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Re: I know I find this horrifying

  • WTF. Seriously. WTF.
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  • what?!?!  I didn't finish reading, did she do anything about it other than have her husband say "thtop it!"

    If no, than she's allowing it to continue...

  • I wouldn't ever leave the kid with the ILs, even if FIL was there. I wouldn't stop worrying the whole time.

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  • That is crazy.  I wouldn't feel comfortable leaving the kid alone with grandma.

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  • Gah!

    My best friend is a social worker, and she once had a client who told her she fellated her grandson in order to soothe him when he was an infant.  Told my friend it was a common practice in the old country.

  • That's disgusting.  That woman would never set eyes on my child again.


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    The nerve!
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  • No no no no no.

  • Kay. KayKayKayKayKay....
    some things are best left unsaid.
    Some things can never be forgotten and that effing doozie will haunt me till I'm 94.

  • I really wanted to play it off like I thought this was no big deal to freak you guys out, but I got nauseous just trying to come up with what to say about it.  That is flat out disgusting.  I'm not sure I would be maintaining any sort of relationship with my MIL if I had to constantly worry about her lack of boundaries and common sense.  

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  • Kay! UGH! My eyebrows are so furrowed in disgust they may reach my chin.
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  • i would immediately punch her in teh face and there would be ZERO discussion to my husband about it.   I DON'T GIVE A FLYINGFUCK WHO'S MOTHER SHE IS, I am quite capable of making the long term decision on this one without a fuckingfamily meeting.
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  • She called a hotline and was told that it's molestation only if g-ma is doing it for her own sexual gratification.  Technically true I suppose but I do wonder if she would have gotten the same response if it was a g-pa kissing a girl baby's privates.

    And Kay. OMG.

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  • imageKayRI:

    Gah!

    My best friend is a social worker, and she once had a client who told her she fellated her grandson in order to soothe him when he was an infant.  Told my friend it was a common practice in the old country.

    Wha?  That is beyond insane. 

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  • Later she says some stuff that makes it pretty clear this isn't just innocent boundary issues.

    He did say once that he thinks he was abused and when he gets drunk he says all sorts of wild stuff like "you should be able to trust your mom" and "what do penises have to do with Christmas. There should be no penises at Christmas" WTF?!? But, when I press for more info he clams up.

     


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  • Regardless of if it's defined as molestation, it's entirely innapropriate. If anyone in my family put their mouth near my kids' genitals like that, they would never see us again.
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  • imageFallinAgain:

    She called a hotline and was told that it's molestation only if g-ma is doing it for her own sexual gratification.  Technically true I suppose but I do wonder if she would have gotten the same response if it was a g-pa kissing a girl baby's privates.

    And Kay. OMG.

    see this seems wrong. a kid would not know the difference, one. two, how do you know for sure that isn't part of it. and three, plenty of people rape and molest for power, not sexual gratification. the act, not the motivation, shoud be the issue

  • Yeah, there wouldn't have been much discussion. Grandma would have zero alone time with him, and she wouldn't be changing anymore diapers even with me present. 
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  • imageSarahBethBR:

    Later she says some stuff that makes it pretty clear this isn't just innocent boundary issues.

    He did say once that he thinks he was abused and when he gets drunk he says all sorts of wild stuff like "you should be able to trust your mom" and "what do penises have to do with Christmas. There should be no penises at Christmas" WTF?!? But, when I press for more info he clams up.

     

    now i jugde him

  • Can somebody please find my eyebrows?  They have raised so high that I'm going to need a ladder to get them back down.  The "no penises at Christmas" thing especially.  Yikes.  YIKES.  Forget not leaving the kid alone with MIL.....MIL shouldn't be around anybody.
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  • Holy cow.  Yeah, grandma would not be allowed around my kid. 
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  • this is making me feel so icky inside.

     

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  • I would kick off, what a freak.
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  • No penis on Christmas?

    Yea, something is wrong with the H. 

  • The fact that her apology included "when I show my boys affection" makes me wonder what other inappropriate ways she shows affection.

    If my H was saying crap like hers when he got drunk, I'd be driving him to a therapist the next day.

    I'm pretty sure it's pronounced your mom's a moron and if you didn't have your name legally changed by the age of 22, so are you. Unless you're from another continent. -Groomz
  • I have no words.

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  • I really want to understand why so many peoples' response is "I would not leave my kid alone with MIL ever again."  Because my gut response would be to cut MIL out completely.  What sort of relationship could you maintain with a woman who you can't trust with your kid and maybe even molested your H?  Why would you want to maintain any contact with someone like that?
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  • imageCaliopeSpidrman:
    I really want to understand why so many peoples' response is "I would not leave my kid alone with MIL ever again."  Because my gut response would be to cut MIL out completely.  What sort of relationship could you maintain with a woman who you can't trust with your kid and maybe even molested your H?  Why would you want to maintain any contact with someone like that?

    I agree 100%  

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  • Well, my response was to the OP's mention that she'd had her H call his dad to tell him that he couldn't leave his mom alone with the baby. But yes, I personally wouldn't want that sort of person in my life or my family's life.

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  • her husband seriously needs therapy. if my H was molested by a family member and allowed them to be around our child and didn't confront the issue for our child, that would make me seriously concerned
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