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MIL Mini-Vent
Sorry to piggyback on Keb's post but this just irked me today. Usually I get along just fine with my MIL but there are moments when I get annoyed, especially re: money. I received an invitation to DH's cousin's baby shower. Obviously, MIL and SIL are going to be invited as well. I called MIL to make plans to go with her and SIL since the shower is in their hometown. FIL's b-day is also that week so we decided to do a lunch for FIL and then the girls could all go to the shower that afternoon. Sounds great, kills 2 birds with 1 stone for me and we only have to drive to Burlington once (it's about 1.5 hours away).
She calls back a few minutes later and says, "I just had the best idea! Why don't the three of us go in together on a gift. We can each just spend $10 and get something that's $30. That way you don't have to spend much money." It is her nature to go out of her way to keep her kids from buying/paying/spending ANYTHING. She's extremely frugal and I get that, but sometimes it's outright cheap and she pushes that onto us.
I am not comfortable showing up to this shower having spent only $10 on a gift. I know for a fact this cousin spent at least $30 on a hand painted picture frame she gave us as a wedding gift. Not only that, but she designed my bridal shower invitations for free since she's a graphic designer and they were really nice.
I told MIL that I'd look over the registry and get back to her. After looking, I decided on a $35 gift from Target and ordered it on my own. I'm going to grit my teeth when MIL tells me that I spent way too much. I hate that spending any money is SUCH a big deal in their family.
Re: MIL Mini-Vent
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I offer my validation too, K(ex-B).
Dealing with the MIL is a hard line to balance. You don't want to offend them, yet you don't want to establish a precedent of doing things her way while going against your beliefs.
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