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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: Hot topic: not having kids- selfish or not?
I'm laughing so hard at the cowbell conversation.
Thanks everyone for sharing your opinion, especially those who shared their own stories. I think hearing your thoughts will help me to have more intelligent conversations about this topic IRL too.
TTC September 2010 thru October 2011
SA February 2011: Normal
RE App. October 2011 - Recc. Clomid and IUI
Taking a break from TTC to pursue adoption
Met our 2 year old son in Russia July 2012!
Court trip October 2012
Home November 24 2012!
adoption blog: addingaburden.com
I'm late to the topic, but I have a good example of someone who shouldn't have had kids.
My uncle married my aunt Mel. Right off the bat she said she didn't want kids. She didn't have a good home life, and ended up staying at a friend's house and the friend's parents pretty much adopted my aunt. She considered the father her "dad" and he walked her down the aisle.
Obviously I wasn't privy to their discussions, but my aunt and uncle ended up having 3 kids. Fast forward to current time. My uncle has been in jail for almost 4 years because of a car accident that killed the other driver. My aunt has mental issues but refuses to take medication. So during this time my aunt and uncle have divorced, and my aunt has full custody. My grandparents get the kids every other weekend and also are responsible for taking the kids to see their dad. The kids are majorly messed up and the court system is slow to act against the mother.
Long story short, perhaps my uncle should have really discussed her reasons for not wanting kids. Albeit you can't foresee that you're going to spend 4 years in jail which will lead to your kids really getting messed up. She is not fit to be a mother and has proven that her priorities do not lie with her children. Very sad situation all together.
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