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Kinky Sex....?
So my Dh and I have only been with each other sexually. We have a good sex life but its the same thing over and over... We would both like to try something new or kinky or whatever but we have no idea what that would be!? Since we have only been with each other we dont really know a lot about sex outside of what we have... which is pretty uneventful, I mean its great and I love it, but we wanna spice things up. So does anyone have any ideas or suggestions that we could try? Awkward I know... but what better place to ask then here right?
Re: Kinky Sex....?
Oh my so many ideas. I loved the flavoured(edible) body oils. Could use it as lube for anal play or just to make a front or back massage just about the sexiest thing ever!
.. on the topic.. anal play.. from a light drag of the finger over the hole.. to a tongue or bigger.. so taboo, so fun when its new!
What positions do you do? When i figured out the scissor ( chick on her side, one leg straight on leg bent, like a lay down run, the guy on his knees givin'er.. HOT! really deep posn too.
SHowe rsex? Kitchen sex?
Toys..? I'm nto a big fan, i love sex.. straight up in the flesh.
Watch a sexy porn you both agree on.. try out something they do?
I've got tons more ideas.. depending on how adventurous you want to get!
GL
sexy dinner of finger foods.. feed each other
get a massage together, then go screw, then take a steamy shower. screwing again optional
sexy lingerie
porn- stick to generic till you are used to it, then bring in the 18 year old asians with unicorns, guest starring ron jeremy.
toys toys toys
edible foreplay-- chocolate sauce, strawberries, etc
lots of candles. vanilla
sorry. DH and I were just having this convo.
go out somewhere and try to find a place to sneak off for a quickie
Buy an apron (I know it sounds weird but stay with me) and on an evening where you are home before your husband, put on a thong and the apron and cook dinner. Make sure not to have dinner done by the time you expect him home...you just want him to catch you "cooking" I'm pretty sure he wont be able to resist you-dont let it leave the kitchen-go for the table or countertop
kinky sex won't be hot unless you are comfortable. My best advice would be to watch some porn, get some ideas... or just try anything that pops into your head. confidence is what makes sex hot, not jsut where or how you do it. talking dirty and playing sexual games can be a good way for you to open up to each other and find out what the other person wants or likes... you might find things that you were too shy to express. Other than that I can just advise the classic...
Start with sex in another room, on the kitchen counter can be great, if you're feeling adventurous, try the hood of your car, or on a beach, somewhere public is always exciting. Take a trip together to some place like lovers package or another "sex shop" buy outfits, games, toys, do it all together. then you will not only open up but you will learn more about your partner
Have you thought about bringing someone else into the bedroom? That can make things really kinky if you want to experiment. There are so many things that you can do, plus it will totally help you communicate your needs.
I would want to bring another man into the bedroom, but I'm sure your H won't go for that; so you could always watch him with another woman.
Kinky sex is the work of the Devil. Don't do. Keep it to missionary only. You waited and saved yourselves for each other, don't ruin the special bond that you all have by having kinky sex. I will pray for you that you make the right decision and stay away from the kinky sex. I also hope that you have kept all sexual activity to the bedroom. That is where that type of stuff belongs.
God Bless!
Oh my God- I feel so sorry for your husband!! You obviously don't love him very much or else you would be doing what he wants. As a former escort I can ASSURE you that he wants more than one woman in the bedroom, because one is never enough.
You should probably start looking at your bank records, as he is most definitely cheating on you. Especially with your ridiculous religious ideas and prudish nature. Did you know that some escorts are able to charge a credit card under a false name? So maybe he told you that he was having dinner with some buddies the other night at a local restaurant, but I would bet you that he really went to a whore house. Face it- he's sleeping with someone else.
Thank you my dear, but this is no need to feel forry for my husband. I give him all the respect that he could ever ask for. And in return, he gives me love. There is a book that can be reccommend that teaches the art of love and respect. With that, you need nothing more.
