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Need to vent...
Wow. I just had a reaction I never expected.
DH and I decided we are not in a place to have babies right away. I'm 30 so there's a possibility if we wait a few years, it could be more difficult to get pregnant. I've known that was a possibility our whole relationship and I've been completely okay with that.
I just got an e-mail from one of my friends, telling me they're going off birth control and are going to see what happens. I am so excited but at the same time, I'm fighting back tears... I am overwhelmed with emotions of "what if we wait and have kids"... "I can't go through the having a baby adventure with this friend"... etc...
I did not expect this. At all. Because I didn't anticipate it, I have no idea where to go with these emotions right now. Wow.
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Awww, millie. Don't worry about it. People have babies at 40, and you know you're not waiting that long.
I think something biological happens to many (not all) women around our age where our minds go into baby-mode.
No worries. You will be a mommy soon!
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Ditto all of the above. I'll be 34 later this month, and we'll be trying this summer. ALL my friends are done having babies, and I've felt behind the game and very left out for years now, but it hasn't been the right time for us.
And, I was conceived by a 50 year old dad and a 46 year old mom.
The health risks are higher, but if it's meant to happen, it will. Take your time and be fully ready for the experience. Yay for being honest with yourself enough to wait, AND to write this post to share your feelings with us!
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I'm late, but I had to jump in here. I'm 27, no plans for babies until I'm at least 30. I've been getting some serious pressure from BIL and SIL, who got married when they were 18. Their oldest is turning 10 this weekend and they are 31. DH and I's lives are VERY different than theirs is/was though. And they just don't get it.
In all honestly, I have zero interest in being a mother right now. Less than zero, if that is possible. My friend just had her first baby last April. She was 31, and is one of the best mothers I know. You've got time, and early isn't always best. When the time is right, you'll know.
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DH and I are both about to turn 27 and we are waiting until we are at least 30 to even start thinking about TTC. Yes, I do get a little scared when I think about whether or not that decision will have any effect on how easily we'll get pregnant. BUT I figure it's better to wait until we're really ready- have a house and a stable income and are psychologically ready to be parents. I'm in the middle of starting a new career and I don't want to raise kids while I'm trying to get that going- I want my kids to know that their mom loves her job and to be proud of me for doing something I love. And I would rather we take our chances with conception than have a baby too early and end up resenting each other and be stressed out all the time because we rushed into things.
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