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Re: Friday Flame Free Confessions
DH and I have been talking about moving into an apartment for a year before we buy. That way we can consider all options and save up money. Which is awesome. We'll be able to pay off my car, the motorcycle and put 20% down on a house next year if we do this.
But I'm DREADING moving into an apartment again. It's like a huge step backwards to me, and I hate the idea. But I'm super happy to be back in the Austin area in just 3 weeks!
Also, my brother's fire fighter swearing in is this saturday. My Grandfather and his wife are coming in. I LOVE my grandfather. I'd do anything for him and I'm so happy to see him. However, his wife...ugh, I can't stand the woman. My grandfather married her about a year after my grandmother died. So about 13 years ago. She's kinda nice, but if you aren't talking about her own grandkids then she doesn't want to talk to you. And she NEVER stops talking. You can't get away from this woman!
my dh SUCKS at all holidays and gift-giving opportunities. He has nothing planned for Mother's Day and just sent me an email this morning asking what I'd like for him to buy me. I shouldn't be surprised... he hasn't for the last 3 years but really? I don't know why I ever get my hopes up for birthdays, Christmas' or anything of the like. I'm in a bad mood. Not so much a confession- just whining.
eta: ali, I just saw your post and now I sound like a moron complaining. But, I don't hate the holiday. I think some people need a reason to THINK about being thoughtful to those they love who can't remember to do so throughout the year. Like my husband who fails miserably.
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So I bought the Groupon at The Crossings for my mom for Mother's Day. I also got one for myself b/c it was such a great deal. A good friend of mine also got it and wants to do it with me. I would love doing the spa day together with my mom, especially since it's a Mother's Day gift, but I think I might rather do it with my friend...
Just typing that made me feel really bad.
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Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
A little background DH has an old Jeep that he has had since High School. It has sat (not running) for about 12 of the 14 years he's had it. So, with our tax refund, we got a new motor for it and it is now running - and we are even selling his car to get out of car payments
Yes, this sounds very good and I'm thankful for not having to pay that car payment every month now, but I wish it was still not running. Every last waking moment he is away from work he is either working on it or searching online for the different things he wants for it. This part wouldn't even be so bad, but he expects me to be involved and work on it with him. AND the whole reason I was willing to spend $3K to get it running was to SAVE money, not SPEND more money.
What about a duplex or house? You can rent a duplex for about the same cost as an apartment a lot of times. It's still renting, but won't feel like such a big step backwards.
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LOL I don't think you sound like a moron
I can see how it would suck that your H always forgets, especially if you make a big deal out of Fathers day for him. And that's why DH and I agreed long ago that we wouldn't do anything for the made-up holidays, including Valentines Day.
I'm a flake. A serious flake. In the two years my sister has been in grad school, I haven't gone once to visit her. Now that she's graduating, I'm taking 3 days to go to NYC to see my very good friend (like a brother to me) and only spending 1.5 days with my sister.
I almost caved and cut my NYC trip short to spend more time with her.
I feel guilty, but my sister is moving back in less than a month and my friend moved away 2 years ago and isn't likely coming back. Plus, it's NYC, for goodness sakes! I've been to Boston a jillion times.
Anyway, I feel like a selfish sister, but I seriously need a no family/no baby/no hassle mini-vacay.
So, as part of BF's birthday gift, I gave him a night at a downtown hotel he loves. The night is coming up, and he asked if his sister and his niece could come swimming during the day at the hotel because they also love the pool area like he does.
I told him I didn't mind, and it would be fun for them to come out.
That's pretty much a lie.
As much as I enjoy spending time with his niece, I was hoping to have him to myself for our "staycation." Last night, he said he felt bad about his fam crashing our romantic weekend, and asked me again if it was okay with me.
It was my big chance! And yet. . .I know his sis and niece have had a terrible week, and would be so excited to come swimming at the hotel pool for a couple of hours. So I not only said it would be fun to have them there, but that maybe we should get them a special treat to cheer them up.
