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Captain

I saw you comment in another post so I wanted to check and see how everything was going. Any idea when you will be back home? How is your son doing?

Re: Captain

  • Everything's going great, thanks for asking!  We applied for his visa yesterday, and are hoping his medical results get to the embassy soon so we can schedule our interviews (the last step before they issue the visa).  So right now, we're just waiting around hoping the phone will ring.  We're expecting to return home sometime next week!  Party!!!

    M is adjusting well.  Right now it's sometimes tough because of the language barrier and the fact that he doesn't have space to run around, other kids to play with, or much of an idea of how to entertain himself without us.  My husband is working some from the apartment now, and it's tough to keep M busy all day without using tv or the computer (he's limited to 30 minutes a day of English-only videos).  For that reason, among others, I can't wait until we return home where he will have more space, a few more toys and books, and be completely surrounded by English.

    He's a great kid--probably the most compastionate person I have ever met.  He's constantly thinking of others and is very caring and giving.  He loves to help out around the apartment and is very well behaved.  He's very loving, and just an all-around sweetie.  We are so lucky to have him as our son!

  • I need to stop reading these updates at work, I get all teary! That's so amazing, I'm so happy for you to return home!
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  • That is all so wonderful! I am tearing up right now. He is very lucky to have you guys.
  • Sounds like things are going really well for you guys!  Do you think he's feeling secure that you guys aren't going to take off on him like the last family did?
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  • These always warm my heart. Don't stop sharing CS!

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  • Your updates make me so happy.  Even with the inevitable bumps that will come along with the adjustment, it's just everything it should be for all of you.
  • imageCaliopeSpidrman:
    Sounds like things are going really well for you guys!  Do you think he's feeling secure that you guys aren't going to take off on him like the last family did?

    Not entirely, Cali.  He's still having some nightmares and is always asking about when we will leave.  When I mentioned something about packing the other day, he wanted to know if it was because we were leaving that day or the next.  I don't think he will be totally secure about it until we're home for a little bit.

    But he is getting more secure when one of us isn't around.  Now we can take shifts with him in the morning or evening or one of us can go out with him, and he's not worried that the other won't be there when we return.  So it's getting better.

  • imageCaptainSerious:

    When I mentioned something about packing the other day, he wanted to know if it was because we were leaving that day or the next.

    Oh, my heart.  It hurts.

    Poor M.  I'm so glad he found such amazing parents in you guys!


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  • I am so happy for you CS. These updates are wonderful!

     

    imageCaptainSerious:

    imageCaliopeSpidrman:
    Sounds like things are going really well for you guys!  Do you think he's feeling secure that you guys aren't going to take off on him like the last family did?

    Not entirely, Cali.  He's still having some nightmares and is always asking about when we will leave.  When I mentioned something about packing the other day, he wanted to know if it was because we were leaving that day or the next.  I don't think he will be totally secure about it until we're home for a little bit.

    But he is getting more secure when one of us isn't around.  Now we can take shifts with him in the morning or evening or one of us can go out with him, and he's not worried that the other won't be there when we return.  So it's getting better.

    Just curious, does this mean it will be a while before you can both leave him at the same time? Do you both work? How will that go when you get back home?

  • Yes, we both work. I will take maternity leave until M starts school, and then will try to work part-time until January so that we can avoid after school programs as much as possible until then. It's recommended with older child adoptions that they don't have anyone other than the parents filling the role of caregiver for the first 6 months or so, because they are used to many people helping them but not to bonding to just one or two.
  • That makes a lot of sense. I am glad you have a plan to help with that!
  • Here's some happy stuff! I'm so so so happy for you guys, CS. What a lucky little boy M is.
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  • Well I am full blown crying. Captain, are you going to share some family pictures once home?

     

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