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Re: Would you do this?
Nope, you're not alone. It doesn't bother either of us to do it during my period. Sometimes it feels better then!
That's exactly how I feel! I feel like I'm a bad wife or something.
This.
Before I was pregnant we were 2-3 times a week esp. during the week I ovulated. We've done it once since the BFP (and I had bleeding 2 days later, so doctor told me at least 1 week cervical rest on Monday. My sex drive was almost non-existent when I was on BCP. I did it 1-2 x week b/c I felt bad for DH (who would do it everyday if I would). And then I'd be like Twink "Wait Why don't we do this more often?". I like sex, and its good when we do it, its just that one or the other of us is too tired, or its the wrong time of day (I'm a night person, he's a morning person), and pick a reason....
The highest my sex drive has been was when we were in the 2 week wait after my D&C- I was so horny those 2 weeks and the 2-3 weeks after....it's just one of those things as soon as they told me I couldn't have sex, I wanted it! Which is funny b/c with that pregnancy I was totally uninterested. This pregnancy I've had a sex drive- crazy sex dreams, etc. (When I told DH about the cervical rest, he told me "I don't care if we have to go the whole pregnancy, if that's what we have to do." Aww. So sweet. But really hopeful that this is NOT the case.)
I would never do that challenge! I'd have a UTI by the end of the first week. And I think N would be worn out, too. We're not college kids anymore!
We average 2 times a week on non-ovulation weeks (including when AF is in town - I'm with Twink - it helps!), and 3-4 between AF's end and O. Partly because we're TTC, and partly because my drive is much higher then.
I'm extremely grateful that N and I have great chemistry, and he is by far the best partner I've ever had, but I still don't want it more than 3-4 times per week, at the MOST :P.
Absolutely not! I'm with a few of you, I'm naturally tight, DH is a bit too big so we deal with tearing every time, (Sorry, gross I know) and so two days in a row is out of the question because it hurts so much.
We used to be a have "fun" every day at least like 6 days a week kind of couple, whatever kind of "fun" that is, but actual sex is only 1-2 a month because of the fit issue.
I also have no sex drive and was hoping that going off of BC would help that, but after seeing the other posts, maybe it won't matter. Damn it!
This makes me feel a lot better. Dh and I always joke that we aren't a good fit bc of this, but I always feel like we're the only two people with the issue.
But, I can say the more often you have it (not consecutively still), the less it'll hurt. Just as info if you're interested in doing it more often. For a while before DH and I were married we were only doing it once or twice a month and it hurt a lot every time. Now it's 2 -3 times a week, and it rarely hurts unless it's consecutive.
Good for you, girlfriend!
Sorry this is late. You must be thinking of another. We waited for years before we had sex bc we were so young, but not till marriage.
Originally when we first started dating, we both wanted to wait till marriage. But once we knew we wanted to get married but were waiting to be financially dependent, we decided to do it -- why wait years more just to be with the same person.
I'm late to this post too...
I have this issue too...especially if its 'rough' then the next day is a no go.
Karrey - it might've been me you were thinking of; DH and I were both virgins until we got married.
Sex is great, but seems like we don't do it very often, maybe a couple times a month. It varies though, like another person said, sometimes we'll have it 3-4x a week (mostly 'successful' as in when DH doesn't have issues). But b/c of the tightness issues, we're having trouble trying different positions, and some are really uncomfortabe for me. So in that regard, although its good, I feel bad that we always in one of two positions. Gets a little boring sometimes...