Sometimes when my brain tells my mouth to stop talking (stop talking!) I need to listen.
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I can't believe I am typing this on a public message board but I need to get it out.....
I HATE Mother's Day Weekend. Makes me feel like a total failure. I had a MAJOR breakdown about it last night.
I would love to just stay home and wallow in my self pity but we are going to MIL's house in Port O'Connor. Probably good so I won't spend an entire weekend crying.
Hate to admit this...Keith and I have been together over 6 years and this is the FIRST time I have been to MIL's house. We spend a lot of time with my parents and his dad and stepmom but rarely spend any time with his mom.
My confessions:
* Duck asked me to move in with him officially when his roommate moves out in June. We are waiting to tell the folks and waiting to see what happens with the house.
* I judge my mother for being such a judgey mcjudgerson. She's so far right Republican and her rantings are so bad it may turn me into a liberal. That being said judge the same with my brother, who is so far left liberal. Let me just tell you that family phone calls get quite interesting when those two talk.
* I feel very weirded out about being almost done with my data collection for my dissertation. It's been such a long road to get here and now there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it's not an oncoming train. Im restless because all I've really ever known is school and Im almost done for good and having trepidations about joining the work force even though I've already had a few wonderful job offers.
My hubby turned 30 on wed and we spent the whole day on the airplane flying back from China (ended up being about a 36 hr bday for him with the time changes). I forgot to even tell him happy bday until the last leg of the flight, when the pilot came onto the plane and said happy cinco de mayo. Dope - I failed.
I double failed b/c with all of the hustle/bustle of planning for the trip - i didnt get him a present, and forgot to finish planning his bday party. i've got my work cut out this weekend (after i recover from the jetlag!).
I took off the day to stay home and paint my entryway... and here I sit. I always sign up for big projects and then take for.ev.er. to finish them.
I want DH to have the rock wall for the courtyard built NOW. I want him to have the concrete poured for the back patio NOW. He wants to wait bc he has a hard time spending a lot of money at once on house projects. We have the appropriate amount for both projects without touching long-term savings. Build them NOW! (Why yes, I do sound like Veruca, even to myself right now. It's FFC, right?)
MH and I were dating long distance for the first few months after we met and I called him the morning of his birthday but forgot to say HB. I realized about an hour later and called him back - yeah, he still won't let me live that one down! I don't want to know what he'd do if I forgot for 30+ hours.
DH has been so excited about going ou t with this other couple tonight. He's been talking about it all week to make sure I rememeber, plan ahead, ect. (I'm not a last minute plans kinda gal... they send me into a spiral of panic).
Soooo. It's Friday, and I know it's tonight and I'm wishing and hoping I have to work late so I can't make it. I am so tired right now that the idea of doing my hair, or putting on jeans sounds awwwwwful.
I actually even like these friends a lot... but I'm trying to figure out ways that I can get out of it. And DH will never fall for it either. Looks like I'll be going out tonight. ugh.
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I'll be teaching in PISD so we need to be in North Austin. We found a nice apartment, 2bed/2bath with cable and internet included and a garage for $900/month. The cheapest house I've been able to find is nearly $1200, plus we'd have to get everything on top of that.
We were planning on buying our dream house, and now DH doesn't want to. I'm just really upset.
* i deleted about 20 facebook friends from high school. finally. i still have another 20 or so i'm trying to get up the courage to delete but they're the ones i was actually good friends with in high school so i feel guilty. but i haven't seen or talked to 90% of them since high school. about 5 or so i haven't talked to since our wedding 4 years ago.
* there is a popular food blogger on the nest who's blog i just don't like. i constantly see recipe raves and people saying how much they like said blog and it annoys me. i just don't get it.
