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Do you fake it? If so why?
I was watching tv and saw the preview of some show "Parenthood". I haven't seen it but the preview was about this woman faking it and the man going around asking other women why. II don't see why we should have to fake it. Sex is a joint effort, why should I (the woman) fake it to make you(the man) feel good about yoursef. Please I am trying to get mine, just like you are trying to get yours!! If I don't get mine, oh please, you are not getting yours!!
Any thoughts???
Re: Do you fake it? If so why?
And what if he's trying his absolute hardest to please you and it just isn't working? Is it still fair for him to not get off?
When you really are sexually compatible with someone, I don't think your OP is really an issue. If I am enjoying myself, but can't O, I would never think about the man not finishing.
In answer to your OQ, I have faked it, but not with anyone I was very compatible with. I was able to be honest. That being said, with the right person, I usually have a 95 percent success rate of Oing more than once during the deed.
WTF?
Sounds ignorant.
If he doesn't care, or try, then yes it is selfish on his part too. If you have a partner who doesn't care if you get off, you have bigger problems than not having an orgasm.
Aaaaand thank you. There are times when I know I'm not going to O, but that doesn't mean I call it quits before my SO gets off.
I never said that you had to fake it. I was replying to you saying he can't get his if you don't get yours.
Wow. A few thoughts.
1. I agree that you sound selfish.
2. I rarely "O" but I enjoy sex--so I don't really freakin care if I don't.
3. H puts forth the effort...so #2 is through no fault of his.
4. Parenthood is hilarious--and the guy is talking to his sisters about the issue.
THIS!
I'm jealous. Twice? Nice.
Young and in Love.
11.07.09
After all, your merely a vessel for your husband's seed.
hahaha!! I can't believe everyone else let this one go. Hilarious.
On a side note, DH works hard to get me mine, and I typically get off way before he's ready to quit. His O is better for him if I continue to moan and groan after I'm done. It's the least I can do after the service he does for me!
Best response!
You don't have to 'O' to love sex with your husband, and there is no reason he should be blamed or punished because of it. (unless of course he's not paying attention to what you want at all)
? Parenthood! lol
It becomes necessary sometimes. However, that would be on the rarest of occasions.
I would like to ask everyone who wrote a post- Would you be ok if your DH/SO faked it?
Bingo!
1- Selfish. Yes.
2- I have NEVER "O"'d during sex, but I enjoy doing it and so does H.
3- Exactly.
4- I love that show!
I agree with this totally. Part of the reason that I am able to O most of the time is because I've never faked it and as a result my DH has learned what works and what doesn't. If you fake it, many guys will go "oh, that must have worked really well, I should do that next time", when in reality is was just OK and you would rather he not. Don't be afraid to speak up! Even if I am not particularly in the mood, I still try to make the experience as enjoyable as I can for DH, but I'm honest about not being into it too.
"O"ing vaginally can take YEARS of practice for some people--it took me a few years, and even then--it's rare. But I still enjoy sex, and don't feel short-changed if I don't "O" during sex.
I don't fake very often. Once in a while, though, I know it isn't going to happen despite my husband doing everything right so I let out a good fake. He's very stimulated by sound and usually me going gets him going too.
I don't think he has ever faked before but he has admitted on occasion that it just wasn't going to happen for him. Him not finishing doesn't seem to have the same effect on me as me not finishing has on him. If I admit it isn't going to work for me I suspect that might let some of the wind out of his sails and make things harder for him.