November 2008 Weddings
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Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Uncharted Territory
So I wrote up a big long post last night that was basically a letter to my husband, reread it about 4 times and deleted it. Long story short: I'm seeing a counselor, he won't go (thinks they are a waste of money and time) and things in our marriage have gone from bad to worse. He's pushed me away emotionally, physically..pretty much every way and though I've tried to get to the bottom of things and work through things, he just doesn't seem to want to acknowledge that we have some serious issues. In the meantime, I'm seeing the counselor, who is really helping me get my head clear. I'm pretty sure I know where this is headed and will most likely not be a "Novembie" much longer. I know I don't post a lot, but I do read everything and think you girls are the best.
Re: Uncharted Territory
Don't give up!
R and I entered counseling in January . . . and thank goodness we did! Sometimes we go together, sometimes separately . . . but its not easy.
Its not uncommon for one spouse to not want to begin counseling when the other does. The important thing is that you go and you work on whats best for you. Hopefully he will come around.
I can't tell you for sure it will get better, but I can tell you that counseling is the best thing I have ever done for myself, my husband, my marriage or my daughter.
Keep your chin up, you know you have friends here no matter what!
This! We are here for you!
Sorry you're having such a rough time right now. I hope things work out the best they can for you. Just know we're here for you no matter what. Once a Novembie, always a Novembie!
I can't say more than what all the other girls have.
We're always here for you.
Honey, I am so sorry. Long before I was a Novembie, I was an Octoberie - which is just to say that we are here (with some experience) to help you through this, just like we were for the wedding planning. Even moreso now because I feel I can be much more helpful with this topic than I could about jordan almond colors or invitation wording.
Feel free to vent or ask for help or t&p anytime. Here's some Novembie vibes just because ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
I've been absent for the past week and half but I wanted to pop in and say I'm glad you're going to counseling, even if he won't go. You're right, it will clear your head and help you feel more confident about whatever choices you make. I'm glad you've recognized its ok to ask for help.
Regardless of what happens, we're here and you'll still be a novembie.