Sex & Romance
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Re: How often does your husband go to strip clubs?
He doesn't go at all, by choice. He thinks they're a waste of money and if he's going to look at a naked chick then he'd rather it be his own wife. His friends have asked (some go like every weekend) but he always declines.
He used to go when single but stopped when we got together. Fine by me, I hate them. Plus I once jokingly said that if he ever goes to a strip club, then I'm gathering up the girls and going to one with naked men (it was a joke because I would never actually do it). But the thought grossed him out so much that I think it scarred him from ever going to a strip club.
This! I don't "forbid" him to do anything. He chooses not to go to a strip club because he has chosen to only look at one woman like that -- me! If he did decide to go to one, I wouldn't be thrilled, but it would be his choice!
Every so often we go together. I think girls are pretty (although I have no lesbian tendencies) and I like to look at other girls for their beauty value. (I know, I know, not all strippers are beautiful). We also make up fun games like "Who's are real??" and "Whats her back story?". You would be amazed how funny and non awkward this is. DH likes that he gets to indulge in one of his guilty pleasures occasionally and I like it cuz I'm not left out and we do it together. We don't like the "sleezy" ones where the girls look like trash. As a matter of fact, we went up to DC for New Years and spent an hour looking for a cool place to hang...everything was SOO crowded and over-hyped. Believe it or not, we ended up in a strip club that was spacious, had plenty of seating, cocktails, and there was some "entertainment" to view if the conversation lulled. I had a blast!
THIS
The Art of Living
Ditto.
I wouldn't have married someone who wanted to go to strip clubs. DURR. Dating isn't rocket science.
DH has gone to them in the past, for the rare bachelor party or while was serving overseas and he and his buddies were on leave. There are some interesting stories from those days but even those were rather few and far between.
He has not been to one since we have been together (either dating or married). Not because I don't allow him to. He can certainly go if he would like. I'd go with him even.
I expect there will be another time when he does go to one again as a buddy has a bachelor party at one or something. But he's just not that into it. I mean, he likes to look at naked women and all but he finds strip clubs rather over-hyped, and most have a rather seedy element (i.e. most of them are owned up here by certain criminal elements) as well as are just....well, questionable. We both can see just as much on TV, or at a show in Vegas, and get a better show out of it too.
He'd rather stay home and have me dance (or dance for me). Without the risk of an eye injury from loonies being thrown around.
I would not have dated, or married, someone who was a frequent visitor to strip clubs though or considered it an important hobby in their life. I would have found that a bit questionable.he and his friends get together in Vegas once or twice a year and usually end up going. ::shrug:: no biggie.
and to the 30% of you that said you don't allow it? WTF? that's pretty indicative of a controlling, unhealthy relationship.
Tell him he can't do something? Really? He'd do it just to anger me.
But never. I want to go though. Just to see what it's all about.
Me too. He didn't even have a bachelor party because he just didn't want one. He's not into drinking and clubs and that whole scene.
I answered 1-2 times a year, but it is really more like once every few years for a bachelor party or something. I think he went every few months or so in his early 20's- way before me! He isn't that into it anymore but I don't really care if he goes.
His best friend is not allowed to go. His bachelor party was in Vegas and the friend stayed behind in the hotel while the group went out. He was almost not allowed to go to Vegas and tried to talk DH out of a Vegas party because he knew it would be an issue.
We call it the "ballet." I tell him I picture it like going to the ballet. You are sitting in the audience watching all the dancers up on the stage. I know it isn't really like that, but that is a nicer picture than having a girl's ta-tas in his face!
Mine too! Although I'm pretty sure if it was a BBW/plus size strip club he'd be there in a heartbeat!
He also knows if he ever wanted to go all he had to do was tell me and that I'd probably go with him. LOL
This.
I said 1-2 times. Since we've been together he has been twice. Once is when we were first together and we went out with his friends and the idea got thrown out to go and we went. I paid for him to get in. It was actually funny to go. One of his friends bought us a couple lap dance. It did get us in the mood and we went home and it was a steamy night.
The other time he went was for his bach party. He didn't even stay out the whole night. He called me that night to come pick him up bc he wanted to be home with me.
I trust him very much and if he wanted to go with his buddies I would let him go or go with him just bc he would want me to. I would NEVER tell him what to do. He is his own man and I know he loves me and will come home to me.
Those who say you would never allow him need to get some self esteem or something.
Ditto this.