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My mom gives great advice
I posted about it on ML the other day, but in case you don't hang on my every word on other boards, I've been dealing with clinical depression. I'm in treatment, and it's going really really well. I have an excellent therapist and the meds are really helping.
But I have gotten some really great advice from my mom about how to deal with it.
First, literally the FIRST thing she said to me when I told her I was seeing a psychiatrist was "I hate the thought of you on all those medications so young. It's disgusting." Way to cheer up the depressed girl mom.
Since then, I've gotten:
-join community theater (which practices while I'm at work, see below why I shouldn't worry about that)
-believe in God and I wouldn't feel so bad (note: go to church might actually be good advice, but this was more like a Jesus will cure you thing, not to mention I can't just turn on religious belief like a switch)
-get a maid (?)
-quit my job
-quit my job and move in with them
-we had one conversation where I'm almost positive she was strongly hinting that it wouldn't be so bad to get a divorce
-And the kicker, she suggested that I get rid of my owl collection, because she heard owls are bad luck and maybe that was what caused it
Re: My mom gives great advice
I think your mom needs a psychiatrist of her own. She sounds a little crazycakes.
I'm sorry you're dealing with depression
Is it because you didn't make it on American Idol? Any excuse for me to punch Ryan Seacrest in the face is a welcome opportunity for me!
But I'm glad things seem to be going well with your treatment so far. It can be a bit of a rough road (especially with a mom who's so supportive), but it sounds like you're well on your way. Best of luck with everything!
Sounds like you need to limit your conversations with your mother to talking about the weather.
I hope your treatment continues to go well.
I get to laugh at all this, right? Are you finding her suggestions so crazy that you just roll your eyes and ignore them, or do they fill you with murderous rage?
If only you had thought to get rid of the owl collection instead of pumping your young body full of medications. Tsk tsk.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
no, no..! This is good stuff!
This is so bad it's laughable. Talk to her everyday as a reminder that there are people in far worse states of mind.
Sorry you're going through some tough times, button. It sounds like you really got it by the ballsack though. Good for you!
I'm pretty sure this is what triggered my deep dark spiral. Damn reality television! (I actually started treatment that week)
Yeah, I didn't want to tell her yet but I had an appointment while she was here and she asked what it was for. I was evasive and when she concluded that we were trying to get pregnant, I decided I would rather clue her in than deal with "are you pregnant yet?" every few days.
It turned out, I got the best of both worlds, because when I mentioned I wasn't feeling well the other day she was like, "OH MY GOD COULD YOU BE PREGNANT?!? I bet your meds aren't good for THE BABY!!!!"
Now she's just getting "fine" when she asks how it's going, after she googled one of my meds and called asking if I had epilepsy (which is it's primary, but not only indicated use).
The nerve!
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Laugh, Cali. Laugh.
I laughed in her face (well, phone) at the owl one and she was not very happy.
The nerve!
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With such an encouraging mother, I don't see how you could possibly be depressed.
My mom pulls some of the same shiit. She gets all "TRUST IN THE LORD, Lisa!" with me and when something doesn't go well, she asks me if I prayed about it. I don't know when she got all freaky religious, but she certainly wasn't like that when I was growing up. She used to drop me off at church but never go in. Moms are wierd.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
Sorry you are in a bad way right now though. Good for you for doing something about it instead of wallowing in it, and I am happy you seem to be on the up and up.
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Lisa, my mom doesn't go to church, and we stopped as a family when I was like 7. I think my mom feels bad that she raised two heathen children.
Thanks for the words of encouragement, guys. I wallowed in it for long enough, though. It had just gotten to the point where I couldn't ignore it anymore.
The nerve!
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Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
Sorry to hear about that SB! But, I'm really sorry to hear that you have that type of "support" to deal with.
Good luck with the treatment and meds.
Going by your mom's logic, Ryker's gor some tough days coming.
That's one of the strangest things I've ever heard
You know, she really may have something with the owls.
a) owls are birds. Birds are vengeful bastards. Everyone knows that.
b) a proof for you:
1) Owls can turn their heads 3/4 of the way around.
