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Heartbroken

Hey yall I just wanted to say thanks for the T&P's, sadly they werent enough to get us through this. Me and H have been together for 7 years and married for over a year. Idk what has happened in the last 5 days but my world is shattering.... He is in Virginia and I havent talked to him since thursday. My phone rang at midnight and it was him.... He was furious and I really wasnt sure why. Then it seems as though he believes here is life beyond us..... So to make a long story short...... I think he may be moving out when he gets back from his trip. I am at a loss for words, numb really. I havent been able to eat since tuesday and all I seem to do is cry.....
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  • Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry you're going through this!

    You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but what is he mad about? What is he doing in Virginia?

    Big hugs going you way!

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    Oh, sweetie, I'm so sorry you're going through this!

    You don't have to answer if you don't want to, but what is he mad about? What is he doing in Virginia?

    Big hugs going you way!

    He is in Virginia visiting his cousin, this trip was planned since Thanksgiving. He doesnt get to see his cousin very often so they planned a trip.

    He is didnt really say what he was mad about, he just seemed to let everything build up I guess. Plus to make it even worse he has some friends that are making it worse..... I just dont know what to do? Everything just seemed to flip in a matter of days.

  • I'm so sorry hun.  Lots of hugs.
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  • Im just lost.... so confused.
  • I'm so sorry sweetie...lots of hugs (I'm told I give pretty good hugs, so I"m sending lots and lots your way).
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    He is in Virginia visiting his cousin, this trip was planned since Thanksgiving. He doesnt get to see his cousin very often so they planned a trip.

    He is didnt really say what he was mad about, he just seemed to let everything build up I guess. Plus to make it even worse he has some friends that are making it worse..... I just dont know what to do? Everything just seemed to flip in a matter of days.

    So he just said he'd be moving out when he returns, no explainations? That's so sh!tty!

    I hope he's more open to talk about it when he returns, and that you can figure it out.When is he returning?

    Again, big hugs!

  • Oh, sweetie! I am so, so sorry! Sending you big hugs. . .
  • Very sorry! And hugs to you, too!  Still more T&P to you that this gets worked out for the best!!!!  I hope you find out why as I think NOT knowing is the worst part... and there is something the two of you can do to work things out-whatever they may be!

  • I'm so sorry you're going through this.  I hope you're able to find some answers soon.  HUGS.
  • My thoughts are still with you that you can be can stay strong and hopefully work something out. We are all here for you, feel free to vent away and relieve some stress, that's what the Novembies are here for. :::HUGS:::
  • Oh sweetheart, I was hoping that it wasnt something this serious.  I'm not sure if you actually want to talk about it so I am afraid to ask questions but know that we are here for you.  SOmetimes strangers are the best form of support, especially in a time like this so that friends arent getting involved and having to "choose sides".

    Big hugs to you and I hope that he just needed some time away and time to think.  I know that you guys were TTC, is he just not ready for that and trying to push things away?  Men can be very simple minded and it could be something that simple.  Good Luck sweetie, we are most definatley here for you.

  • I'm sorry to hear you are going through this.  We are here for you if you ever decide you want to vent/talk about it.  Big hugs to you.
  • I'm really sorry to hear that!  We're all here for you.

    Where in VA is he?  Do you need me to go kick his a$$?  I'm pretty centrally located to most of the state!

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    I'm sorry to hear you are going through this.  We are here for you if you ever decide you want to vent/talk about it.  Big hugs to you.

    Ditto! Left HugRight Hug

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  • Oh hon I am so sorry to hear this.  I know there isn't much that we can say to ease any pain that you are going through, but please know that we are all here for you even if it's just to help take your mind off of things for a few minutes.  Big hugs to you.
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    imageSheriandMark:
    I'm sorry to hear you are going through this.  We are here for you if you ever decide you want to vent/talk about it.  Big hugs to you.

    Ditto! Left HugRight Hug

    Thritto.

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  • Oh sweetie. . .I don't know what to say.  I am so sorry that you are going through this.  I am not sure of the details of what is going on and not sure if you want to get into them but I can't imagine that 5 days away could change his mind about your relationship.  I hope you are able to talk things out when he gets home.  We are all here for you.  ::HUGS::
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  • I am so sorry you are going through this. I hope you two are able to communicate and figure out what is best for both of you. Prayers and hugs for you!
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  • Thanks all of you for everything.... I hope you know how great you are. I just dont know what to day bc I am at a loss for words. He has some friends that seem to be pushing him into this.... they are talking about it on FB. I just dont understand...... I try to wrap my brain around it and nothing makes sense. Two weeks ago he was talking about children, and names and nurseries. He has baby fever worse than me..... Then this happens. Im just kinna numb.

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    I'm really sorry to hear that!  We're all here for you.

    Where in VA is he?  Do you need me to go kick his a$$?  I'm pretty centrally located to most of the state!

    He is in Chesapeake, I think somewhere close to Virginia Beach.

  • I missed commenting yesterday, but I'm so sorry you're going through this. Hopefully you can both find yourselves through the situation and come out stronger. Thinking of you today.
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    I'm really sorry to hear that!  We're all here for you.

    Where in VA is he?  Do you need me to go kick his a$$?  I'm pretty centrally located to most of the state!

    He is in Chesapeake, I think somewhere close to Virginia Beach.

    I'm not too far from there.  Let me know if you need me to hunt him down!

    I hope you guys get to talk things over before final decisions are made.

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  • I'm so sorry to hear that.  I hope you're able to communicate and get some answers soon.  We're here for you.
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  • Oh sweetie I am so sorry your going through this.

    Don't let him just walk out, gets some answers!! My T&P are with you, and big huggs!!

  • Im just soooo scared..... We have been together for 7 years. WTF is up with this?? Really. I dont understand.

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    Im just soooo scared..... We have been together for 7 years. WTF is up with this?? Really. I dont understand.

    7 year itch?  There has to be something he's not telling you.  No one just decides they don't want to be married anymore without a reason.  

    When is he coming home?

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  • Hugs go out to you hun!  I am so sorry you have to be going through this.  You remain in my T&Ps!
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    Thanks all of you for everything.... I hope you know how great you are. I just dont know what to day bc I am at a loss for words. He has some friends that seem to be pushing him into this.... they are talking about it on FB. I just dont understand...... I try to wrap my brain around it and nothing makes sense. Two weeks ago he was talking about children, and names and nurseries. He has baby fever worse than me..... Then this happens. Im just kinna numb.

    I think he really needs to explain himself to you.  How is he letting is friends talk him into this if you did nothing?  I really hope you can talk this out when he gets home.

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  • Yikes lady that sucks :(

    It makes zero sense. Are his friends all young and single? Do they not like you?

    I dont see how he can go from talking about babies to moving out in under 2 weeks! Thats just nuts.

    I hope when he comes home you are able to sit down and talk things out. Maybe there was a misunderstanding on his part or something. Oil

    Good luck!T&P's

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    Yikes lady that sucks :(

    It makes zero sense. Are his friends all young and single? Do they not like you?

    I dont see how he can go from talking about babies to moving out in under 2 weeks! Thats just nuts.

    I hope when he comes home you are able to sit down and talk things out. Maybe there was a misunderstanding on his part or something. Oil

    Good luck!T&P's

    Ditto all off this.  Hang in there!

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