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Would you do this?
So, this is one of todays hot topics on the nest . I just c&p'd.
don't know if y'all remember/ heard about when a pastor in Dallas issued a challenge to his congregation for the married couples to have sex everyday for 30 days. The hubs and I have decided to take this challenge and see how it goes. As you can imagine he was very difficult to convince (ha ha yeah right!)
Today is day 3 for us. Anyone wanna join the challenge?!
Would you do this? ANd, how many times a week do you and DH get it on? I know it's a little personal, but for those who get the Nest mag, everythime they interview couples they aske them how many times a week!
Re: Would you do this?
I'll answe as well. No. lol,. I would not do this. DH would jump at it though. I am way to tired after a busy work day, and I have an upset belly alot form my Crohn's disease. Maybe they are excuses but who wants to have sex when they feel like crap?
And, we do it about 2-3 times a week.
How many times a week...ugh
How about how many times a MONTH!
I have ZERO sex drive...and DH and I are so opposite...I am a morning person and more "raring to go" in the morning...he sleeps in.
He is a night person and wants to do it at night, where I am just to tired and not interested at all.
So yeah....2-3 times a month
MAYBE...very sad.
No I would not participate. After going for days while TTC, after day 4 we are both pretty much over it. We DTD maybe 4-5 times a month. But only because we are TTC. If we werent, I would say more like 2-3 times a month. IF THAT.
Before D however, I was an every single day kind of girl. I seriously went 3 solid years of daily sex with my ex. But D and I just dont have that chemistry, im too freakin tired, and the sex just isn't that great to be honest.
really? do you think it could get better?
I'm not sure. This is way personal and probably too much TMI to be exposing all over the nest but I have dealt with others that had similar issues as D has and it improved....his has not even after all this time. Certain things that he does are good but he lacks in other areas. I can only do so much and without him seeing someone to figure out if there is an actual problem....I doubt it will change.
sorry, I know it is personal. I was just curious.
I would like to eventually, but I can't right now. I feel bad for J because he would probably love to do it everyday, but right now I'm so exhausted and in pain I can't. I try to make sure we do at least two sexual acts (not necessairly sex) a week so we don't feel like roomates (we're best friends so sometimes it's hard to not just play into that). I miss doing it more frequently though. It makes me feel closer to him.
No, I wouldn't be interested. DH and I at our peak were doing it at most 5 times in a week and it was exhausting. Quite frankly, I do not like to have sex consecutively ever. It's never quite as good the next day and sometime painful... I like a days break at least. Plus, Dh and I never have (and never will) have sex during my time -- and that's within a 30 day period of time.
Currently, we have sex 2-3 times a week. It depends on how busy we are really.
What does this mean?
This may sound weird but DH and I are right the opposite of most couples. I am the one who could "do it" all the time and DH could care less. He's so strange about it. I can do things to make him "hot and bothered", but he doesn't act on it. He just walks off and thinks about something else. But when we do "do it" he is always the one who starts it, not me, cause every time I try to get something going he's not up for it... kinda bums me out. Now don't get me wrong DH is very affectionate, in a Huggy, kissy, "I love my hun", "your so gorgeous" kind of way.
So would I do it? Yeah just to see how long it would last. Probably not long...
And we only do it about 1 or 2 a month... it's sad.
The challenge is to have sex every day for 30 days. Dh and I don't have sex when I'm on my period and there is not a 30 day period when I am not on it at some point.
- Nope, we wouldn't make it past day 5. Plus, I agree with Ashley- it's really not happening while aunt flo is visiting!
- 2 times a week at most. If it were up to me, it would be more, but I'm sort of in the same boat with Karrey *sigh*.
Oh duh! ::Smacks myself on the forehead with the palm of my hand::
LOL
Well, my time could have meant when I'm ovulating since we aren't TTC, but I'm on BCP (idk we've discussed this though). I just didn't specify well.
I wouldn't participate. It feels forced somehow. (and I agree, it gets painful and just not fun)
Right now we're doing it once a week, maybe once every 10 days, but it takes a while to get me interested. A big belly is not the best afrodisiac for me...
Before we got pregnant it was more like twice a week, but it varies with my disposition. Sometimes I'm really not into it, some days I can't get enough.
No, we would not do this. Maybe if were were both still in college with more relaxed schedules, but we're just too tired after work sometimes.
We have sex 2-3 times a week. I'm hoping that number goes up a bit after my bcp runs out next week because my sex drive has plummeted in the past 2 years.
Nope, wouldn't do it. M is lucky if he gets it from me once a month. To be quite frank the sex sucks so I'm never in the mood. When we decide to conceive that will probably be the only reason why I do it.
We tried last year...it lasted about 4 days, then my SF died, so I didn't see DH for a few days... yeah, I don't think it'd work for us...
We're about 1-2x/wk and right now are trying some 'new' things for us... My sex drive is very small, but when you get someone who wants it all the time-you kinda want to say-HEY! back away from the port!... Or he wants it when he knows I am just too friggin tired.
Or the kids are with us-um, nope, that's just odd-I can't relax... THEN-when they leave-AF tends to visit-the WITCH!!
Nope. We really only "do it" to TTC. We work opposite schedules and we just don't have that chemistry.
Meh. No. I remember the first month of dating, we did it EVERY day, sometimes twice. That was pounds ago (for both of us) and years ago when we were horny teenagers/college kids.
I try to get it at least once or twice a week. Before getting pregnant it was twice a week. To be honest right now I'd much rather cuddle with the baby then have sex. Or eat nachos. Post partum sex gets painful since things are still healing.
I don't think I could do 30 days in a row. That's crazy talk! I'm also very "tight" and so sometimes if I do it too much it hurts me. But I have heard that the more sex you have, the more you want it, and vice versa.
We probably do "sexual acts," as someone else said, 2-3 times per week. Every time we do it, we're like "Wait, WHY don't we do this more often?" Haha.
Also, am I the only weirdo who likes doing it during my period? It helps with cramps sooo much.
IKWYM. There are weeks where that's the case for me too. I feel bad because I know what he'd want to do, and in a way I feel that I let him down because much of the time I have no drive for it. It sucks.