going through and knows what pains, etc. I'm talking about.

bostonjen · January 2010

Female. The only doctors I've had who were not female were my GI surgeon and the surgeon who did my breast reduction. I feel like female doctors can understand female issues better. Likewise, my H has all male doctors.

rels09 · January 2010

I don't really understand the "knows what I'm going though" argument that much. After all, most oncology docs have never had cancer, and most cardiologists have never had a heart attack. They know what to do because they've seen hundreds of patients with similar conditions. So I think professional experience counts for a lot more than personal.

That said, I have always had female docs in the past. I am now at the point where I really have no preference. Maybe it's part of getting older.

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