* i hate how my mom acts all like mother's day isn't a big deal. but if we weren't coming to visit, she'd be pissed at me for months (like the last time i missed mother's day because i was in Singapore) sigh. last fight with my mother: her getting pissed we were coming to town for her bday the weekend AFTER her bday instead of the weekend before. DH & I celebrate our birthdays next week & the week after. i gave her the choice: celebrate ours this weekend or not until Father's Day weekend. not surprisingly she chose june. claiming its cause my dad will be here. but i know her. she's still pissed off about her bday.
haha ok that confession turned into a vent
I was subbing on Wednesday, the lead teacher was gone but her teaching assistant was still there and was leading the class. For some reason she brought her mom with her...it was really bizarre.
Anyway, her mom was a NIGHTMARE to have in class. It was probably one of the rowdier classes I've dealt with, but she apparently decided that since she was a mom she could just raise her voice and they would all fall into place...which is SO not how these kiddos operate. If you respect them and model respectful behavior they will reciprocate, but she just would not listen to me when I told her that and kept getting flustered and horrified when the kids gave her the, "who the hell do you think you are?" attitude in response to her ridiculous classroom management tactics.
Ladies, this woman was just supposed to be there to observe, not say a word, and she managed to piss me off more than any student ever has. Her daughter was having a hard time getting everyone to settle down so this awful woman grabs this kid by the arm and says, "HEY! Do you speak English?! THEN WHY AREN'T YOU SITTING DOWN LIKE SHE SAID? IS IT TOO HARD FOR YOU? DON'T YOU SPEAK ENGLISH?!?!"
...I had to fight the urge to slap her across the face. I may not be their permanent teacher but I love the kids at this high school. Nobody freaking talks to them like that in front of me. Ugh. Don't know what I'll do if I see her face again.
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I usually like celebrating things, anything. But, DH's family celebrates everything in a break-the-bank manner. It has made me come to loathe Mother's Day, Father's Day, their birthdays, any day that is cause for celebration. Besides just the amount of money that you are expected to spend, a lot of stress comes from "wth do we get for people that have everything and if they wanted something they'd just buy it themselves anyway." My mom is getting a phone call, which will be just fine for her. Still don't know what we're doing for MIL, but I kind of feel like just leaving it up to DH.
And, all I want is a whole day to myself, with no responsibilities or time-limits. That's not the point of Mother's Day and I feel bad for feeling this way. Instead we'll be with the IL's and I'll be smiling and nodding.
I secretly hope my BIL divorces his wife. Well, not so secretly, actually...since the rest of the family feels the same way. Even DH's parents, and that's totally unlike them because they are the nicest people in the world. Seriously would never hurt a fly. But we are all just so tired of SIL controlling BIL, verbally bashing him in front of others, conniving to keep him from spending time with his family, and just generally being a self-absorbed pretentious snob. BIL is graduating from med school this weekend, and ALL she EVER talks about is how he's a fancy doctor and how rich he will be and how fab her life will be after graduation, with all her diamonds and fancy doctor's wife parties. He's an intern, for chrissake. I don't know where she gets these ideas.
I also hope he figures this out and decides to divorce her before he really does become a fancy rich doctor, so she doesn't take all his money in the divorce.
is this the couple who refuse to dress their kid in pink, even though she's a girl?
No! they're just a little crazy, not aholes. This is the bro without kids. yet.
ah, ok! let's hope they don't have kids if they do end up divorcing.
they just started building a house, so sadly, MIL thinks a baby will follow shortly thereafter. MIL is so upset by her...and you've met my MIL, so you know she's such a nice person she could not say a bad thing about anyone!
I've been kind of overwhelmed with life lately and I've been letting some things slip. I had a stack of paperwork sitting on the kitchen counter that I needed to deal with - I finally got to it today. Turns out that one thing was time-sensitive, and I lost a $50 "discount" through Progressive because I didn't return the forms soon enough. I called and tried to give a little sob story to see if they'd give it back, but they won't. I didn't really push for it though because it really is completely my fault.
I hate wasting money, especially when it's because of something so dumb that could have easily been taken care of. Blech.