IF my DH is cheating (very big if) it would be quite difficult. I have control over all the money in the house. His name is on none of the credit cards or checking account. He gets a cash allowance every week. And I check his credit report about once a month to make sure that there are no accounts that I am aware of.
And before you ask, just because I control all the finances, doesn't mean that I don't respect him.
I will go back to my rosary and pray for your soul and I really do hope you repent before it it too late. I am sure you can find your way back, even with your horing ways.
God Bless!
With all that nonsense, I really feel bad for you H. I bet he has a whole different family on the side. Does he "work" a lot? I would definitely assume he is living a double life there is no other way around it. He probably has a whole other family and I bet his other wife isn't a prudish, frigid nun like you are!
In fact, I will start praying for you and your ridiculous controlling ways. May God show you the way to be a loving and caring wife, by sharing your H with other women.
I am not sure why you feel so sorry for my husband. He has my respect that is all he needs in life. No, he doesn't "work" a lot. And there is no travelling for his work. I know where he is at all times. He knows better then to cross me. Last time he did, let's just say he learned his lesson.
I am a loving and caring wife. And I would pray for your husband, but I am not too sure you have one. Based on your previous comments. I mean not many men will want to marry a former escort. No one, wants something that is that has been used and around the block so many times. I mean there limits when it comes to used cars. So, I am sure the same goes with women. Would a man even be able to feel anything? I am sure your Vag is super stretched by now.
God Bless!
Whatever you don't know me! You are just jealous, because I am beautiful and rich. You are just an old, bitter hag!!! My BFs love my vag!! Whatever, I still feel sorry for your H!!
To Snail:
I am very grateful that you don't know me. I do not associate with HORZ like yourself. I am neither bitter or an old hag. Just remeber that when you point a finger at some one, you have three others pointing back at you my dear. I believe that you are the one who is jealous of me and the high standards to which I live my life. Oh, wait, you don't have standards.
God Bless!
to aurora: would you stop signing your signature as God Bless! I mean seriously! There is a reason why so many people hate christians...some people give us a bad name. Sex was created for marriage, and God never put rules on it besides a.) being married and b.) being faithful to your spouse....
So what do you think about my comments to the OP for kinky sex?
Huh? This has got to be a joke.... (Newbie senses tingling...)
I am not joking in anything I said at all. And as for that frigid "Godly woman," I bet she is serious too. I've serviced all sorts of husbands that have wives like that. I see it all the time. So sad, I always feel bad for their husbands.
Oh Hunny this is slightly ridiculous...I have to agree that nowhere in the Bible does it say "Thou shall not be freaky with your husband"!!! YIKES...you obviously have some opposing reason for being on the Sex and Romance boards, hopefully not just to bash others and what they choose to do to make their normal red blooded husbands physically happy. If you choose to use the Bible for this reasoning may I suggest that you read the passage about "He who has not sinned may cast the first stone". If you truly do control ALL of the finances and and he gets an allowance, your "husband" will eventually GROW THE HELL UP and realize that you are not his mother and find a woman that treats him as an equal. There is a time and place to pray for people and really by all means pray all you want but in this forum..when you say God Bless after just judging someone..it just makes you look like a looney!!! Thanks and God Bless!!!
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I am a Christian and have no problem with mixing it up the bedroom. There is no passage in the Bible that says "thou shalt only have sex in the missionary position". That's quite the throwback to the protestant preachings of the colonial days. Sex is a wonderful gift God gave us as a way to connect with our spouse and that includes having fun with it. Try different positions! It's boring if you only have sex in one position for your entire life. You're really depriving yourself and your husband of a lot of sexual enjoyment and its unnesassary. The Bible says sex should be kept between a husbaned and wife but it doesn't give restrictions on it within a marriage.
In response to the OP's question try getting some sexy lingerie and stilletos and surprise him when he gets home from work. Or maybe even learn a sexy strip tease for him. That'll be a nice little surprise. You might feel silly doing it but I assure you he'll find it sexy!