2) When people are possessed, they can spin their heads all the way around. The Exorcist taught me that. Therefore
3)Owls are 75% possessed by Satan.
In all seriousness, I'm sorry you're dealing with depression, but happy to hear that you are dealing with it. Meds helped me in one of my darker periods. Meds helped so many of my loved ones. I hope you start feeling better soon.
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11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
Lisa, I think it usually means the same things as "diagnosable" ie, bad enough to interfere with your daily life. Unlike "man I'm depressed that I didn't get that raise."
Sorry SB. At least you're at a stage in life where you can see she's nuts.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Clinical depression is a long term medical condition. I don't really know who to describe it except to say it lasts a long time and affects you in a lot of ways.
Like mouse said, it's just a way that I guess doctors separate it from feeling sad for a few days and then feeling back to normal.
And seriously, thanks everybody. I haven't really told anybody so it's nice to hear some words of (non-insane) encouragement from someone other than Brett. He's noticed a real difference, which feels really good, because I know it has been really hard on him as well.
You guys are awesome.
The nerve!
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If I were a man (or fitty) I'd totally call my penis THE WIZARD - HappyTummy
Aww SB that is nice to hear. Mr. Mod was all, but you shouldn't take pills to make you happy and I had to explain they wouldn't make me happy. They would help balance my emotions so that they were inline with the circumstances.
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If I were a man (or fitty) I'd totally call my penis THE WIZARD - HappyTummy
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
Thanks for the education. Do you think this is something that will always be with you and you just have to manage it depending on your life stressors at the time? Like, once you work through some issues you might be able to go unmediated, but if you are feeling yourself slipping you will go back on meds? I'm just genuinely curious - I am in no way suggesting you should/shouldn't be medicated.
11/11/11 = 5 years. Woah!
Hmmm, I already eat a banana every day but maybe another one couldn't hurt.
I forgot another nice conversation.
After the panicked phone call asking if I had epilepsy, I asked her why she was googling my medications anyway. She said that she felt like I was hiding things from her, and she wished that we still had the kind of relationship where I shared everything with her. I said something about being an adult and relationships changing and she said, "but you've never kept things from me before. I just meant the last few weeks"
Um. Yes, I have. You just didn't know about them because I kept them from you.
And Mod. YES. I did the "I'm fine" crying so many times. And the biitch of it was I couldn't even tell why I was crying. Nothing is wrong in my life.
The nerve!
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You need some Kazakhstan potassium. All other potassium is inferior.
Honestly, it sounds like your mom is going through something of her own. She would probably benefit from some counseling of her own.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
SB, why are you even wasting your time going to a doctor? It seems like you're getting all the answers from your mom for free!
Although, owls do freak me out, and a maid would be freaking awesome, so maybe she has something going there . . .
Tell her you'll move back home if she hires a maid and you can bring your owl collection. Once she's agreed to that it's probably okay to discuss your altar to Hecate.
I've been through this me'self and if I can help or answer questions, just let me know.
"The meek shall inherit the earth" isn't about children. It's about deer. We're all going to get messed the fuckup by a bunch of cloned super-deer.- samfish2bcrab
Sometimes I wonder if scientists have never seen a sci-fi movie before. "Oh yes, let's create a super species of deer. NOTHING COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG." I wonder if State Farm offers a Zombie Deer Attack policy. -CaliopeSpidrman
Before DH was diagnosed with depression, he was speaking with his mother about and it and she told him he'd feel much better if he lost weight. Like weight loss was the key to everything. He had thyroid cancer and has extreme difficulty losing weight and keeping it off. He is very sensitive about this. Way to go MIL. Kick him while he's down. I was livid.
Hope you feel better SB. I'm sorry you're mom is being stupid. The owls thing cracked me up though.
owls? my kid is sooo fukced
i am so sorry you are struggling, but i think i might know the origin of your issues.
i wish you a smooth treatment and recovery.