May 2010 Weddings
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Re: POLL: Dwelling before marriage?
Awesome first post.....
All kidding aside, some of my absolute favorite people on this board that are REGULARS that I "talk" to almost everyday are regular church-going, very religious people and I love them to death!! Not living together and not having premarital sex was not in MY plan. My life is so much better for being the way that it has been. Not saying that it should have been that way for everyone, but my life-style has made me the better (and quite awesome actually) person that I am today. My wedding day/night was the absolute best time of my life. Yeah we weren't each others' firsts, but we still had the most amazing night of our lives.
He moved in with me after 13 months of dating (we were engaged for a little over 1 month by then)... By the time we're married, we will have been living together for 14+ months.
The hard part is that his parents think we live in separate rooms, and have not...consumated our relationship. It's hard to keep it a big secret, and we have a long time to keep it!
I don't regret anything
We've lived together for 5 years, and I'm glad. The first year or two of getting to know each other and our habits and rituals was challenging, but completely do-able. Living together gave us a chance to really see if our relationship was headed for the long run or not. Happily, it's stronger and better than ever.
BTW - where do you guys find those cute badges/icons you're putting in your signature? And where can I learn all the acronyms everyone uses around here?
At first I was totally against moving in before we were married because of religious beliefs and family. However, my fiance put a down payment on a house in June before we were engaged. I still had no plans of moving in. We got engaged in July and closed on the house in Oct. We did a lot of work on the house for the next couple months. I started the police academy and he worked on moving in. He was moved in by Dec and due to the fact that we had a puppy and he worked 24 hr shifts as a firefighter, it seemed like our lives would be easier if I moved in to help out. I was moved in by January. By the time we get married in April we will have been living together for a year and 3 months.
As much as I was against it in the beginning, I feel like we made the right decision for us and I wouldnt change it.
@...the girl who asked about the adjustment period:
Well, hon, when I figure it out, I'll tell you.
Basically I keep reminding myself that I had a lot of really great reasons for marrying him, and that whatever is ticking me off is probably not as big as those were. I have also, on occasion, looked down at my wedding ring, gritted my teeth, and said to myself "too late to back out now"! Haha! I'm sure he's had similar moments. It's getting better every day.
@...the person who asked about my flowers:
I don't remember all of them. I know that there were snapdragons (blue and white), roses, and some thistle. I think the snapdragons were the ones that showed up the most in the photos.
@stu: You make me laugh.
I'm a very open-minded person and believe that God will bless anyone no matter what their living situation is before getting married. After all, He loves everyone no matter what their views are.
LOL, i know that feeling. They often say the 1st year of marraige is the toughest, and i'm sure it's because of that. We've been living together for 3 years now, of which we will be engaged 1,5 years before the wedding, in December.
it was REALLY so tough in the beginning. Glad we're comfortable in each other's space now.